Once upon a time, Martians and Venusians functioned in separate worlds. But in today's hectic and career-oriented environment, relationships have become a lot more complicated, and men and women are experiencing unprecedented levels of stress. To add to the increasing tension, most men and women are also completely unaware that they are actually hardwired to react differently to the stress. It's a common scenario: a husband returns home from work stressed out and eager to kick back on the couch and watch television. A wife returns home from work stressed out and wants to talk about it with her husband. What happens? Neither is on the same page, anger and resentment set in, and Mars and Venus collide.
Using his signature insight that has helped millions of couples transform their relationships, John Gray once again arms the inhabitants of Mars and Venus with information that will help them live harmoniously ever after. In Why Mars and Venus Collide, Gray focuses on the ways that men and women misinterpret and mismanage the stress in their daily lives, and how these reactions ultimately affect their relationships. ""It's not that he's just not into you; he needs to fulfill a biological need,"" Gray explains. ""And it's not that she wants to henpeck you; she also has a biological drive."" He shows, for instance, how a husband's withdrawal is actually a natural way for him to replenish his depleted testosterone levels and restore his well-being, and how a woman's need for conversation and support helps her build her own stress-reducing hormone, oxytocin.
Backed up by groundbreaking scientific research, Gray offers a clear, easy-to-understand program to bridge the gap between the two planets, providing effective communication strategies that will actually lower stress levels. Whether in a relationship or single, this book will help both men and women understand their new roles in a modern, work-oriented society, and allow them to discover a variety of new and practical ways to create a lifetime of love and harmony.
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"I thought after reading the first book I can skip this one. I was wrong.This book explores how and why Women and Men are biologically different. From there you would understand reasons of our actions. Anyone can read it.Single or married. You can understand more on human reactions."
— Calyn (4 out of 5 stars)
“Gray’s insights are truthful and easy to understand…the lessons he preaches are the real stars. Gray offers simple insights for both sexes, useful even if you aren't involved in a relationship.
— Library Journal“Helpful in any relationship.”
— BooklistThought provoking and illuminating.”
— BookPage" I definitely learned a lot about how men and women process stress...and it's very different. But take a lot of the author's tips with grain of salt...he's quite biased towards men. Not surprising... "
— Chandra, 2/15/2014" I can't decide whether the content is sexist or not. But it is true that couples are experiencing high stress in this current society. I liked the tips about owning your own health and taking care of yourself so that you will rely less on your partner for helping you cope with stress. Also, the more you take care of yourself, the more you can enjoy your partner. I think this works for both people in the relationship. I think there are fundamental differences between males and females (especially with hormones). The more you know and understand the better you can understand and know. "
— Elizabeth, 2/11/2014" Great information on the biological differences between men and women. "
— Rachel, 2/9/2014" A little kitschy. But okay, there are some good ideas (like listening to each other). However, I found it to be a little stereotyped, and definitely did not always identify with the women he was describing. This book does not apply to everyone. "
— Miss, 2/7/2014" membuat para venus dan mars mengerti tentang perbedaan yang dimiliki dan membantu mengatasi permasalahan yang biasa terjadi antara dua makhluk planet yang punya cara berkomunikasi yang berbeda... "
— Ellya, 2/2/2014" A very interesting look at how men and women differ on some basic physical, emotional, spiritual, and mental levels. "
— Christy, 1/27/2014" Wow. That's why he says those things and reacts like that!! This book is really going to help me a lot to understand myself, what I need but also what he needs to recharge and reduce stress. "
— Jaime, 1/26/2014" Excellent book! Very practical and useful in avoiding and defusing unnecessary arguments and conflicts in relationships, and enhancing better communication skills to combat inevitable misunderstandings. Highly recommended! "
— Ryan, 1/25/2014" Not so amazing as previous book by John Gray. But still interesting. "
— Veronika, 1/18/2014" really, its an amazing book .. Gray helped me to understand the different between male and female , also he presented the best ways to deal with other sex .. "
— Mohammed, 1/15/2014" A very good book that talks about how men and women view things differently and also clearly shows the love each has for other. "
— Sanjivi, 1/6/2014" men and women are equal but they are not the same ... the most expressing words about the ideal relation between men and women "
— Hala, 1/1/2014" Extremely useful tool book for day-to-day encounters with the opposite sex "
— Maggie, 12/14/2013" Eye-opener for me in several ways. Learned the chemistry of stress and behaviors that indicate stress and behaviors that can de-stress. Added a new dimension to dealing with stress. Easy reading. Lots of sample scenarios and suggestions. "
— Claudia, 12/3/2013" Wow! Yay! I'm not alone with my frustrations! It's turning me into someone who is much easier to get along with, relationship-wise. "
— Mercedes, 9/27/2012" There are actually some truths in the behaviors described in this book regarding both men and women and how we interact and react to situations...interesting read so far. "
— Lily, 3/16/2012" This is a wonderful book that I highly recommend for all people who seek to have a great marital relationship. The counsel that the author provides gives the reader practical ways to create a relationship that increases individual partner satisfaction. Highly, highly, recommend it. "
— Nicole, 1/24/2012" Offers much insight for better understanding and better communicating with your partner. Read it together. "
— Cyndi, 1/11/2012" I don't know how much science is behind these John Gray books, but they sure seem to be accurate descriptions of men vs. women. Probably correct that the best way for men to improve their relationships is to "be a man," not to act like a woman. "
— Jonathan, 12/14/2011" Ok, so I didn't even read the first book. But who needs to? It's the same old, same old. Some good lessons in there I guess. But I wouldn't exactly build it into the mainframe of how I deal with the opposite sex :) "
— Jennifer, 10/29/2011" Ah... very insiteful, don't ask your husband to help with the dishes, it really won't make you happy, but the book will teach you about how to solve your stress issues with the other gender. "
— Mindy, 10/8/2011" I enjoy reading Dr. Gray's book. This book brings out many issues in gender differences that we often overlook. Highly recommended. "
— Maly, 9/23/2011" The lists of actions to take are highly useful, the pace of the book less so. "
— Liss, 7/19/2011" Pseudo-science raised to an art form. If there is any stereotypical behavior that can't be simplistically explained and justified by hormonal differences, it hasn't entered the author's darkest dreams. "
— Sally, 5/13/2011" It's funny reading this book because I can relate to each and every section I have read so far. It makes sense... "
— Miso, 8/8/2010" Not so amazing as previous book by John Gray. But still interesting. "
— Veronika, 7/11/2010" The lists of actions to take are highly useful, the pace of the book less so. "
— Liss, 6/18/2010" really, its an amazing book .. Gray helped me to understand the different between male and female , also he presented the best ways to deal with other sex .. "
— Mohammed, 1/11/2010" membuat para venus dan mars mengerti tentang perbedaan yang dimiliki dan membantu mengatasi permasalahan yang biasa terjadi antara dua makhluk planet yang punya cara berkomunikasi yang berbeda... "
— Ellya, 10/11/2009" A very interesting look at how men and women differ on some basic physical, emotional, spiritual, and mental levels. "
— Christy, 7/20/2009" This book is the best! I feel so much happier and less stressed!!! Jared has seen and benefitted from the dramatic lessons I've learned that are contained in this magic book :) I have a little bit left to go, but as soon as I'm done I think he will read it too. "
— Katie, 6/18/2009" I enjoy reading Dr. Gray's book. This book brings out many issues in gender differences that we often overlook. Highly recommended. "
— Maly, 6/9/2009" Very interesting book. It's good to be aware of the differences between men and women before attempting any type of relationship. "
— Maren, 4/14/2009John Gray, PhD, is the bestselling relationship author of all time. He has written more than fifteen bestselling books, including Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus, one of the bestselling books of the last decade. In the past two decades, over forty million Mars Venus books have been sold in over forty-five languages throughout the world. An expert in the field of communication, Gray’s focus is to help men and women understand, respect, and appreciate their differences in both personal and professional relationships. He has appeared on Oprah, Today, Good Morning America, the Early Show, the View, Politically Incorrect, Larry King, and other programs. He has been profiled in Newsweek, Time, Forbes, USA Today, TV Guide, People, and New Age Journal, among other publications. In addition to being a certified family therapist, Gray is a consulting editor of the Family Journal and a member of the Distinguished Advisory Board of the International Association of Marriage and Family Counselors. In 2001 he received the Smart Marriages Impact Award.