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4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5 4.00 (57 ratings) (rate this audio book) Author: John Gottman, John M. Gottman Narrator: J. Charle Publisher: Brilliance Audio Format: Unabridged Audiobook Delivery: Instant Download Audio Length: Release Date:
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For the past thirty-five years, John Gottman’s research has been internationally recognized for its unprecedented ability to precisely measure interactive processes in couples and to predict the long-term success or failure of relationships. In this groundbreaking book, he presents a new approach to understanding and changing couples: a fundamental social skill called “emotional attunement,” which describes a couple’s ability to fully process and move on from negative emotional events, ultimately creating a stronger relationship.

Gottman draws from this longitudinal research and theory to show how emotional attunement can downregulate negative affect, help couples focus on positive traits and memories, and even help prevent domestic violence. He offers a detailed intervention devised to cultivate attunement, thereby helping couples connect, respect, and show affection. Emotional attunement is extended to tackle the subjects of flooding, the story we tell ourselves about our relationship, conflict, personality, changing relationships, and gender. Gottman also explains how to create emotional attunement when it is missing, to lay a foundation that will carry the relationship through difficult times.

Gottman encourages couples to cultivate attunement through awareness, tolerance, understanding, non-defensive listening, and empathy. These qualities, he argues, inspire confidence in couples, and the sense that despite the inevitable struggles, the relationship is enduring and resilient.

This book, an essential follow-up to his 1999 The Marriage Clinic, offers therapists, students, and researchers detailed intervention for working with couples, and offers couples a roadmap to a stronger future together.

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Quotes & Awards

  • “A noteworthy addition to any practitioner’s library.”

    Journal of Couple and Relationship Therapy

  • “A text that I will recommend as essential for training marital therapists.”


  • “John Gottman, the premier thinker and experimenter in the science of couple relationships, has done it again. In his earlier concept of bids, he brought clarity to the murky idea of connection. Now, in the concept of attunement, he brings clarity to the even murkier idea of trust.”

    Dan Wile, author of After the Honeymoon

Listener Opinions

  • 3 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 5 by Karen | 6/28/2013

    " I enjoy most of the insights, but doubt that life should be mechanized down to an equation. I was hoping for more insight and less game theory. "

  • 5 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 5 by Dr. Lloyd E. Campbell | 6/18/2013

    " If you think of his research like a deck of cards, he reshuffled the deck and came to some new conclusions. Original and thought provoking. "

  • 3 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 5 by Kristi | 1/28/2013

    " He has some very relevant information on how couples can become aware of each others communication patterns. He also has a great diagram of a house that is a visual explanation of how to establish trust in a relationship. "

  • 5 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 5 by Paige Ross | 12/5/2012

    " Fascinating but complicated sometimes. The theory is on point and basic enough to really apply but it may need a re-read to understand the details. "

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