This controversial approach to marriage has transformed thousands of relationships, bringing women romance, harmony, and the intimacy they crave.
Like millions of women, Laura Doyle wanted her marriage to be better. But when she tried to get her husband to be more romantic, helpful, and ambitious, he withdrew -- and she was lonely and exhausted from controlling everything. Desperate to be in love with her man again, she decided to stop telling him what to do and how to do it. When Doyle surrendered control, something magical happened. The union she had always dreamed of appeared. The man who had wooed her was back.
The underlying principle of The Surrendered Wife is simple: The control women wield at work and with children must be left at the front door of any marriage. Laura Doyle's model for matrimony shows women how they can both express their needs and have them met while also respecting their husband's choices. When they do, they revitalize intimacy. The Surrendered Wife will show you how to transform a lonely marriage into a passionate union.
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"Despite the title and cover of this book (which I had to disregard when I bought it), the information the author imparts regarding ways a woman can improve her relationship with her man make a lot of sense. You don't have to be a total control freak to see how "being in control" can be damaging to any relationship. It makes sense to focus on changing yourself if you want to see improvement in your relationships since you can't change other people, at the end of the day. Sometimes having less control gives you more power. And sometimes letting go will ensure that you get to keep what you have."
— Greta (4 out of 5 stars)
“A natural for audio, Doyle is perky, enthusiastic, friendly and confiding as she shares her secrets for a happy marriage.”
— Publishers Weekly“Doyle seeks to heal the overworked, underappreciated wife who snarls at her mate’s every thought or action…While she fully acknowledges that a few bills will go unpaid and a few deadlines or freeway exits will occasionally be missed, she also insists that surrendered wives will encounter less worry and fear, more money, and better sex.”
— Amazon.com, editorial review“In The Surrendered Wife, Doyle spells out her plan for creating a hot, dreamy marriage…With simple, effective writing, Doyle teaches her readers how to trust their husbands…Sure to raise questions for every woman.”
— Barnes & Noble, editorial review" This book has lots of really good ideas for ways to find peace and quiet in your own mind. Even if it doesn't help my marriage I am going to adopt some of these strategies just to help myself relax and not feel as though I have to constantly be superwoman "
— Kim, 2/17/2014" Probably not what you're thinking. :) Discovered I was master of all 7 habits of the highly effective shrew. Turned me around, and without the same old me, we couldn't have the same old us. Much better now! "
— Sheri, 2/13/2014" This is one of those books that you read, then pick and choose what parts you actually agree with/want to apply in your life. I will say that there are several tips that I feel have helped my relationship with my husband, and many other ideas that I think, "no way... not for me." "
— Natalie, 1/31/2014" Many of the principles in this book are good advice for wives to hear, although I found some of the recommendations unnerving and unwise, such as making your husband take care of the finances whether or not he's good with money. Luckily, my husband is good with the finances so I don't have to worry about him paying the bills or spending money we don't have. I agree with the general principles in this book such as respecting your husband, eliminating criticism and unsolicited advice, refraining from doing things for your husband that he can do for himself, concentrating on taking care of ourselves first, and learning how to express our desires for what we want without telling him how to do it. However, I feel this book is really designed for women who are control freaks and need to be told how to let things go. "
— Kristie, 1/24/2014" I wasn't a fan. Big surprise. Did things hit too close to home? Yes. Do I have work to do? Yes. Did everyone look at ME when we started discussing the book? Yes. But what I am most disturbed by is the fact that this book feels like manipulation. I love the idea of engendering respect in my marriage through my actions, but I don't like the idea of doing it to get something in return. It seems dishonest. But then again, I don't have a degree in marriage counseling. The problem is, neither does the author. Take the book for what it's worth. I'm still going to tell my husband when we've passed our exit on the freeway. So shoot me. "
— Erika, 1/20/2014" I truly agreed with most of what she said. But some things I totally disagreed with. Did change my perspective though in lots of ways. Was a worth while read! "
— Tammie, 1/18/2014" Saw it as recommendation in a sisters edition. I really liked it. Although it has nothing to do with Islam it shows the same principles and I found it very interesting to read. "
— Sächsische, 10/22/2013" This is a great book. I read it as a follow up to "For Women Only" by Feldman (another great book). I tried some of these ideas on Paul with fabulous results. I recommend every wife read this book! "
— Sandy, 6/12/2013" Truly great read, even if you aren't married. It teaches u a lot about yourself and how to deal with the world. I loved that the writer described herself as a feminist. "
— Shahd, 5/29/2013" Excellant book to read after 5 years of marriage, my opinion it is very humbling. "
— Anita, 12/7/2012" Something I definitely am NOT. "
— Marti, 12/5/2012" It's not like it sounds! It's mostly about letting go of criticizing, maligning and mothering your husband so he can be a MAN, with a supportive loving and happy wife. I know most of you will just think I'm a dumbed down woman, but what can I say. It changed my life. "
— Rebecca, 10/8/2012" This book had some good ideas but alot of it was a bit over the top. "
— Brittany, 2/14/2012" A must read for anyone who is a control freak like me. "
— Debbie, 10/25/2011" A MUST read for every married woman who wants to have a marriage of a lifetime. I reread it all the time. "
— Lori, 9/13/2011" good advice-easy to read-i would suggest for anyone looking for some fresh ideas on how to look at their marriage "
— Jwolfe5, 9/8/2011" This book was life changing for me. Made me laugh but also made me take a really long hard look at myself as a wife. Very convicting and challenging. A good read for anyone desiring to be a godly surrendered wife. "
— Erin, 7/24/2011" Truly great read, even if you aren't married. It teaches u a lot about yourself and how to deal with the world. I loved that the writer described herself as a feminist. "
— Shahd, 5/14/2011" Flipped through this once when I was married...to the wrong guy. Which is, I think, who you'd have to be married to in order to take this book seriously. This was not for me. "
— Pam, 5/3/2011" This is one of those books that you read, then pick and choose what parts you actually agree with/want to apply in your life. I will say that there are several tips that I feel have helped my relationship with my husband, and many other ideas that I think, "no way... not for me." "
— Natalie, 1/29/2010" very good; one I"ll go back to regularly I think. "
— LaDonna, 1/29/2010" Great book, you will have to read it to find out why. I don't want to divulge all my weaknesses online! "
— Andrea, 1/17/2010" This is fast becoming a favorite and I haven't even finished reading it yet! I'm about half-way through. It has been a real eye-opener. <br/>In so many ways I've gotten SO off track! I am remaking myself yet again! "
— Karla, 12/10/2009" Maybe a subtitle would help: Be His Wife, Not His Mommy. The book isn't about wives being doormats. It's about having a marriage without ANY doormats. He doesn't have to be the doormat, either. Mutual respect from one adult to another. Very worthwhile and practical. "
— Liz, 9/1/2009" This is a great book. I read it as a follow up to "For Women Only" by Feldman (another great book). I tried some of these ideas on Paul with fabulous results. I recommend every wife read this book! "
— Sandy, 8/5/2009Laura Doyle is the author of the controversial bestsellers The Surrendered Wife and The Surrendered Single. A popular speaker on relationship issues, she teaches workshops based on her books. She lives in Costa Mesa, California, with her husband.