Celebrating twenty years since its release, He’s Just Not That Into You remains a game-changer, offering no-nonsense advice for how to spot when a guy just isn’t interested—saving you from wasting time making excuses for a dead-end relationships. Inspired by a memorable episode of the iconic show Sex and the City, it holds its ground as the best relationship advice you'll ever get!
For ages, women have come together over coffee, cocktails, or late-night phone chats to analyze the puzzling behavior of men.
He’s afraid to get hurt again.
Maybe he doesn’t want to ruin the friendship.
Maybe he’s intimidated by me.
He just got out of a relationship.
Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo are here to say that—despite good intentions—you’re wasting your time. Men are not complicated, although they’d like you to think they are. And there are no mixed messages.
The truth may be, He’s just not that into you.
Unfortunately, guys are too terrified to ever directly tell a woman, “You're not the one.” But their actions absolutely show how they feel.
Reexamining familiar scenarios and classic mindsets that keep us in unsatisfying relationships, Behrendt and Tuccillo’s wise and wry understanding of the sexes spares women hours of waiting by the phone, obsessing over the details with sympathetic girlfriends, and hoping his mixed messages really mean, “I’m in love with you and want to be with you.”
He’s Just Not That Into You is provocative, hilarious, and, above all, intoxicatingly liberating. It deserves a place on every woman’s night table. It knows you’re a beautiful, smart, funny woman who deserves better. The next time you feel the need to start “figuring him out,” consider the glorious thought that maybe, He’s just not that into you. And then set yourself loose to go find the one who is.
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"This book was really funny and motivating at the same time. I'd seen the movie, but of course this isn't a novel, so they were totally different. I recognized myself in SO MANY of the examples, which was very humbling. Definitely a book I will read again."
— Anastasia (5 out of 5 stars)
“Copies of He’s Just Not That Into You have become more difficult to find in America than an honest boyfriend.”
— Sunday Times (London)“[A] smart, funny and surprisingly upbeat little book.”
— Publishers Weekly“A refreshing production of this popular little book.”
— Audiofile“The empowering message that a woman deserves a man who truly loves her and not one that she must constantly make excuses for can’t be learned too early.”
— School Library Journal" Loved the film & this came free with a magazine so I'm happy! Every woman should read this, it's an important wake up call! "
— Suzanne, 2/7/2014" Very entertaining and insightful quick read. Made me realize that there are definitely other ladies out there struggling in the dating world! "
— Elizabeth, 2/7/2014" Fun read. Good reminders to make sure that you are happy in whatever relationship you are in. "
— Darlene, 2/3/2014" I really wish I had read this before I had started dating! Would have saved me from A LOT of mistakes! "
— Joan, 2/2/2014" I wish I had read this about two years earlier than I did. It would have been helpful. "
— Elaina, 1/26/2014" So good! Eye opening in some ways and really good reminder for women! Behrendt approaches a sensitive topic with humor, respect, and truth. It's actually a really freeing and empowering read! "
— Charity, 1/22/2014" Wish i read this book when i was single! I could've really used the helpful tips. Nonetheless, the book was a page-turner. Truly entertaining. But like many ordinary books, you forget about it the moment you finish reading it. "
— Naomi, 1/21/2014" This book is mainly about people and their relationships. They would write to the author Greg Behrendt and tell him what's been going on with their relationship. Greg would write them back and tell them how he feel, he would say maybe he's just not that into you. "
— Alicia, 1/19/2014" This is a great book to read after a break-up... :) "
— Andrea, 1/19/2014" Not my favorite advice books, could have covered more topics. I was actually disappointed because of the huge hype over this book "
— Colleen, 1/18/2014" Great book for all single ladies; skip the movie unless you want a chick flick for the girls. "
— Jennifer, 1/16/2014" This book really opened my eyes and heart. I really believe this is such a good read for all those with any doubts in dating or relationships. "
— Ninjaertle, 12/26/2013" Gah, gah, gah. This is what comes of reading out of someone else's bookshelf. "
— Chinook, 12/26/2013" It was ok. After reading it, I didn't understand all the hype surrounding it. Every story or anecdote told in the book was basically common sense. "
— Kristina, 12/22/2013" I threw this book across the room. What a load of toss. "
— Joanne, 12/6/2013" An entertaining book about men and relationships! A must read! :-) "
— Kari, 7/19/2013" great guidance based on real experience. learn about general rules to successful relationships. This will help you find the love you deserve and prevent you from wasting time on loveless, dead-end relationships. "
— Rio, 4/26/2013" Every woman should read this. Every mother should buy it for their daughters. "
— Carol, 3/20/2013" Funny!! Better than I expected and funnier than I planned! "
— Carey, 3/1/2013" This book is more of a self-help book. It's entertaining but the movie is sooo much better. "
— Emily, 12/9/2012" Had some good advice, but the writing style grated on me. "
— Katie, 11/8/2012" I'm not that into this book. "
— Lian, 8/27/2012" Honest and funny - because of it's honesty. A good read for any woman who has ever made excuses or tried to justify a man's less than stellar behavior. "
— Leigh, 6/6/2012" Pinjem punya mba Mel ... dan setelah membaca sampai juga pada kesimpulan ... he's just not that into me .... huaaaaaaaaaaa *nangis2 bombay "
— Vidia, 4/8/2012" Careful for language/scandalousness. This book changed my views on dating. "
— Liz, 12/24/2011" Nemenin Echa baca buku ini....hehehehe. "
— Roos, 12/14/2011" The movie, to me, was more enjoyable. "
— Tena, 8/19/2011" I had to know what all the hype was about this one ... Brings back fun memories ... I read it with my husband when we first started dating ... Funny! "
— Kristine, 7/19/2011" A wake-up call, what else can I say :D? "
— Chi, 5/20/2011" Pria : Wanita memang susah dimengerti!! <br/>Wanita : Pria memang rumit !! <br/> <br/>Buku ini memberi petunjuk-petunjuk kecil. Bahwa laki-laki yang mendekatimu, belum tentu mencintai dan serius denganmu. "
— Alvina, 5/18/2011" I had to know what all the hype was about this one ... Brings back fun memories ... I read it with my husband when we first started dating ... Funny! "
— Kristine, 5/10/2011" This is hands down one of the most enlightening, fantastically insightful books I've ever read. I recommend it to EVERY woman between the ages of 14 - 60! "
— Lisa, 5/6/2011" I thought this book was very straight forward and I've given it to a lot of my friends for birthday/christmas presents. "
— Katey, 5/5/2011" Every unmarried woman must read this book!!! "
— Nydia, 5/3/2011" This book is a must read for every girl out there whether you are single, in a relationship, dating, or even married. This book is AMAZING. Greg and Liz are like the Yoda's of dating. One of the best books I have read in a while. "
— Chantel, 5/1/2011" Fun read. Good reminders to make sure that you are happy in whatever relationship you are in. "
— Darlene, 4/28/2011" Although a little vulgar at times, this humorous but true book is a must read for any woman! I'm looking forward to watching the movie. "
— Cheryl, 4/24/2011" I enjoyed this book. Funny and cute. I think it's a little extreme but overall I liked it. "
— Lauren, 4/24/2011Greg Behrendt and his acclaimed stand-up comedy has been seen in several HBO and Comedy Central specials as well as countless television appearances. He’s the bestselling coauthor of He’s Just Not That Into You, later adapted to film, and a former screenwriting consultant for Sex and the City. Behrendt lives in Los Angeles with his wife and children.
Liz Tuccillo was an executive story editor of HBO’s Emmy-winning series Sex and the City and has also written for Off Broadway. She is currently living and dating in New York City.