NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER
Nominated for the NAACP Image Award for Outstanding Literary Work
Named a Best Book of the Year by The Root
Chosen by Emma Straub as a Best New Celebrity Memoir
“A book of essays as raw and honest as anyone has ever produced.” — Lena Dunham, Lenny Letter
In the spirit of Amy Poehler’s Yes Please, Lena Dunham’s Not That Kind of Girl, and Roxane Gay's Bad Feminist, a powerful collection of essays about gender, sexuality, race, beauty, Hollywood, and what it means to be a modern woman.
One month before the release of the highly anticipated film The Birth of a Nation, actress Gabrielle Union shook the world with a vulnerable and impassioned editorial in which she urged our society to have compassion for victims of sexual violence. In the wake of rape allegations made against director and actor Nate Parker, Union—a forty-four-year-old actress who launched her career with roles in iconic ’90s movies—instantly became the insightful, outspoken actress that Hollywood has been desperately awaiting. With honesty and heartbreaking wisdom, she revealed her own trauma as a victim of sexual assault: "It is for you that I am speaking. This is real. We are real."
In this moving collection of thought provoking essays infused with her unique wisdom and deep humor, Union uses that same fearlessness to tell astonishingly personal and true stories about power, color, gender, feminism, and fame. Union tackles a range of experiences, including bullying, beauty standards, and competition between women in Hollywood, growing up in white California suburbia and then spending summers with her black relatives in Nebraska, coping with crushes, puberty, and the divorce of her parents. Genuine and perceptive, Union bravely lays herself bare, uncovering a complex and courageous life of self-doubt and self-discovery with incredible poise and brutal honesty. Throughout, she compels us to be ethical and empathetic, and reminds us of the importance of confidence, self-awareness, and the power of sharing truth, laughter, and support.
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"I think Gabrielle taking the time to narrate the book was brilliant. I love hearing about her life stories from her!!"
— Kimmy (5 out of 5 stars)
“A hilarious and moving memoir from a natural storyteller.”
— Brit Bennett, New York Times bestselling author“An honest conversation with Gabrielle about her life. I appreciate her integrity, love her humor and openness about her life…Go, girl.”
— Chelsea Handler, #1 New York Times bestselling author“It’s honest, raw, and funny.”
— Phoebe Robinson, New York Times bestselling author“I love this woman and her book.”
— Mindy Kaling, New York Times bestselling author“Stunning…an affirmation of [Union’s] uncanny insight and profound capacity for empathy.”
— Entertainment Weekly“Searing and powerful.”
— Washington Post“Throughout, Union is warm, outspoken, laugh-out-loud funny, and unafraid to reveal painful moments or the versions of herself that had a thing or two to learn…Sure to be a crowd-pleaser, and deservedly so.”
— Booklist (starred review)“[A] thought-provoking, funny, tell-it-like-it-is essay collection.”
— Cosmopolitan“The actress’ touching personal stories about race, fame, sexuality, feminism, and family leave a lasting impression.”
— AudioFile“Personal, reflective moments that reveal various aspects of an actress and activist’s life.”
— Kirkus ReviewsGabrielle Union is an actress, executive producer, activist, author, and a Time100 cover honoree. Her first book, We’re Going to Need More Wine: Stories That Are Funny, Complicated and True, was a New York Times bestseller. She has also written two books for children. She serves as a leader and advocate for inclusion in the entertainment industry. She is also a champion of breast health and combating sexual violence. In 2020, she relaunched her haircare brand “Flawless by Gabrielle Union” for women with textured hair. She joined Bitsy’s as a cofounder with the goal of making healthy, allergen- friendly, school-safe snacks that are accessible and affordable for all families regardless of their socioeconomic or geographical status.