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Author: Andrew McCarthy Narrator: Andrew McCarthy Publisher: Brilliance Audio Format: Unabridged Audiobook Delivery: Instant Download Audio Length: Release Date: September 2012 ISBN: 9781469248400
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Unable to commit to his fiancée of nearly four years—and with no clear understanding of what’s holding him back—Andrew McCarthy finds himself at a crossroads, plagued by doubts that have clung to him for a lifetime. Something in his character has kept him always at a distance, preventing him from giving himself wholeheartedly to the woman he loves and from becoming the father that he knows his children deserve. So before he loses everything he cares about, Andrew sets out to look for answers.

Hobbling up the treacherous slopes of Mt. Kilimanjaro, dodging gregarious passengers aboard an Amazonian riverboat, and trudging through dense Costa Rican rain forests—Andrew takes us on exotic trips to some of the world’s most beautiful places, but his real journey is one of the spirit.

On his soul-searching voyages, Andrew traces the path from his New Jersey roots, where acting saved his life—and early fame almost took it away—to his transformation into a leading travel writer. He faces the real costs of his early success and lays bare the evolving nature of his relationships with women. He explores a strained bond with his father, and how this complex dynamic shapes his own identity as a parent. Andrew charts his journey from ambivalence to confidence, from infidelity and recklessness to acceptance and a deeper understanding of the internal conflicts of his life.

A gifted writer with an unsparing eye, Andrew relishes bizarre encounters with the characters whom he encounters, allowing them to challenge him in unexpected ways. He gets into peculiar, even dangerous situations that put him to the test—with mixed results. Disarmingly likable, Andrew is open, honest, and authentic, and what emerges is an intimate memoir of self-discovery and an unforgettable love song to the woman who would be his wife.

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Quotes & Awards

  • “The reader gets to see the world in a way that only the author can show it and vicariously inhabit a self that only one person can be…McCarthy achieves this with charm and credibility.”

    Cheryl Strayed, #1 New York Times bestselling author of Wild

  • “It’s hard to write books that are both adventurous and touching, but Andrew McCarthy manages to pull it off and more! A smart, valuable book.”

    Gary Shteyngart, New York Times bestselling author of Absurdistan

  • “Andrew McCarthy treks from Baltimore to the Amazon, exploring his commitment issues as fearlessly as he scales Mount Kilimanjaro.”


  • “A candid, touching, and often humorous new memoir.”

    San Francisco Chronicle

  • “Brave and moving…McCarthy’s keen sense of scene and storytelling ignites his accounts…threaded with an exemplary vulnerability and propelled by a candid exploration of his own life’s frailties.”

    National Geographic Traveler

  • “McCarthy delivers a deeply revealing memoir about settling down, both with a woman and in his own skin. An unflinchingly honest examination of his life as an actor, son, brother, husband, and father, as well as his struggle with committing to a woman in his life whom he plans to—and does, by the end of the book—marry in Dublin. Alcoholism, infidelity, the dark side of celebrity—McCarthy holds nothing back…He skillfully brings the locations and their characters to life…Like the best travel, accompanying McCarthy on his road toward self-awareness and the woman he loves is much more about the journey than the destination.”

    Gotham Magazine

  • “In this carefully modulated record of self-discovery, actor turned travel writer McCarthy…tries to confront the author’s relentless need to shy and duck. Impressionistic moments such as venturing out onto the Perito Moreno Glacier in Patagonia, riding down the Amazon, mingling among other ‘escapees’ in the gold-mining Osa Peninsula of Costa Rica, and riding the clamor of a family outing in Vienna help release, if reluctantly bit by bit, his solitariness. Remote and diffident, McCarthy confronts very real male fears of being stifled and restrained.”

    Publishers Weekly

  • “This is not some memoir written by an actor who fancies himself a world traveler. McCarthy really is a world traveler—and a damned fine writer, too. The book features eight destinations—New York, Patagonia, the Amazon, the Osa, Vienna, Baltimore, Kilimanjaro, and Dublin—and, along the way, McCarthy explores himself, too, introducing us to a man whose love for life is matched only by his love for the woman he would eventually marry (and whose growing importance to McCarthy is a thread that runs throughout the book.”


  • “[McCarthy] shows off his writing chops in this memoir of his gradual resolution of the major conflicts in his life…Combining the best aspects of Paul Theroux’s misanthropy in books like Old Patagonian Express and Elizabeth Gilbert’s emotions in Eat, Pray, Love, this book is hard to put down. Bound to be popular, this compelling and honest chronicle will not disappoint readers.”

    Library Journal

  • “Former 1980s heartthrob actor McCarthy embraces world travel to make sense of life after movie stardom…Whether he’s walking alone in Spain, taking a group river cruise down the Amazon, or slurping coffee in Vienna with his family, McCarthy’s writing slips deep into the intensely personal territory of memory.”

    Kirkus Reviews

  • Named a Financial Times Best Book of the Year in 2012

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  • 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5 Mary | 2/15/2014

    " Witty, insightful, and painfully honest. "

  • 5 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 5 Nicola | 2/9/2014

    " Really enjoyed this book. Nice change from the usual autobiography style books. Interesting to read about some of the unusual places Andrew has visited and he is very open with personal aspects of his life. Would definatly recommend it. "

  • 3 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 5 Ellen | 2/4/2014

    " An enjoyable beach book. "

  • 3 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 5 Stephanie | 2/1/2014

    " Touching and insightful memoir by a travel writer/actor exploring his fears of intimacy. "

  • 2 out of 52 out of 52 out of 52 out of 52 out of 5 Debbie | 1/24/2014

    " A very personal view of Andrew McCarthy's search of self. Kind of annoying that he kept referring to his fiance as "D". Kind of annoying that he kept leaving "D" and his kids, but his writing is good, and I liked reading about where he'd been, since they were such remote, distant places. "

  • 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5 Leila | 1/12/2014

    " I was surprised by how much I enjoyed this book. This book makes me want to journey the world to find a deeper meaning in my own life. "

  • 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5 Richard | 12/26/2013

    " I would actually give this 4 1/2 stars if I could I think. A man after my own heart. Gorgeous book about solitary travel and his quest to connect with his deeper self. Simply and eloquently written, it is by turns funny, interesting and deeply moving in a way I didn't expect. "

  • 1 out of 51 out of 51 out of 51 out of 51 out of 5 Jennifer | 11/17/2013

    " I just couldn't get into this book and I really wanted to. After reading about 150 pages I just had to stop. Really disappointed because I so wanted to like this book. A little too much in his head for my taste. "

  • 3 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 5 Jean | 11/4/2013

    " Andrew McCarthy's story of how he got over his cold feet (supposedly) to get married (the second time). But more like a travel book, which were the parts I liked best. He's a good storyteller. The title sounds like a headline from the Onion. I wonder....did he REALLY want to get married again? "

  • 3 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 5 Melissa | 10/13/2013

    " I would give this more of a two and a half starts. I wanted it to be better and it was just ok. I was not crazy about how he portrayed his soon-to-be wife and so in the end I did not care if they went through with getting married or not. "

  • 3 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 5 Kristen | 7/28/2013

    " Interesting because I'd traveled to most of the places, and am also getting married this year, so it was easy for me to relate to the balance of travel vs. permanency of a relationship. "

  • 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5 DeAnn | 11/18/2012

    " I didn't know Andrew McCarthy was a travel writer when I got this book. He's a talented guy, and this was an interesting read, both for the travel insights, as well as insights into his personal journey to marry his current wife. "

  • 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5 Tom | 10/16/2012

    " Enjoyable travelogue combined with the author's introspection about his motives for travel and the movie career that pushed him away from people. I really enjoyed this book and would recommend it to other readers who enjoy travel narratives and adventure travel stories. "

  • 3 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 5 Benny | 10/10/2012

    " Excellent! Been a fan of McCarthy's films for years. Now a fan of his writing, as well. Bravo! "

  • 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5 Rebecca | 10/1/2012

    " Andrew McCarthy, I like your twisted soul. :-) "

  • 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5 Bannon | 9/29/2012

    " This was a really good book, I loved reading about his travels and his wavering about his marriage. "

About the Author

Andrew McCarthy is a writer, actor, and director. He is an editor-at-large at National Geographic Traveler and has written for the New York Times, the Atlantic, the Wall Street JournalBon Appétit, Afar, and others. His book The Longest Journey Home was named a best book of 2012 by the Financial Times (London). He has won six Lowell Thomas Awards, and the Society of American Travel Writers named him Travel Journalist of the Year in 2010. He made his acting debut at nineteen and has appeared in dozens of films, including Pretty in Pink, St. Elmo’s Fire, and The Joy Luck Club. He lives in New York.