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I Don't Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression Audiobook
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Each year, millions of men and women fall prey to depression. While the disorder has been called "psychiatry's most treatable condition," less than one in five get help. In recent years, the silence surrounding depression in women has begun to lift, but only now, with this powerful groundbreaking work, does psychotherapist Terrence Real expose a virtual epidemic of the disorder in men. Twenty years of experience treating men and their families has convinced Real that there are two forms of depression: "overt" and "covert." Feeling the stigma of depression's "unmanliness," many men hide their condition not only from family and friends but even from themselves. Attempts to escape depression fuel many of the problems we think of as typically male—difficulty with intimacy, workaholism, alcoholism, abusive behavior, and rage. By directing their pain outward, depressed men hurt the people they love, and, most tragically, pass their condition on to their children. A master storyteller, Real mixes penetrating analysis with poignant, compelling tales of the men and women whom he treats. He writes with passion and searing clarity about his own experiences with depression, as the son of a depressed, violent father, and the father of two young sons. Peggy Papp of the Ackerman Family Institute calls this book "a pathway out of the darkness." Real teaches us how men can unearth their pain, heal themselves, restore relationships, and break the legacy of abuse. I Don't Want to Talk About It offers great wisdom, hope, and practical guidance to men and their families. This is one of the most important and straightforward books ever written about men.
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"Very informative book about male depression and how men deal with depression different than women. A good read for men dealing with issues of anger, workaholism, or find problems connecting with others. Also a good read for anyone going into the psychology or counseling field to recieve another take on male depression and how it exhibits itself."
— Leah (4 out of 5 stars)
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“Offers not only crucial insights to men suffering from depression but also comfort and guidance to the women who love them.”
— John Bradshaw, author and counselor -
Offers not only crucial insights to men suffering from depression but also comfort and guidance to the women who love them.
— John Bradshaw
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" I started it and then blazed through it. Didn't want to put it down. Would like to read more of Terrence Real. "
— Jean, 2/8/2014 -
" Real places male depression in the context of the cultural limitations of the male gender role, and in so doing provides a useful perspective from which to consider depression in men. I was a bit put off by the artificial simplicity of his examples and what I saw as limited experimental basis for his conclusions, I got the impression that Real relies more on his experience than experimentation, and while he may be effective I question whether his efficacy can be generalized without a strong experimental basis from which to build. I found it personally unsettling that he frequently portrayed children and partners as providing vital impetus, not because his claim struck me as inaccurate but because I personally possess neither. Regardless, the book itself was thought provoking and his examples, however artificial their flavour, made the book quite accessible. "
— Michael, 2/2/2014 -
" Although I am not a man, this book was insightful and enlightening for me. Recommended for anyone with a father, son, husband or brother. I really enjoyed the parts dealing with the developing psyche of young boys. "
— Tamara, 1/21/2014 -
" it was imply an eye opening.... "
— Tetyana, 1/12/2014 -
" Explains alot about what makes some men tick. Helps women cope with difficult men and get a better idea of what they are really feeling. "
— Nancy, 1/1/2014 -
" Got this book to understand better the lives of screwed up males *ahem* but found it very interesting to read about the psychology of this guy. Wounds, duality, hidden depression, etc. Interesting. "
— Margaret, 12/30/2013 -
" I have been reading all the books I can get my hand son regarding depression and mood disorders and while not a man, I found the approach from the perspective of men to be quite insightful. "
— Jennifer, 12/2/2013 -
" This book has lots of insight into how boys develop psychologically and how depression is caused by trauma and stress during childhood as well as during adulthood. It also talks about how to treat depression,giving a lot of case studies about the use of psychotherapy and medicine. "
— Rebecca, 10/24/2013 -
" Great book for understanding male depression. Too wordy towards the end. "
— Kate, 10/19/2013 -
" For those who are interested in new insights into male depression that you wondered about all along, Real is the one to read. I believe that Arch Hart may have documented the concept even before Terry;however, Terry's stories of others and himself keep you glued to the book. "
— Sheila, 8/3/2013 -
" This book is the gold standard for male depression. Real speaks with both a personal and professional voice that most men will identify as their own. Looking forward to reading the rest "
— Amy, 7/7/2013 -
" I read this for my work as a therapist. I found it interesting. Not all of it was new ideas but after mostly working with women it gave me some different ideas in my work with men. "
— Tina, 3/17/2013 -
" Incredibly insightful. Delves not only into the legacy of male depression but also punches much-needed holes in the many ways our culture reinforces gender stereotypes. I dare anyone, especially men, to read it and not be changed by it. "
— Aaron, 1/4/2013 -
" This is probably a good book but I just can't get into it. "
— Paul, 11/24/2012 -
" A really lucid, insightful, and ultimately helpful take on the psychological toll of "patriarchy" -- recommended for anyone who knows, interacts with, or has heard of men. "
— meredith, 11/3/2012 -
" well, "liked" isn't exactly the word, but it was very enlightening and explained a lot to me. "
— Stephanie, 10/15/2012 -
" If you know any men you should read this book. "
— Michael, 9/17/2012
About Terrence Real
Terrence Real is the bestselling author of I Dont Want to Talk about It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression and How Can I Get through to You?: Reconnecting Men and Women. He has been a practicing family therapist for more than twenty years, lecturing and giving workshops across the country. In March, 2002, he founded the Relational Empowerment Institute. His work has been featured on NBC Nightly News, Today, Good Morning America, and Oprah, as well as in the New York Times, Psychology Today, Esquire, and numerous academic publications. He lives with his wife and two sons in Newton, Massachusetts.
About Adam Verner
Adam Verner is a stage, film, television, and voice actor and an Earphones Award–winning audiobook narrator. He holds a BS in theater arts from Bradley University and an MFA from Chicago College of the Performing Arts at Roosevelt University.