Extended Audio Sample

Download The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter--And How to Make the Most of Them Now Audiobook

Extended Audio Sample The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter--And How to Make the Most of Them Now Audiobook, by Meg Jay Click for printable size audiobook cover
3.00154083204931 out of 53.00154083204931 out of 53.00154083204931 out of 53.00154083204931 out of 53.00154083204931 out of 5 3.00 (1,298 ratings) (rate this audio book) Author: Meg Jay Narrator: Meg Jay Publisher: Hachette Book Group Format: Unabridged Audiobook Delivery: Instant Download Audio Length: Release Date: April 2012 ISBN: 9781611134063
Regular Price: $22.98 Add to Cart
— or —
FlexPass™ Price: $12.95$5.95$5.95 for new members!
Add to Cart learn more )

Our “thirty-is-the-new-twenty” culture tells us the twentysomething years don’t matter. Some say they are a second adolescence. Others call them an emerging adulthood. Dr. Meg Jay, a clinical psychologist, argues that twentysomethings have been caught in a swirl of hype and misinformation, much of which has trivialized what is actually the most defining decade of adulthood.

Drawing from a decade of work with hundreds of twentysomething clients and students, The Defining Decade weaves the latest science of the twentysomething years with behind-closed-doors stories from twentysomethings themselves. The result is a provocative read that provides the tools necessary to make the most of your twenties, and shows us how work, relationships, personality, social networks, identity, and even the brain can change more during this decade than at any other time in adulthood—if we use the time wisely.

Download and start listening now!

BK_HACH_000899

Quotes & Awards

  • “I strongly recommend The Defining Decade for anyone in their 20s trying to figure out their life’s direction.”

    Po Bronson, author of What Should I Do with My Life?

  • “Excellently written, this book is sensitive to the emotional life of twentysomethings.”

    Library Journal

  • “The professional and personal angst of directionless twentysomethings is given a voice and some sober counsel in this engaging guide.”

    Publishers Weekly

  • “Meg Jay takes the specific complaints of twentysomething life and puts them to diagnostic use.”

    New Yorker

  • “Any recent college grad mired in a quarter-life crisis or merely dazed by the freedom of postcollegiate existence should consider it required reading.”

    Slate (staff pick)

  • “The professional and personal angst of directionless twentysomethings is given a voice and some sober counsel in this engaging guide. While Jay maintains that facing difficulties in one’s twenties ‘is a jarring—but efficient and often necessary—way to grow,’ the author is sincere and sympathetic, making this well-researched mix of generational sociology, psychotherapy, career counseling, and relationship advice a practical treatise for a much-maligned demographic.”

    Publishers Weekly

  • “A clinical psychologist issues a four-alarm call for the fifty million twenty-somethings in America…A cogent argument for growing up and a handy guidebook on how to get there.”

    Kirkus Reviews

  • “Fascinating…It should be read by all young adults, their friends, their parents, their grandparents, their bosses, their siblings…really, by just about everyone!”

    Timothy D. Wilson, author of Redirect: The Surprising New Science of Psychological Change )

  • The Defining Decade is eye-opening, important, and a pleasure to read. I highly recommend it.”

    Wendy Mogel, author of The Blessing of a Skinned Knee and The Blessing of a B Minus

  • A Slate Magazine Best Book of 2012: Staff Pick

Listener Opinions

  • 5 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 5 xinnie | 7/22/2017

    " As a mid 20s, this book had really resonated with me. "

  • 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5 Claire | 2/8/2014

    " Good insight on why your 20s are so important. However, much of this was common sense. "

  • 5 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 5 Paige | 2/5/2014

    " like a slap on the ass "

  • 5 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 5 Michelle Lira | 1/12/2014

    " Being in my early twenties, this book was such an eye-opener and such a great self-help. A lot of the advice given by Dr. Jay I have already been following for the past few years, so if anything this book was my "pat on the back." Everything written makes sense, and overall when I finished reading it I've come to the conclusion that...I'm going to be okay. First, the layout is perfect. The whole section on Work is fantastic, but my favorite chapter has to be 'Weak Ties' ..really, it's all about who you know. Hearing firsthand accounts from twentysomethings was such a smart way to integrate the advice with real-life scenarios. I found myself relating to many of the stories and, in some cases, these twentysomethings sound a whole lot like me! I'm not waiting to start my life, it's time to take charge and after reading this, seems that the time is now or never. "

  • 3 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 5 Maxstrasser | 1/4/2014

    " It's a self-help book but it's not entirely stupid. "

  • 5 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 5 Jessica Lynch | 1/3/2014

    " I read this in one evening, and as a woman in my twenties I found it insightful and helpful beyond belief. It was a quick read, but something I will no doubt visit again in the future. As the book emphasizes, there's no time to wait! We need to get going now. "

  • 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5 Carissa | 12/12/2013

    " I wish this book was around when I graduated from college! It's full of generally sound advice for 20-somethings who are still figuring it all out. I didn't agree with everything the author had to say, but I did send a copy to my just-out-of-college brother before I finished the book. "

  • 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5 Carlos Bermudez | 12/11/2013

    " def left me with lots to think about about. it help me get a deeper understanding into my own subconscious behavior as a 20something year old living in the 21st century "

  • 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5 Daniel | 12/10/2013

    " Very motivational! This book is a must read for all college graduates who find themselfs having trouble taking the next step or wondering what the next step is. It certainly got me in the "carpe diem" mind set. ENJOY! "

  • 3 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 5 Joshua | 11/21/2013

    " Surprisingly tolerable and informative. Meg Jay, I promise I won't waste away my 20s. "

  • 3 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 5 Ellen | 11/2/2013

    " Some interesting ideas but take everything with a grain of salt... "

  • 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5 Nancy | 10/30/2013

    " Good book to read if you are in your twenties or if you are a parent of a struggling twenty something. "

  • 5 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 5 Zezee | 10/29/2013

    " An eye-opener. I feel like this lady lived in my head during the trials of last year and now stops in once every 2-weeks for tea to make sure I'm still on the right path. I definitely recommend this book to all 20 year-olds. It will definitely give you a reality check. See more on my blog. "

  • 2 out of 52 out of 52 out of 52 out of 52 out of 5 Carlton | 9/22/2013

    " Interesting and insightful, yet lacking in actionable recommendations. "

  • 5 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 5 Alicia | 12/16/2012

    " I really enjoyed the book. Insightful and good advice. "

  • 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5 Amy Lacker | 12/5/2012

    " Great read for 20somethings! "

  • 3 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 5 Vanessa | 11/15/2012

    " Good, but to be honest, made me feel more depressed than empowered. "

  • 5 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 5 Tue | 8/23/2012

    " This is a great/quick-read book about this age. It allows us to see that what we're going through, we're going through together. But it also emphasizes making moves at this age, as it is a pivotal decade. "

  • 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5 Ozzie Gooen | 7/5/2012

    " It seems very conservative (in favor of traditional family life), but definitely makes a few good points about young adult development. The best part is probably knowing that there are other people in there twenties who are confused and lonely too. "

Write a Review
What is FlexPass?
  • Your first audiobook is just $5.95
  • Over 90% are at or below $12.95
  • "LOVE IT" guarantee
  • No time limits or expirations
About the Author

Meg Jay, PhD, is a clinical psychologist who specializes in adult development and is the author of The Defining Decade. She works as an assistant clinical professor at University of Virginia and maintains a private practice in Charlottesville, Virginia. She earned doctorates in clinical psychology and gender studies from the University of California, Berkeley.