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4.13 out of 54.13 out of 54.13 out of 54.13 out of 54.13 out of 5 4.13 (15 ratings) (rate this audio book) Author: Gordon Neufeld Narrator: Daniel Maté Publisher: Post Hypnotic Press Format: Unabridged Audiobook Delivery: Instant Download Audio Length: Release Date: April 2012 ISBN:
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Like countless other parents, doctors Gordon Neufeld and Gabor Maté have had to confront their children becoming secretive and unreachable. Focused more and more on their friends, they recoiled or grew hostile around adults. Why? The problem, Neufeld suggest, lies in attachment; children are increasingly forming stronger attachments to their friends than to the adults in their lives.

Dr. Neufeld has dubbed this phenomenon peer orientation, which refers to the tendency of children and youth to look to their peers for direction: for a sense of right and wrong, for values, identity and codes of behaviour. This peer orientation undermines family cohesion, poisons the school atmosphere, and fosters an aggressively hostile and sexualized youth culture. It provides a powerful explanation for schoolyard bullying and youth violence; its effects are painfully evident in the context of teenage gangs and criminal activity, in tragedies such as in Littleton, Colorado; Tabor, Alberta; and Victoria, B.C. It is an escalating trend that has never been adequately described or contested until Hold On to Your Kids. Once understood, it becomes self-evident - as do the solutions, none of which are impossible or even costly to undertake.

Hold On To Your Kids will restore parenting to ts natural intuitive basis and the parent-child relationship to its rightful preeminence. The concepts, principles and practical advice contained in Hold On to Your Kids will empower parents to parent and satisfy their children's inborn need to find direction by turning towards them for their source of authority, contact, and warmth. Daniel Maté's warm and sensitive narration, gift with dialogue, and engagement with the authors writing make this an enjoyable and informative listen.

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Listener Opinions

  • 5 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 5 Jo | 2/20/2014

    " Ok so this is not the best written book ever but the ideas in it are essential for any parent wanting to raise their kids in the most conscious way. It explains the whys and how's of all of those niggly gut feelings over the years that told me something was amiss in society in supporting me to parent my son. As Nuefeld says, just because something is normal it doesn't make I natural or right. I am going to buy copies of this book for every friend I know. Please read this book. "

  • 5 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 5 Celestia | 2/19/2014

    " This is what I call the Attachment Parenting book for older kids. A must read if you want to stay close to your kids as they get older. "

  • 5 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 5 Johanna | 1/16/2014

    " Absolutely fantastic book, a must-read for parents. "

  • 5 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 5 Cyndi | 12/18/2013

    " Not an easy read but so relevant. Breeze the first chapters to get to the chapters of substance. Sure to spark some controversy in every parent and may change your view on parenting. "

  • 5 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 5 Sara | 12/13/2013

    " One of my very favorite books for why we parent and educate the way we do. Not full of practical advice, but it does help me keep my eyes on the prize! "

  • 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5 Mhnd | 11/29/2013

    " As much as I love everything Gabor Mate, I'm finding this book hard to relate to given I don't have kids of my own. I'm still going to finish it as it provides great insight into human developmental psychology, which is what I'm interested in. "

  • 3 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 5 Munira | 11/21/2013

    " This book had a lot of good points in helping parents re-frame their relationship with their kids. However, I did not feel the book was balanced in its approach of how parents can treat peer relationships respective to the family. "

  • 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5 Teeni | 11/21/2013

    " Fantastic, especially the last 4 chapters. I probably liked it because it reinforced a lot of beliefs I have about raising my children, but from a different perspective. Highly recommend for all parents. "

  • 2 out of 52 out of 52 out of 52 out of 52 out of 5 reed | 11/1/2013

    " I picked this up because I heard about the author's concept of counterwill - that innate human tendency to resist when someone tries to control you. But I was turned off by his "kids these days" rhetoric. Didn't make it past the first chapter. "

  • 5 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 5 Sarah Blain | 10/21/2013

    " I'm giving this book to all my friends parenting kids with me. It is an attachment perspective on western adolescence, and resonates with my feelings about parenting. It is yet another parenting book written by a man who I suspect spends more time being a parenting expert than being with his kids. "

  • 2 out of 52 out of 52 out of 52 out of 52 out of 5 Eliana | 8/11/2013

    " I really dislike this book. I think the problem is that they are super dramatic about how friends are evil for kids...and the writing is bad. So I quit! "

  • 5 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 5 Savannacles | 8/10/2013

    " Wish I'd read it before having kids. Beautiful, clear, and such solid ideas. This is one that every parent should have a copy of. "

  • 5 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 5 Michãel | 7/8/2013

    " Based on attachment theory. I love that this is a parenting "expert" who wishes parents trusted their intuition more and relied less on "experts". "

  • 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5 Amy Daliege | 5/4/2013

    " With so many books on attachment parenting focusing on the early years, I was thrilled to find one that talked about school aged children. Though I thought his views on ADHD and ODD a bit simplistic, this is still a book that will enrich my parenting. "

  • 3 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 5 Tina | 9/26/2012

    " Although I enjoyed this book, it doesn't hold much for the homeschooling family. Most of the topics covered were those that we painstakingly struggled with when deciding to home school. "

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