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3 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 5 3.00 (634 ratings) (rate this audio book) Author: Deborah Tannen Narrator: Deborah Tanne Publisher: Penguin Random House Format: Abridged Audiobook Delivery: Instant Download Audio Length: Release Date:
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Deborah Tannen's #1 New York Times bestseller You Just Don’t Understand revolutionized communication between women and men. Now, in her most provocative and engaging book to date, she takes on what is potentially the most fraught and passionate connection of women’s lives: the mother-daughter relationship.

It was Tannen who first showed us that men and women speak different languages. Mothers and daughters speak the same language–but still often misunderstand each other, as they struggle to find the right balance between closeness and independence. Both mothers and daughters want to be seen for who they are, but tend to see the other as falling short of who she should be. Each overestimates the other’s power and underestimates her own.

Why do daughters complain that their mothers always criticize, while mothers feel hurt that their daughters shut them out? Why do mothers and daughters critique each other on the Big Three–hair, clothes, and weight–while longing for approval and understanding? And why do they scrutinize each other for reflections of themselves? 

Deborah Tannen answers these and many other questions as she explains why a remark that would be harmless coming from anyone else can cause an explosion when it comes from your mother or your daughter. She examines every aspect of this complex dynamic, from the dark side that can shadow a woman throughout her life, to the new technologies like e-mail and instant messaging that are transforming mother-daughter communication. Most important, she helps mothers and daughters understand each other, the key to improving their relationship.

With groundbreaking insights, pitch-perfect dialogues, and deeply moving memories of her own mother, Tannen untangles the knots daughters and mothers can get tied up in. Readers will appreciate Tannen’s humor as they see themselves on every page and come away with real hope for breaking down barriers and opening new lines of communication. Eye-opening and heartfelt, You’re Wearing That? illuminates and enriches one of the most important relationships in our lives.

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  • 2 out of 52 out of 52 out of 52 out of 52 out of 5 by Alicia | 2/19/2014

    " Subtitle: Understanding Mothers and Daughters in Conversation. Which is exactly what this book is about--how moms and daughters communicate, what they say and what they actually mean. This author rubbed me the wrong way--I just didn't buy her credentials and "supporting evidence." She raised interesting points, but the book overall is not a success. "

  • 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5 by Monica | 2/18/2014

    " Fantastic book! Really helped me understand some issues and gave some good advice..a perfect read for any daughter or mother who needs some insights. "

  • 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5 by Janice | 2/13/2014

    " This gave me an interesting perspective on why conversations sometimes go a very different than expected with one's mother, and (hopefully) will make me a little less quick to jump to the un-intended conclusion on what's the message behind the words. "

  • 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5 by Becky | 1/22/2014

    " I haven't finished this book, but it was insightful in describing how relationships are not based on what is said, but what is meant and what is thought was meant. :) "

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