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Called “brave and riveting” by Jeannette Walls, Deborah Feldman’s New York Times bestselling memoir of escaping from a strict Hasidic community includes a new afterword by the author detailing the circumstances of her life after leaving her husband and forging new beginnings for herself and her young son.
As a member of the strictly religious Satmar sect of Hasidic Judaism, Deborah Feldman grew up under a code of relentlessly enforced customs governing everything from what she could wear and to whom she could speak to what she was allowed to read. Yet in spite of her repressive upbringing, Deborah grew into an independent-minded young woman whose stolen moments reading about the empowered literary characters of Jane Austen and Louisa May Alcott helped her to imagine an alternative way of life among the skyscrapers of Manhattan. Trapped as a teenager in a sexually and emotionally dysfunctional marriage to a man she barely knew, the tension between Deborah’s desires and her responsibilities as a good Satmar girl grew more explosive until she gave birth at nineteen and realized that, regardless of the obstacles, she would have to forge a path—for herself and her son—to happiness and freedom.
Remarkable and fascinating, this “sensitive and memorable coming-of-age story” (Pittsburgh Post-Gazette) is one you won’t be able to put down.
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"As a member of the strictly religious Satmar sect of Hasidic Judaism, Feldmen grew up under a relentlessly enforced set of strict religious customs including clothing she could wear, whom she could talk to, days she could do particular things, books she could read and things she could eat. Despite all of these things, Feldman evolved into an independent woman who dreamed of another life. Finding herself locked in a sexually and emotionally difficult marriage to a man she barely knew, that produced a child, Feldman knew that regardless of the obstacles in her path, she would need to forge a path that would ultimately lead to freedom and happiness. This is a very good book. "
— Julie (5 out of 5 stars)
“A brave, riveting account of her journey. Unorthodox is harrowing, yet triumphant.”
— Jeannette Walls, New York Times bestselling author“[Feldman’s] matter-of-fact style masks some penetrating insights.”
— New York Times“An unprecedented view into a Hasidic community that few outsiders ever experience.”
— Minneapolis Star-Tribune“Eloquent, appealing, and just emotional enough.”
— Huffington Post“Riveting… extraordinary.”
— Marie Claire" There is nothing special about this book, there were many others fictions and non-fictions that describe the narrow and suffocating life in close religious community. The author believes herself to be rebel, because she left the group. I remember reading books by Naomi Ragen on similar subject, but her being a very good writer, the effect is much bigger "
— Vicky, 2/19/2014" I found this book quite salacious in its descriptions of the marital bed and Hasidic customs of culturally denigrating women. The first part of the book is quite boring with endless descriptions of the grandmothers cooking etc. I wanted to hear more about the mother who left but the author is so immature and self involved the mothers story was never fleshed out. "
— Panda, 2/14/2014" I read this book based on a review I saw on television and, after waiting some time to get the book through my local library, I found it somewhat boring and a disappointment. In my opinion the book was written as a means to fund the author's leaving her Hasidic family. The book does provide some interesting information on the Hasidic Jews. "
— Janet, 2/11/2014" This book is an easy read, although very disturbing it may be a wake up call for those who follow religious cult blindly. "
— Vivien, 1/26/2014" A riveting read... but it's not clear whether her story is entirely true. "
— Rachel, 1/14/2014" I think there are better books on this topic "
— Sharyn, 1/6/2014" Wow! Def'ly a book that makes you cheer at the end. Worth the read. "
— Jodi, 1/1/2014" Could not put this book down. Read it while on vacation very quickly. Amazing story of how a women broke away from the strict Hasdic jewish religious life in Brooklyn. What is amazing is that she just left this life a few years ago - 2009-2010. Very powerful. "
— Joanne, 12/29/2013" The book was very poorly written.... and it took her 150 pages before she wrote anything interesting to me. I did learn a lot about the Hasidic but I'm questioning whether or not it's a realistic and true source. What did you think? "
— Lorraine, 12/22/2013" couldn't get into this book, gave up on it after a few chapters "
— Sarah, 12/21/2013" Fascinating memoir of a young woman's journey as a Hasidic Jew from that community to finding herself and coming into her own. "
— Mukeary, 12/1/2013" Not a great piece of literature, but it was an interesting read, I learned a lot about the Hasidm I'd see in Brooklyn growing up. Interesting book. "
— Erica, 10/24/2013" I learned so much from this book. It is amazing how close I live to where Deborah grew up and how different our lives are. She could have easily been in another country. She is to be commended for her honest and courageous book. "
— Alyson, 10/19/2013" A fascinating read!!! Feldman is one brave young woman who followed her heart, who against all odds fought for her independence and happiness, who is an inspiration to all!! "
— Yi, 10/18/2013" I thought this was a good and interesting book until about the halfway point, and after that, I couldn't put it down. It became a page turner for me. it's an interesting look into the Hasidic world and I learned more than I expected. "
— Shiloh, 8/9/2013" I did not enjoy this book. I bought the book based on some reviews I had read and probably seeing the authour on a talk show. Tons of potatoes but no meat. Think about it like purchasing a car thinking it has power steering and air conditioner only to discover that it has none. "
— Kemi, 8/6/2013" Interesting account of growing up as an orthodox Satmar jew in Williamsburg. "
— Liisa, 12/18/2012" I did not like this book. It was so drawn out and long and I feel like the main character could have been expanded upon. The details of rituals was somewhat interesting but it was a tough read to get through. "
— Monica, 10/13/2012" Would make an excellent Lifetime Movie. "
— Lisa, 10/5/2012" It's fascinating to get a glimpse of hasidic life, and hard to reconcile that world with our world going on at the exact same time. This memoir wasn't particularly well written, but you're rooting for the author all the same, and I found it really compelling. "
— gwen, 7/31/2012" Very interesting book about a young Hasidic Jewish girl from Brooklyn who questions the ways of her community from a young age. Hard to believe such a strict community exists only minutes from the most advanced and developed city in the world! "
— Shannon, 3/7/2012" For some reason, I was left wanting more. "
— Madeline, 2/20/2012Deborah Feldman is the author of the New York Times bestselling memoir, Unorthodox: The Scandalous Reflection of My Hasidic Roots. She was born and raised in the Hasidic community of Williamsburg in Brooklyn, New York. A graduate of Sarah Lawrence College, she lives in New York City with her son.
Rachel Botchan holds a BFA from NYU’s Tisch School of the Arts and is a member of the Pearl Theater Company in New York. She and her husband live in New York City.
Cassandra Campbell has won multiple Audie Awards, Earphones Awards, and the prestigious Odyssey Award for narration. She was been named a “Best Voice” by AudioFile magazine and in 2018 was inducted in Audible’s inaugural Narrator Hall of Fame.