Dealing with your ex-husband, who can't seem to show up reliably for weekends with the kids; navigating a workplace fraught with office politics or racial tensions; saying "I'm sorry" or "I love you". We all have difficult conversations, no matter how confident or competent we are. And too often, no matter what we try, things don't go well. Should you say what you're thinking and risk starting a fight? Swallow your views and feel like a doormat? Or should you let them have it? But--what if you're wrong? Difficult Conversations shows you a way out of this dilemma; it teaches you how to handle even the toughest conversations more effectively and with less anxiety. Based on fifteen years of work at Harvard Negotiation Project and consultations with thousands of people, the authors answer the question: When people confront the conversations they dread the most, what works? Difficult Conversations walks you through a proven, concrete, step-by-step approach for understanding and conducting tough conversations. It shows you how to get ready, how to start the conversations in ways that reduce defensiveness, and how to keep the conversation on a constructive track regardless of how the other person responds. Whether you're dealing with your baby-sitter or biggest client, your boss or your brother-in-law, Difficult Conversations can help.
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"This book is written with business communication in mind, but applies very well to personal relationships as well. It gives example dialogues of conversations that are difficult to talk about (someone didn't do their part on a project, hurt your feelings, etc). It then provides strategies for how to listen, ask questions, and ultimately have these difficult conversations turn out successfully."
— Beth (4 out of 5 stars)
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— Lily, 1/22/2014" A solid book on how to have real and meaningful conversations. I see this working best within families (say Mother to Daughter). "
— Corey, 1/19/2014" This one is good. I am a confrontation avoider, and this is really giving me some great insights into myself and real lessons on how I can bring up tough subjects with people I care about (and people I don't). "
— Katharine, 1/9/2014" There is some useful information here, and at least one tip I would like to try. However, I didn't feel like this was particularly earth shattering. Perhaps it's because its been floating out there for a while and I have already heard about some of the methods/thought. Maybe I'm a better communicator that I realized or I'm just in denial about my communication skills. There are a couple of things I'm going to jot down for future reference, but I don't think it's likely I'll be reading this again. "
— Marjanne, 1/8/2014" The book is a good read. It is applicable not only when dealing with employees and colleagues. It is most especially helpful in dealing with your loved ones and taking care of your relationships. "
— Yan, 1/7/2014" Bloody self help book. All common sense and impossible to follow. "
— Zia, 12/28/2013" Powerful guide for becoming a better manager, friend, human being. "
— Niniane, 11/4/2013" Excellent! I love the way the chapters and sections of this book are broken into small segments... it makes the book easy and quick to read. Great examples and suggestions on how to handle conflict. "
— Marlena, 10/30/2013" Recommended reading before every extended family holiday gathering! "
— Hikerdee, 10/21/2013" Everybody should read this book! It gives you the tools needed to have conversations that are constructive and beneficial rather than destructive and toxic. Highly recommended! "
— Megan, 10/6/2013" This book helps you change your perspective so that you can communicate productively with people who have hurt you or people you have hurt. "
— reed, 7/27/2013Douglas Stone is co-author with Sheila Heen of the New York Times Business Bestseller Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters Most, a Principal at Triad Consulting, and has been teaching negotiation at Harvard Law School for twenty years.
Sheila Heen is co-author with Douglas Stone of the New York Times Business Bestseller Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters Most, a Principal at Triad Consulting, and has been teaching negotiation at Harvard Law School for twenty years.