Mating in Captivity: In Search of Erotic Intelligence Audiobook, by Esther Perel Play Audiobook Sample

Mating in Captivity: In Search of Erotic Intelligence Audiobook

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Read By: Esther Perel Publisher: HarperAudio Listen Time: at 1.0x Speed 5.50 hours at 1.5x Speed 4.13 hours at 2.0x Speed Release Date: September 2006 Format: Unabridged Audiobook ISBN: 9780061243608

Quick Stats About this Audiobook

Total Audiobook Chapters:

48

Longest Chapter Length:

16:42 minutes

Shortest Chapter Length:

21 seconds

Average Chapter Length:

10:14 minutes

Audiobooks by this Author:

2

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Publisher Description

A New York City therapist examines the paradoxical relationship between domesticity and sexual desire and explains what it takes to bring lust home.

One of the world’s most respected voices on erotic intelligence, Esther Perel offers a bold, provocative new take on intimacy and sex. Mating in Captivity invites us to explore the paradoxical union of domesticity and sexual desire, and explains what it takes to bring lust home.

Drawing on more than twenty years of experience as a couples therapist, Perel examines the complexities of sustaining desire. Through case studies and lively discussion, Perel demonstrates how more exciting, playful, and even poetic sex is possible in long-term relationships. Wise, witty, and as revelatory as it is straightforward, Mating in Captivity is a sensational book that will transform the way you live and love.

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"my feelings about this book are all over the map. at times I fervently agreed and at others I had a knee-jerk feeling of dissent which I had difficulty articulating. I guess I don't buy fully into the premise that eroticism and passion are diminished by intimacy, but I'm humble enough to admit that my thoughts on this may change over the years. anyway for the thoughtful analysis and for the good suggestions contained within, I'm comfortable giving Mating in Captivity 4 stars while reserving the right to change my mind when I reread this in a few years - and I definitely will be rereading it."

— Laurel (4 out of 5 stars)

Quotes

  • “Her advice is refreshingly counterintuitive.” 

    — Salon.com 
  • “An elegant sociological study, complete with erudite literary and anthropological references.”  

    — Daily Telegraph (London)
  • “Articulates a poignant and unacknowledged modern crisis for the first time.”  

    — Evening Standard (London)
  • “So honest it hurts.”  

    — Irish Times 

Awards

  • ANPR Best Book

Mating in Captivity Listener Reviews

Overall Performance: 3.97297297297297 out of 53.97297297297297 out of 53.97297297297297 out of 53.97297297297297 out of 53.97297297297297 out of 5 (3.97)
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Narration: 4.75 out of 54.75 out of 54.75 out of 54.75 out of 54.75 out of 5 (4.75)
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Story: 4.5 out of 54.5 out of 54.5 out of 54.5 out of 54.5 out of 5 (4.50)
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  • Overall Performance: 5 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 5 Narration Rating: 5 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 5 Story Rating: 5 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 5

    — Amanda W, 2/5/2022
  • Overall Performance: 5 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 5 Narration Rating: 5 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 5 Story Rating: 5 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 5

    — riddle oz, 1/21/2022
  • Overall Performance: 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5 Narration Rating: 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5 Story Rating: 3 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 5

    — 9/20/2021
  • Overall Performance: 5 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 5 Narration Rating: 5 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 5 Story Rating: 5 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 5

    — Ahmed El Bayaa, 11/18/2015
  • Overall Performance: 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5

    " Great book for anyone planning on staying married a long time. Recommend to all my marital therapy clients. "

    — Rozzinner, 2/15/2014
  • Overall Performance: 5 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 5

    " The author does a remarkable job at articulating what you may have observed about lasting relationships. She offers practical suggestions for couples of all walks of life about how to prolong the romance. "

    — Amanda, 2/8/2014
  • Overall Performance: 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5

    " This book confirmed my beliefs about intimacy & separateness & how these pertain to a good sex life. I am glad she is not a "Just have more sex" therapist. If your sex life is lousy having more lousy sex is not the answer. Great book- I recommend it for any committed couple. "

    — Willa, 2/2/2014
  • Overall Performance: 2 out of 52 out of 52 out of 52 out of 52 out of 5

    " When you've been married for a long time, it's difficult to get passionate about your mate because lust and trust don't mix well. Tell me something new. "

    — Judith, 2/2/2014
  • Overall Performance: 5 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 5

    " Holy erotic intelligence : ) I learned so much more about what I already knew and then some. "

    — Catherine, 1/27/2014
  • Overall Performance: 3 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 5

    " Hilarious as an audiobook! "

    — Kristi, 1/14/2014
  • Overall Performance: 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5

    " Well-written and thorough exploration into the difficulties of balancing passion with domesticity. The author, a psychologist, offers case studies of her clients as well as solutions to this dilemma. "

    — Elyssa, 1/4/2014
  • Overall Performance: 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5

    " Beautiful book about maintaining the mystery, otherness, and passion in long-term relationships. "

    — Christine, 12/24/2013
  • Overall Performance: 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5

    " Discussion of how to keep passion alive in long-term relationships. Mostly very well-written. The sections on open relationships were a little narrow-minded, but it's often much worse. "

    — Rif, 11/29/2013
  • Overall Performance: 2 out of 52 out of 52 out of 52 out of 52 out of 5

    " Interesting, and thought provoking, but contains little in the way of solutions. "

    — Tara, 11/18/2013
  • Overall Performance: 1 out of 51 out of 51 out of 51 out of 51 out of 5

    " She makes a great point, that people tend to lose the will to make life exciting in favor of security once they are married. The problem was that each example she used illustrated the same point and I felt this book only needed to be a thesis. I'll try reading it again sometime, I hope. "

    — Deborah, 4/14/2013
  • Overall Performance: 5 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 5

    " A must for anyone who's in a relationship or wants to be. So, that includes about all of us. "

    — Terri, 2/3/2013
  • Overall Performance: 3 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 5

    " Interesting. Not for the faint of heart. "

    — Malineg, 1/9/2013
  • Overall Performance: 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5

    " Well - much of this book concentrates on the impact of having children on heterosexual couples. so not a great deal of it applied - BUT - the "how to retain erotic intelligence in a long term relationship is a question/situation many of find ourselves in. "

    — Robert, 12/27/2012
  • Overall Performance: 5 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 5

    " More about how to love with respect and how many versions of satisfaction people seek "

    — Naomi, 10/9/2012
  • Overall Performance: 5 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 5

    " Didn't realize that this was the same author I had seen on a TED X talk recently. Great insight. "

    — Bob, 10/3/2012
  • Overall Performance: 3 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 5

    " Ha ha I am laughing about the fact that I am reading this. A friend gave it to me and it's really quite interesting! "

    — Kate, 5/21/2012
  • Overall Performance: 5 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 5

    " Amazing read. I saw her speak and she's a gifted couples therapist and speaker. She has a special coming out on HBO next year and a few great articles on the Huffington Post. "

    — Nhd110, 5/20/2012
  • Overall Performance: 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5

    " This book is really good for those interested in a more psychological look at sex and monogamy. It's very interesting how the author explores some of the challenges married couples tend to face over time in relationships. "

    — Rosie, 3/22/2012
  • Overall Performance: 5 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 5

    " Just read it. And keep and open mind. "

    — Ioana, 9/26/2011
  • Overall Performance: 5 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 5

    " Loved it. It's a great book. If you are in a relationship, you should read this book. "

    — Daniel, 6/27/2011
  • Overall Performance: 5 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 5

    " Just read it. And keep and open mind. "

    — Ioana, 5/6/2011
  • Overall Performance: 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5

    " This book is really good for those interested in a more psychological look at sex and monogamy. It's very interesting how the author explores some of the challenges married couples tend to face over time in relationships. "

    — Rosie, 2/4/2011
  • Overall Performance: 3 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 5

    " This book was interesting given my field. I liked her approach with clients and her open minded approach to sexual taboos. Although good, I didn't find this book as fascinating as "bonk: the curious coupling of sex and science". . . "

    — Kirsti, 1/28/2011
  • Overall Performance: 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5

    " Fascinating.I had to return this to the library with about two chapters in the middle yet to read. I'd highly recommend this to anyone in a long-term relationship. Dan and I both got a lot out of it, and we are still discussing it. "

    — Andrea, 12/21/2010
  • Overall Performance: 3 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 5

    " Interesting book that got my mind going in a few different directions. I'm not sure what else to say about it, given that I actually finished it a week and a half ago, but it was definitely interesting reading. "

    — Starfire, 11/21/2010
  • Overall Performance: 5 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 5

    " I think this just changed my perceptions in a big way. Enlightening and enjoyable, with no pat advice. "

    — Sarah, 10/9/2010
  • Overall Performance: 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5

    " good read about couples therapy and how to remain connected to your partner. "

    — Terri, 1/20/2010
  • Overall Performance: 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5

    " This was a very interesting view of relationships and the valuable separateness we feel even when we're trying hardest to come together. I liked the emphasis on opening the need to keep some independence and perspective. "

    — Kj, 9/22/2009
  • Overall Performance: 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5

    " The title says it all. Writing is smart, engaging, and clear. Not self-helpy. It gets in there about a topic everyone wants to be good at - keeping it fresh and full of fire while keeping up with our adult lives. "

    — Theresa, 9/22/2009
  • Overall Performance: 3 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 5

    " I read this to help with my work as a couple's therapist. I think that anyone who reads this book would enhance their intimacy with their partner. "

    — Kimberly, 8/3/2009
  • Overall Performance: 3 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 5

    " Perel makes some interesting observations toward the end of the book, but spends a bit too much time relating anecdotes for the first 100 pages or so. "

    — Robert, 7/30/2009
  • Overall Performance: 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5

    " Great book for anyone planning on staying married a long time. Recommend to all my marital therapy clients. "

    — Rozzinner, 6/26/2009

About Esther Perel

Esther Perel is a couples and family therapist with a private practice in New York City. She is on the faculty of the International Trauma Studies program at Columbia University, is a member of the American Family Therapy Academy, and has appeared on many television programs, including Oprah, Good Day New York, CBS This Morning, and HBO’s Women Aloud.