Healing the Shame that Binds You is the most enduring work of family relationship expert and New York Times bestselling author John Bradshaw. In it, he shows how unhealthy toxic shame, often learned young and maintained into adulthood, is the core component in our compulsions, co-dependencies, addictions and drive to superachieve. While positive shame empowers us and sustains the fabric of our social system, inappropriate or misdirected shame results in the breakdown of our self-esteem, the destruction of the family system, and an inability to move forward with our lives. In an honest and emotionally revealing style based largely on his personal experience with addiction and his decades as a counselor, John Bradshaw moves from the source and manifestation of toxic shame to the practical tools—affirmations, visualizations, inner voice and feeling work, guided meditations, and other healing techniques—that will release the shame that binds us to our past.
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"Without a doubt a must read for anyone working a 12 step program. My only wish is that I had access to, and the willingness to read, this book before I began having children. This books reminds us that everyone is formed from not only our own actions but things that happens and is passed on from our parents. This book provides proof that you can not save another, before saving yourself. It offers resolution in anger between parents and I and the ability to see who they were and how much they loved me. Then John Bradshaw offers you ways to re-member who you are and return to a ONEness not thought possible."
— Juanita (5 out of 5 stars)
" A very good book. I have not finished it yet but am finding great benefit in it already. I am learning that so much of what I do is self-soothing or avoidant to ease a sense of (toxic) shame I have held for a long time. This book helps me see and heal this. I am enjoying the audiobook version. Although the concepts are simple and seemingly common sense I get good value listening to some chapters more than once and can do that conveniently in the car or doing the dishes. "
— graham, 8/16/2017" This book gave me tools to start dealing with some old wounds. Most importantly, it gave me tools to help me shut up the negative voices in my head that tell me I'm not worthy. "
— Sandra, 2/1/2014" great book to read before you have kids! amazing!! "
— Prtwin2001, 1/31/2014" Great book! This book really nailed me and helped me to see how toxic shame has impacted my life. While I do believe in God personally, I don't agree with the author's assertion that someone who is an atheist or agnostic is "spiritually bankrupt." But this book is still a great tool in overcoming the shame that permeates our society. "
— Michael, 1/28/2014" There is a lot of good info, but also quite a bit of psyco-babble. "
— Seny, 1/28/2014" The beginning of this book is very strange as is the ending, but the basics on shame in childhood and being passed on generation after generation was powerful. I appreciated a lot of the insights in this book. "
— Chrystal, 1/20/2014" First read in the 1980s, it is a book I go back to from time to time and am amazed at how relevant it still is. And the remarkable thing is, as I get older, I get different things out of it each time. An amazing book for anyone who is on the path of self-discovery. "
— Bruce, 1/15/2014" Rereading this (a new edition). I am getting a lot more out of it this time -- a deeper layer. The description says it all for me. "
— Karin, 1/13/2014" I always come back to this book. whenever I'm stuck and need some help, this book pulls me out of it, or atlease gives me a jumping off point. "
— Krystle, 1/10/2014" I was drawn in by the concept of some shame being "healthy" from a sociological perspective, but the book quickly lost my interest. I felt unconvinced towards his ideas of how shame effects us and what "good" shame constitutes. "
— Octavia, 12/11/2013" very very very very very very good!!! he is sopt on!!! "
— Reese, 12/5/2013" A Fantastic wonderful read for anyone looking to connect more deeply with themselves and others around them. "
— Shaun, 11/20/2013" Amazing book. You can get through anything! "
— Gloria, 11/10/2013" I read this book in CPE last summer and it rocked my world. "
— Billy, 9/19/2013" Helped me with some personal growth during a difficult time in my 20's. Now I would probably choose a book by Dan Allender or M. Scott Peck instead. "
— Karen, 8/31/2013" Every psychotherapist should read this book - then give it to their clients to read. "
— Melanie, 8/26/2013" must read. will take time to digest and apply. "
— Brandon, 8/11/2013" Read this in college, very insightful and helps you become aware of why people might do the things they do. I later worked for a shelter for battered women and this book helped me to be more understanding and less judgmental. Everyone has a story!! "
— Sonya, 8/10/2013" I'm not quite sure what I think of this book. It made some good points but I don't agree with some of the things he said. It could be helpful, but I'm not sure if it's relevant to my life at the moment. I will have to re-read this at a later time. "
— Rabbit, 4/28/2013" One of the best "Self-Help" books I've ever read. "
— Krista, 3/3/2013" This is one of the best books on the planet on healing shame and childhood neglect/ rejection abuse you name it . this book helps to HEAL the hurt. "
— sharon, 12/26/2012" Awesome book. This was the first book that I read about addictions. It was eye-opening and gave great insight into what causes and maintains addiction. "
— Stephany, 8/30/2012" A fascinating book, especially for those who grew up in a culture of shame. Bradshaw lays it on the line and exposes family dynamics that many of us have kept buried. He, unlike many authors of this genre, actually gives a way out. A difficult book... "
— John, 8/28/2012" When I read this book some years ago, it was life changing. I liked how the book differentiates between healthy and unhealthy shame, and validates how shame (contrary to societal beliefs) is a valid emotion just like any other. "
— Orna, 8/17/2012" Though it had a lot of good points and helps a person to reflect, I felt like it caused all these negative emotions of the past to reemerge more than they need to. Which, in turn, created the opposite effect than what I wanted in reading it. "
— Jennifer, 6/15/2012" If you have the guts to read this, then I DARE you. "
— Cliff, 2/28/2012" Excellent book for those in recovery from shame and abusive/neglectful parenting. "
— Lisa, 11/20/2011" gives great inner sight to the individual reading the book. "
— Susan, 8/10/2011John Bradshaw (1933–2016) was at the forefront of the self-help and recovery field for more than twenty years. He has helped millions of people improve their lives through his ongoing lecture series, his four nationally broadcast public television series, and his bestselling books, which include Healing the Shame that Binds You, Homecoming, Creating Love, Family Secrets, and Reclaiming Virtue. In 1991, he was nominated for an Emmy Award for Outstanding Talk Show Host for his series Bradshaw On: Homecoming. He was born in Houston, Texas, and earned his bachelor’s and master’s degrees from St. Michael’s College at the University of Toronto and continued his studies at Rice University and the University of Santa Monica.
John Pruden is an Earphones Award–winning audiobook narrator. His exposure to many people, places, and experiences throughout his life provides a deep creative well from which he draws his narrative and vocal characterizations. His narration of The Killing of Crazy Horse by Thomas Powers was chosen by the Washington Post as a Best Audiobook of 2010.