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I Need Your Love - Is That True? (Abridged): How to Stop Seeking Love, Approval, and Appreciation and Start Finding Them Instead Audiobook
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In Loving What Is, bestselling author Byron Katie introduced thousands of people to her simple and profound method of finding happiness through questioning the mind. Now, I Need Your Love—Is That True? examines a universal, age-old source of anxiety: our relationships with others. In this groundbreaking book, Katie helps you question everything you have been taught to do to gain love and approval. In doing this, you discover how to find genuine love and connection.
The usual advice offered in self-help books and reinforced by our culture advocates a stressful, all-consuming quest for love and approval. We are advised to learn self-marketing and manipulative skills—how to attract, impress, seduce, and often pretend to be something we aren’t. This approach doesn’t work. It leaves millions of walking wounded—those who, having failed to find love or appreciation, blame themselves and conclude that they are unworthy of love.
I Need Your Love—Is That True? helps you illuminate every area in your life where you seem to lack what you long for most—the love of your spouse, the respect of your child, a lover’s tenderness, or the esteem of your boss. Through its penetrating inquiry, you will quickly discover the falseness of the accepted ways of seeking love and approval, and also of the mythology that equates love with need. Using the method in this book, you will inquire into painful beliefs that you’ve based your whole life on—and be delighted to see them evaporate. Katie shows you how unraveling the knots in the search for love, approval, and appreciation brings real love and puts you in charge of your own happiness.
“Everyone agrees that love is wonderful, except when it’s terrible. People spend their whole lives tantalized by love—seeking it, trying to hold on to it, or trying to get over it. Not far behind love, as major preoccupations, come approval and appreciation. From childhood on, most people spend much of their energy in a relentless pursuit of these things, trying out different methods to be noticed, to please, to impress, and to win other people’s love, thinking that’s just the way life is. This effort can become so constant and unquestioned that we barely notice it anymore.
This book takes a close look at what works and what doesn’t in the quest for love and approval. It will help you find a way to be happier in love and more effective in all your relationships. What you learn here will bring fulfillment to all kinds of relationships, including romantic love, dating, marriage, work, and friendship.” —Byron Katie
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"Love the truth and the truth will set you free. This shows what that means on a personal and emotional level. The Work she describes has changed the way I look about every negative emotional experience, from small annoyances to the more long-term, relationship-weakening resentments. "
— Jay (5 out of 5 stars)
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" More on Katie's theme, there is power and peace in investigating your painful thoughts. And here's a hint: they are always untrue at their core. "
— Sherril, 2/17/2014 -
" I love byron katie's stuff. Her approach really works for me. It helps me make sense of my life and my relationships. It helps me learn how to be responsible for myself and let go of trying to be responsible for everyone else. "
— Karla, 2/4/2014 -
" That your perception can change everything. I did stumble on the quote:"It only takes one clear person to have a good relationship," I still can't get my head around that. "
— Kelly, 1/27/2014 -
" Changed my way of looking at my behavior, for sure. "
— Carole, 1/18/2014 -
" Like Loving What Is, I would probably have to give this another read to tell exactly how I feel about it. I read it way back at some point. It was quite intriguing. "
— Elena, 1/14/2014 -
" This is one I just have to periodically reread... "
— Cindy, 1/14/2014 -
" Doing "the work" has changed my life! "
— Sarah, 1/8/2014 -
" Listening to an audio CD of the book...at times a little strange, but helpful nonetheless. "
— Ashley, 12/13/2013 -
" So, the things that you most want to hide from people are the things that you most want to tell people. "
— Natasha, 12/12/2013 -
" Great book, that teaches us that our thoughts are just illusions and that we create our own reality with it. Helps you to unrafel this illusion with 4 simple questions. It works great ! "
— Edwin, 12/1/2013 -
" Love the truth and the truth will set you free. This shows what that means on a personal and emotional level. The Work she describes has changed the way I look about every negative emotional experience, from small annoyances to the more long-term, relationship-weakening resentments. "
— Jay, 11/3/2013 -
" I'm going to read this again. So much useful, helpful material. Highly recommend it. "
— Beverly, 10/11/2013 -
" we are a lot stronger than we think, sometimes we seek the ok from others, but the answer lies within us the entire time. "
— cristina, 9/21/2013 -
" Simple, yet powerful concept; Question your troublesome thoughts, because they are usually wrong and have nothing to do with reality...learn to accept rather than fight reality. Love what is...and you will experience happiness instead of swimming upstream to try and get it... "
— Heather, 8/6/2013 -
" Life really is so much simpler when you stop seeking the approval of people... "
— Ebony, 4/19/2013 -
" A new age budist influenced book? It has some things that I Will keep with me. I think most of the books like these can give you something, but you cant embrace everything in them. I enjoyed it. "
— Annaklara, 3/2/2013 -
" I really liked this book more than Katies books that are a collection of her oding The Work. This book offers simple excercises that you can do everywhere to shift your focus from searching external appreciation to forming strong relationships. "
— Katrin, 1/27/2013 -
" Thank you Katie for writing such a wonderful book. It found it's way to me at the perfect time in my life. The Work is so simple, yet so profound, I reccomend it to anyone that would like to be freed from negative thoughts, fear and insecurty. Thanks again :) "
— Joella, 8/19/2012 -
" This woman is totally mind-blowing. I have read this book multiple times - when I need a reminder that I am responsible for my suffering. But only all of it. :) "
— Ali, 7/25/2012 -
" The title says it all. Another life-changing book. "
— Alaina, 6/22/2012 -
" If you're in to becoming a better, more sane, calm person, this is a book for you. I love the way this woman thinks. She can take your most serious fear and ask questions to have you laughing at yourself in less than 3 minutes. Brilliant. "
— Genevieve, 3/5/2012 -
" I started listening to this Book on CD. It was helpful to me after I listened for a short while, but then it became repetitive. I'm glad I listened, because I got a helpful tip in the process. But I didn't finish it, so I don't know what I would've thought had I done so. "
— Dianne, 1/6/2012 -
" Awesome book! First read from this author and cannot get enough. "
— Tiffany, 9/23/2011 -
" I love this one! It's even better than Loving What Is. "
— Pam, 5/15/2011 -
" This is one I just have to periodically reread... "
— Cindy, 1/17/2011 -
" Awesome book! First read from this author and cannot get enough. "
— Tiffany, 9/23/2010 -
" That your perception can change everything. I did stumble on the quote:"It only takes one clear person to have a good relationship," I still can't get my head around that. "
— Kelly, 9/6/2010 -
" I'm going to read this again. So much useful, helpful material. Highly recommend it. "
— Beverly, 4/23/2010 -
" What an amazing book! the turn-arounds change the way I look at things...hopefully it will make me a better person, a more patient and understanding, compassionate person. "
— Heather, 2/1/2010 -
" I started listening to this Book on CD. It was helpful to me after I listened for a short while, but then it became repetitive. I'm glad I listened, because I got a helpful tip in the process. But I didn't finish it, so I don't know what I would've thought had I done so. "
— Dianne, 12/9/2009 -
" This book was hard to read but I found myself reading sections over and over again. <br/>I love her perspective on life. "
— Grace, 10/13/2009 -
" Loved it as much as the others from this author "
— Leslie, 8/30/2009 -
" I love this one! It's even better than Loving What Is. "
— Pam, 7/22/2009 -
" More on Katie's theme, there is power and peace in investigating your painful thoughts. And here's a hint: they are always untrue at their core. "
— Sherril, 7/8/2009 -
" The title says it all. Another life-changing book. "
— Alaina, 7/2/2009
About Byron Katie
Byron Katie, a speaker and author of nine books, discovered self-inquiry in 1986 and developed her remarkable method for finding happiness and freedom, called the Work. She has been traveling around the world for more than a dozen years teaching The Work directly to hundreds of thousands of people. In addition, she has introduced The Work into business settings, universities, schools, churches, prisons, and hospitals.