I Only Say This Because I Love You (Abridged): Talking In Families Audiobook, by Deborah Tannen Play Audiobook Sample

I Only Say This Because I Love You (Abridged): Talking In Families Audiobook

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Read By: Deborah Tannen Publisher: Simon & Schuster Audio Listen Time: at 1.0x Speed 2.83 hours at 1.5x Speed 2.13 hours at 2.0x Speed Release Date: May 2001 Format: Abridged Audiobook ISBN: 9780743548588

Quick Stats About this Audiobook

Total Audiobook Chapters:

4

Longest Chapter Length:

70:39 minutes

Shortest Chapter Length:

62:33 minutes

Average Chapter Length:

65:23 minutes

Audiobooks by this Author:

16

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Publisher Description

Why does talk in families so often go in circles, leaving us tied up in knots? Linguist Deborah Tannen reveals why talking to family members is so often painful and problematic -- even when we're all adults.

Searching for signs of acceptance and belonging, we find signs of disapproval and rejection. Why do the seeds of family love so often yield a harvest of criticism and judgment? In I Only Say This Because I Love You, Tannen shows how important it is, in family talk, to learn to separate word meanings, or messages, from heart meanings, or metamessages -- unstated but powerful meanings that come from the history of our relationships and the way things are said.

Presenting real conversations from people's lives, Tannen explores what is actually going on in family talk, including how family conversations must balance the longing for connection with the desire for control, as we struggle to be close without giving up our freedom.

This eye-opening audiobook explains why grown women so often feel criticized by their mothers -- and why mothers feel they can't open their mouths around their grown daughters, why growing up male or female, or as an older or younger sibling, results in different experiences of family that persist throughout our lives. BY helping us to understand and redefine family talk, Tannen provides the tools to improve relationships with family members of every age.

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— Mohamed (5 out of 5 stars)

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  • “Tannen’s study is at once learned, imaginative, and accessible: a must-read for both parents and children.” 

    — Barnes & Noble, editorial review
  • “[Tannen] convincingly shows how threads of family history and emotion add weight and complexity to everyday exchanges…Parents of teenagers may also find some good insights in Tannen’s clear-sighted analysis of how clashing frames of reference undermine communication.” 

    — Publishers Weekly
  • “Lively prose and [a] genuine concern for people…a fine stimulant to conversation, constructive argument, and research. Essential.” 

    — Library Journal

I Only Say This Because I Love You Listener Reviews

Overall Performance: 3.35714285714286 out of 53.35714285714286 out of 53.35714285714286 out of 53.35714285714286 out of 53.35714285714286 out of 5 (3.36)
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  • Overall Performance: 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5

    " Some valuable tips for awkward, sometimes necessary conversations. "

    — Eric, 12/19/2013
  • Overall Performance: 5 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 5

    " When I lend it, people fall in love. It's a good way to break problematic communications patterns and deal with difficult family members. "

    — Selika, 10/26/2013
  • Overall Performance: 5 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 5

    " it's a great book ^^ "

    — Apple, 6/16/2012
  • Overall Performance: 3 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 5

    " didn't finish..but read enough to get the main points of it. Now, I see myself thinking of the book a lot when I communicate with others. the alignment theory is very interesting. "

    — Caroline, 9/9/2011
  • Overall Performance: 5 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 5

    " Commonsensical but very good read. "

    — Laura, 7/25/2011
  • Overall Performance: 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5

    " It was easy to read. I now know what my siblings think of me. "

    — Diane, 2/24/2011
  • Overall Performance: 3 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 5

    " Very helpful to know about the usual and different ways and styles people communicate. Had to laugh about the differences in the ways boys and girls talk. So true!!! Loved it. "

    — Marita, 5/16/2010
  • Overall Performance: 2 out of 52 out of 52 out of 52 out of 52 out of 5

    " Really just skimmed this but some of the points were interesting. "

    — Christine, 4/1/2010
  • Overall Performance: 3 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 5

    " Good real life examples of communication breakdowns but I was hoping for more suggestions and ideas on improving communication to strengthen relationships. "

    — Jan, 2/24/2010
  • Overall Performance: 2 out of 52 out of 52 out of 52 out of 52 out of 5

    " After the few first chapters of the book explained the dual communication embedded in every conversation: literal message and metamessage, as well as illustrating each conversation's ability to create alignments of power and connection between participants, the text became repetitious. "

    — Donna, 2/14/2010
  • Overall Performance: 2 out of 52 out of 52 out of 52 out of 52 out of 5

    " After the few first chapters of the book explained the dual communication embedded in every conversation: literal message and metamessage, as well as illustrating each conversation's ability to create alignments of power and connection between participants, the text became repetitious. "

    — Donna, 3/13/2009
  • Overall Performance: 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5

    " It was easy to read. I now know what my siblings think of me. "

    — Diane, 7/10/2008
  • Overall Performance: 3 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 5

    " Very helpful to know about the usual and different ways and styles people communicate. Had to laugh about the differences in the ways boys and girls talk. So true!!! Loved it. "

    — Marita, 5/13/2008
  • Overall Performance: 2 out of 52 out of 52 out of 52 out of 52 out of 5

    " sometimes we become forced to read a book, and that what happend. It was a gift and I really had to read it and tell my openion! Umm, It was ok. "

    — Hø?e, 1/13/2008

About Deborah Tannen

Deborah Tannen is the acclaimed author of You Just Don’t Understand, which was on the New York Times bestseller list for nearly four years; the New York Times bestseller on mother-daughter communication You’re Wearing THAT?; I Only Say This Because I Love You; and many other books. A professor of linguistics at Georgetown University, she appears frequently on national television and radio. The youngest of three sisters, she lives with her husband in the Washington, DC, area.