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Allies in Healing: When the Person You Love Is a Survivor of Child Sexual Abuse Audiobook
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"But what about me?"
"Is it possible to go one day without dealing with the survivor's issues?"
"Will we ever make love again?"
"Will the survivor love me in the end?"
"How do I know if I should throw in the towel?"
Based on in-depth interviews and her workshops for partners across the country, Laura Davis offers practical advice and encouragement to all partners—girlfriends, boyfriends, spouses, and lovers—trying to support the survivors in their lives while tending to their own needs along the way. She shows couples how to deepen compassion, improve communication, and develop an understanding of healing as a shared activity. Addressing partners' most important questions, Allies in Healing covers:
- The Basics—answers common questions about sexual abuse.
- Allies in Healing—introduces key concepts of working and growing together.
- My Needs and Feelings—teaches partners to recognize, value, and express their own needs.
- Dealing with Crisis—includes strategies for handling suicidal feelings, regression, and hopelessness.
- Intimacy and Communication—offers practical advice on dealing with distancing, control, trust, and fighting.
- Sex—provides guidelines for coping with flashbacks, lack of desire, differences in sexual needs, and frustration.
- Family lssues—suggests a range of ideas for interacting with the survivor's family.
- Partners' Stories—explores the struggles, triumphs, and courage of eight partners.
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"One of the most helpful books I have read. Partners and intimates of survivors need to read this. Strikes many sensitive spots, but damn me if I wasn't laughing, crying, and LEARNING from this book. Couldn't recommend it more."
— Maren (5 out of 5 stars)
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“Even if Allies in Healing wasn’t provocative, compelling, deeply sensitive, and—at moments—funny, it would still be a valuable addition to the litera of healing. But it is all of these things. Laura Davis has done it again.”
— Geneen Roth, New York Times bestselling author of When Food Is Love -
“This is an essential, long overdue book.”
— Harville Hendrix, PhD, author of Getting the Love You Want -
“Laura Davis has written a gentle, compassionate, and affirming book. Allies in Healing is a gift to the millions who struggle as partners of survivors.”
— Stephanie S. Covington, PhD, coauthor of Leaving the Enchanted Forest -
“Among the healthy proliferation of new books in the field of sexual abuse, Allies in Healing is one of the most urgently needed. I am relieved to finally have an intelligent, sensitive, and supportive book to recommend to partners who are struggling to take care of themselves and to help the survivors they love. Partners deserve help, too. Allies in Healing gives help that is honest, practical, and true.”
— Ellen Bass, coauthor of The Courage to Heal -
“A splendid, invaluable resource for recovery. Clear, comprehensive, smart, and deeply human. I recommend it to all male and female survivors, and for the counselors and therapists who work with them. Savor it and respect your own pace.”
— Mike Lew, author of Victims No Longer -
“This is a wonderful book...Partners of survivors will turn to their copies of Allies in Healing over and over again.”
— Fay Honey Knopp, director, Safer Society Program
Allies in Healing Listener Reviews
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" This book is of NO help to the spouse of a child sexual abuse survivor. It doesn't give you a path to normal healthy adult sexual relationship. It tells you your partner needs a "healing vacation from sex", apparently forever as all the case history's cited are of people still celibate in marriage. "
— carl, 4/10/2013
About Laura Davis
Laura Davis is the author of The
Courage to Heal Workbook, Allies in Healing, Becoming
the Parent You Want to Be, and I Thought We’d Never Speak Again.
She teaches writing and lives with her family in Santa Cruz, California.
About the Narrators
Xe Sands has more than a decade of experience bringing stories to life through narration, performance, and visual art, including recordings of the Nightwalkers series from Jaquelyn Frank. She has received several honors, including AudioFile Earphones Awards and a coveted Audie Award, and she was named Favorite Debut Romance Narrator of 2011 in the Romance Audiobooks poll.
Lloyd James (a.k.a. Sean Pratt) has been a working professional actor in theater, film, television, and voice-overs for more than thirty years. He has narrated over one thousand audiobooks and won numerous Earphones Awards and nominations for the Audie Award and the Voice Arts Award. He holds a BFA degree in acting from Santa Fe University, New Mexico.