In 1994, Dr. John Gottman and his colleagues at the
University of Washington—made a startling announcement: Through scientific
observation and mathematical analysis, they could predict—with more than 90
percent accuracy—whether a marriage would succeed or fail. The only thing they
did not yet know was how to turn a failing marriage into a successful one, so
Gottman teamed up with his clinical psychologist wife, Dr. Julie Schwartz
Gottman, to develop intervention methods. Now the Gottmans, together with the
Love Lab research facility, have put these ideas into practice. In Ten Lessons to Transform Your Marriage,
the Gottmans share this vital information so that couples can develop the
skills to turn their relationship problems around and create strong, lasting
What emerged from the Gottmans’ collaboration and decades of
research is a body of advice that’s based on two surprisingly simple truths:
Happily married couples behave like good friends, and they handle their
conflicts in gentle, positive ways. The authors offer an intimate look at ten
couples who have learned to work through potentially destructive
problems—extramarital affairs, workaholism, parenthood adjustments, serious
illnesses, lack of intimacy—and examine what they’ve done to improve
communication and get their marriages back on track.
Giving an insider’s view of the Love Lab, the Gottmans take
the reader step-by-step through the couples’ conversations, before and after
they are counseled. The authors also provide an analysis of the couples’
interactions, identifying their core problems and offering suggestions for
resolving them. By “listening” to the discussions in this way, you will learn
to detect the most common stumbling blocks of a relationship and—most
important—how to avoid them.
Hundreds of thousands have seen their relationships improve
thanks to the Gottmans’ work. Whether you want to make a strong relationship
more fulfilling or rescue one that’s headed for disaster, Ten Lessons to Transform Your Marriage is essential reading.
From inside the famed Gottman Institute, aka the “Love Lab”:
ten scientifically proven, practical ways to strengthen your marriage.
“We don’t feel close anymore.”
“You never talk to me.”
“We only have time for the kids.”
“All you do is work.”
“You don’t care about my dreams.”
Do you recognize yourself, or your spouse, in any of these
statements? If so, Dr. John Gottman and his wife, Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman,
say you shouldn’t be surprised. In fact, their decades of scientific research
have shown that most couples face these and other serious problems—but what the
Gottmans have proven is that such difficulties don’t have to lead to a broken
relationship, or even divorce.
In Ten Lessons to
Transform Your Marriage, the Gottmans provide vital tools—scientifically
based and empirically verified—that you can use to regain affection and romance
lost through years of ineffective communication. You’ll strengthen your
relationship and make it the most fulfilling it can be.
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