Two leading thinkers engage in a landmark conversation about human emotions and the pursuit of psychological fulfillment At their first meeting, a remarkable bond was sparked between His Holiness the Dalai Lama, one of the world's most revered spiritual leaders, and the psychologist Paul Ekman, whose groundbreaking work helped to define the science of emotions. Now these two luminaries share their thinking about science and spirituality, the bonds between East and West, and the nature and quality of our emotional lives. In this unparalleled series of conversations, the Dalai Lama and Ekman prod and push toward answers to the central questions of emotional experience. What are the sources of hate and compassion? Should a person extend her compassion to a torturer—and would that even be biologically possible? What does science reveal about the benefits of Buddhist meditation, and can Buddhism improve through engagement with the scientific method? As they come to grips with these issues, they invite us to join them in an unfiltered view of two great traditions and two great minds. Accompanied by commentaries on the findings of emotion research and the teachings of Buddhism, their interplay—amusing, challenging, eye-opening, and moving—guides us on a transformative journey in the understanding of emotions.
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"A good resource to reflect on how one has or doesn't have control over their emotions and temper. Where there is fear, there is also frustration, guilt, shame, lack of self esteem, possibility of dysfunction. One of the results is projection, blame, criticism, contempt...fear to acknowledge one's responsibility. Once you hit the stonewall (silence) that's the end of the relationship...regardless of its nature."
— Touria (4 out of 5 stars)
“A rich feast for the mind... This is a singular meeting of two intellectual traditions--and two remarkable minds and hearts.
— Daniel GolemanA fresh, unique exploration of many subtle issues... on psychology and Buddhism... Full of... unexpected humor and tender surprises... They gently probe each other's system of thought with striking intellectual rigor.
— Shambhala SunTheir conversations touch on questions of emotional balance, anger, and the range and limits of compassion, but a brief review can hardly do justice to the range and depth of this fine book.
— Library Journal" well, listened to on audiobook. that counts right? "
— Flyin, 2/4/2014" Most interesting concept I got from this book is Paul Ekman's hypothesis that while emotions are an obvious Darwinian tool for survival, moods are likely a harmful byproduct of evolution that we as a species, would be better off without. Emotions stir us into action that promotes survival whereas moods, which can be triggered by emotions,... "
— Mike, 1/13/2014" Good research and conversation. "
— Joelle, 1/10/2014" An excellent discussion on emotional awareness from the Dalai Lama and Paul Ekman, the scientist well-known for his discovery of micro-expressions. Great bringing a critical scientific basis to Buddhism - both sides benefit. "
— Adam, 12/29/2013" very slow reading and disapointing ending "
— Mohammed, 12/27/2013" Ekman does most of the talking but what he says is excellent "
— Mike, 12/27/2013" I'm not sure who the proper audience for this book would be. Either you're interested in Ekman and you're a completist, or you're the same for the D.L. I, personally, took zero benefit in their exchange. "
— Fleetwood, 10/26/2013" I love everything Paul Ekman and Everything Dali Lama, so put the two together and I can't resist. "
— Bridgette, 9/27/2013" Exceptional wisdom; dry format. "
— nathancurry, 9/14/2013" I really enjoyed reading this book. However, parts do feel repetitous. "
— Casey, 8/15/2013" De boeddhisten hebben veel meer kennis van emotioneel bewustzijn dan wij in het Westen. The first person method levert meer op dan het waarnemersperspectief (second person). "
— Ineke, 7/29/2013" Another book that produces much food for thought and now has numerous bookmarks. I very much enjoyed this book because it ties together several of my interests, how to talk about emotions, nonverbal communication, and Asian religions. "
— Jim, 3/25/2013" Lush Life A Novel "
— Elayne, 3/6/2013" This book is loaded with valuable information, but can be hard to focus on and hard to digest. "
— Adrienne, 2/18/2013" A fascinating discussion of universally important topics: Paul Ekman and the Dalai Lama come to terms about emotion, feelings, compassion, science, and self-awareness. The final chapter is especially worthwhile. "
— Michael, 11/26/2012" This was SOOOO cool.. It really gives you an intimate view of the Dalai Lama and Paul Ekman. It's like being in the room with them as they discuss the deepest issues and propose answers and solutions. "
— Lex, 9/29/2012" This is a conversation between the Dalai Lama and Dr Ekman, a scientist. You could tell they were having a great time discussing buddhism from a scientific perspective. I really enjoyed it. "
— reed, 8/5/2012" lots of aha moments in this book. Very interesting. Highly recommended. "
— Mercedes, 7/9/2012" Between the very poor quality audio and the Dalia Lama's English I gave up on trying to understand what he was trying to say. "
— Wil, 6/25/2012" I enjoyed the perspective of listening in on the conversation between two serious thinkers. That also made it more challenging to read. I was especially taken with the Dalai Lama and his take on life and the living of it. "
— Karen, 5/19/2012" Great book, really more of a talk between Paul Eckman and the Dalai Lama talking about emotions and our relationship with them. A very enlightening and thought provoking book. "
— Melissa, 4/11/2012" Highly accessible conversation between The Dalai Lama and psycologist Paul Ekman (the real microexpression "Lie to Me" guy). Science meets mindfulness. "
— Carol, 12/18/2011" I enjoyed this book, but it wasn't easy to listen to as an audiobook. There's a lot to digest. "
— Eric, 12/12/2011" Seems like a great book, I'm on chapter 1 and find it fascinating. It seemed to have petered out after chapter one. I was disapointed to find it is a conglomeration of communications between the author and the dalai lama. "
— Jennifer, 10/30/2011" This was an amazing & insightfull book. I was moved by the open discourse between Dr. Ekman & the Dalai Lama. One of the biggist lessons I came away with is that compassion must always be accompanied by courage through action. "
— Deborah, 2/25/2011" Between the very poor quality audio and the Dalia Lama's English I gave up on trying to understand what he was trying to say. "
— Wil, 1/22/2011" very slow reading and disapointing ending "
— Mohammed, 9/12/2010" Completely. Sucked. In. <br/> <br/>I listened to it vs. reading it, so that may have played a part... but very engaging. "
— Loricious, 1/26/2010" Highly accessible conversation between The Dalai Lama and psycologist Paul Ekman (the real microexpression "Lie to Me" guy). Science meets mindfulness. "
— Carol, 1/16/2010" This is a conversation between the Dalai Lama and Dr Ekman, a scientist. You could tell they were having a great time discussing buddhism from a scientific perspective. I really enjoyed it. "
— reed, 7/30/2009" I enjoyed the perspective of listening in on the conversation between two serious thinkers. That also made it more challenging to read. I was especially taken with the Dalai Lama and his take on life and the living of it. "
— Karen, 6/14/2009" I enjoyed this book, but it wasn't easy to listen to as an audiobook. There's a lot to digest. "
— Eric, 3/11/2009" I really enjoyed reading this book. However, parts do feel repetitous. "
— Casey, 1/28/2009His Holiness the Dalai Lama, Tenzin Gyatso, was born in 1935 to a peasant family in northeastern Tibet and was recognized at the age of two as the reincarnation of his predecessor. As the world’s foremost Buddhist leader, he travels extensively, speaking eloquently in favor of ecumenical understanding, kindness and compassion, respect for the environment, and world peace. He is the author of over seventy books and has received a number of awards, honorary doctorates, and other accolades for his work.
Paul Ekman, director of Paul Ekman Group, is the author of Emotions Revealed, Emotional Awareness (coauthored with the Dalai Lama), and twelve other books. The Fox series Lie to Me is based on his research. A professor emeritus at the University of California, San Francisco, he lives in the Bay area.
Richard Gere is a humanitarian and actor. He has appeared in more than forty films, including An Officer and a Gentleman, American Gigolo, Chicago, The Jackal, Pretty Woman, and Runaway Bride. In 1999 he was named “Sexiest Man Alive” by People magazine. He has received multiple Golden Globe nominations, as well as a Screen Actors Guild Award nomination.