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3.6 out of 53.6 out of 53.6 out of 53.6 out of 53.6 out of 5 3.60 (25 ratings) (rate this audio book) Author: John Gottman, Julie Schwartz Gottman, Joan DeClaire Narrator: L. J. Ganser, Anne Gartlan Publisher: Penguin Random House Format: Abridged Audiobook Delivery: Instant Download Audio Length: Release Date: May 2006 ISBN: 9780739332382
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In Ten Lessons to Transform Your Marriage, marital psychologists John and Julie Gottman provide vital tools—scientifically based and empirically verified—that you can use to regain affection and romance lost through years of ineffective communication.

In 1994, Dr. John Gottman and his colleagues at the University of Washington made a startling announcement: Through scientific observation and mathematical analysis, they could predict—with more than 90 percent accuracy—whether a marriage would succeed or fail. The only thing they did not yet know was how to turn a failing marriage into a successful one, so Gottman teamed up with his clinical psychologist wife, Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman, to develop intervention methods. Now the Gottmans, together with the Love Lab research facility, have put these ideas into practice.

What emerged from the Gottmans’ collaboration and decades of research is a body of advice that’s based on two surprisingly simple truths: Happily married couples behave like good friends, and they handle their conflicts in gentle, positive ways. The authors offer an intimate look at ten couples who have learned to work through potentially destructive problems—extramarital affairs, workaholism, parenthood adjustments, serious illnesses, lack of intimacy—and examine what they’ve done to improve communication and get their marriages back on track.

Hundreds of thousands have seen their relationships improve thanks to the Gottmans’ work. Whether you want to make a strong relationship more fulfilling or rescue one that’s headed for disaster, Ten Lessons to Transform Your Marriage is essential reading.


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Listener Opinions

  • 3 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 5 Stephanie | 2/15/2014

    " Again, not a big self-help book fan. However, I heard about the author during a talk at work, and was fascinated by the scientific basis of his approach to healing relationships. For instance, he can predict with over 90% accuracy whether couples are going to succeed or fail. What's even more compelling is that he's identified the variable that allegedly determines whether the relationship succeeds/fails. Plus, the book has anecdotes about couples working through their problems, including transcripts of their conversations, and it's (sadly) hilarious how people talk to each other ("you idiotic dolt!"). It's very interesting so far. "

  • 3 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 5 Paul | 1/9/2014

    " a scientific and thorough look why your partner is not a very good communicator "

  • 5 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 5 Christie | 12/17/2013

    " A must read for all couples. Easy to read and understand. No unnecessary psychological jargon. "

  • 3 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 5 Andrew | 11/9/2013

    " Not as much wisdom as I was looking for, but some pretty good basic principals. "

  • 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5 Jennifer | 11/4/2013

    " Really liked this book, the way it was written and the format. Good examples and the exercises provided seemed realistic to try. It was really helpful to see how the clinicians broke down the positives and negatives of each couples dialogue. I will definitely be reading more by the Gottmans! "

  • 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5 Jennifer Finlayson-Fife | 11/3/2013

    " Another interesting Gottman read, based in his long-term research. Many of the same principles are covered in each of his books but each with a different focus. This book uses a case-study approach, looking at different couples exemplifying typical challenges found in marriage. "

  • 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5 Lesley Strom | 10/13/2013

    " I really enjoyed the different aspects that this husband and wife psychologists gave in regards to relationships in general. "

  • 3 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 5 Tony Bradshaw | 9/9/2013

    " I would have finished this book; however, it got returned to the library (I think). I may still pick it back up as I did eventually get into the material and enjoy the conversations and perspectives and the successes being shared. "

  • 3 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 5 Christine | 8/18/2013

    " I think this book has lots of useful information for anyone committed to strengthening their relationship. Looking forward to reading the book about raising children. "

  • 2 out of 52 out of 52 out of 52 out of 52 out of 5 Tonya | 7/10/2013

    " This is my 1st marriage "self help" book. Although I found that my husband and I could relate to a few of the situations; I also felt that the case studies live in mr. Rogers neighborhood. "

  • 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5 Sara | 5/12/2013

    " It would be a good idea to keep this handy to refer to as needed, as a lot of it would not be especially easy to master quickly. Useful techniques and helpful exercises. "

  • 5 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 5 Crystal | 4/7/2013

    " Love this book! Has great exercises and breaks the chapters down into very common couples issues. I have already started using the exercises with my couples! "

  • 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5 Carrie | 3/10/2013

    " More helpful exercises that can make a Great Dates topic or marriage prep activity "

  • 3 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 5 Jessica | 6/18/2012

    " I didn't realize this book just went through several different marriage problems and addressedways to remedy them. A few interesting points but not what I wanted. "

  • 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5 Angela | 3/28/2012

    " I thought this was a bit laborious and not exactly highly interesting reading, but worth it for me personally. "

  • 3 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 5 Melina | 10/9/2011

    " This wasn't the revelation that & priinciples was, but it is still a really helpful read. "

  • 3 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 5 Lauren | 6/2/2011

    " I agree with the premise behind everything Gottman stands for. I do wish the approach was more focused on solutions rather than the abstract. "

  • 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5 Josh | 12/31/2010

    " This is a fantastic book on communication between spouses or in a relationship. It was very enlightening. "

  • 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5 Lesley | 11/1/2010

    " I really enjoyed the different aspects that this husband and wife psychologists gave in regards to relationships in general. "

  • 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5 Josh | 8/24/2010

    " This is a fantastic book on communication between spouses or in a relationship. It was very enlightening. "

  • 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5 Carrie | 6/2/2009

    " More helpful exercises that can make a Great Dates topic or marriage prep activity "

  • 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5 Angela | 5/29/2009

    " I thought this was a bit laborious and not exactly highly interesting reading, but worth it for me personally. "

  • 3 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 5 Melina | 10/31/2008

    " This wasn't the revelation that & priinciples was, but it is still a really helpful read. "

  • 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5 Jennifer | 8/23/2008

    " Another interesting Gottman read, based in his long-term research. Many of the same principles are covered in each of his books but each with a different focus. This book uses a case-study approach, looking at different couples exemplifying typical challenges found in marriage. "

  • 3 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 5 Andrew | 5/29/2008

    " Not as much wisdom as I was looking for, but some pretty good basic principals. "

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About the Author

John M. Gottman, PhD, is the cofounder and codirector of the Gottman Institute, along with his wife. He is also the James W. Mifflin professor of psychology at the University of Washington in Seattle and the recipient of numerous national and international awards for his groundbreaking relationship research. His work has been featured on many national television shows, including the Oprah Winfrey Show, 20/20, Dateline, and Good Morning America. He has written more than twenty books including the national bestseller The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work and Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child.

About the Narrators

L. J. Ganser is the winner of the prestigious Audie Award for Best Nonfiction Narration for his work in The Island at the Center of the World. He has recorded over 450 titles recorded to date. Prized for versatility, he has narrated projects ranging from preschool picture books to crime noir thrillers, from astronomical adventures in both science and science fiction, to Arctic Circle high-school basketball stories.

Anne Gartlan has extensive experience on stage and as a voice-over artist. She has been heard on hundreds of commercials, narrations, and audio books. Her voice is particularly recognizable for her work for the Today show on NBC and The Early Show on CBS.