The summer Lisa A. Phillips turned thirty, she fell in love with someone who didn't return her feelings. She soon became obsessed. She followed him around, called him compulsively, and talked about him endlessly. One desperate morning, after she snuck into his apartment building, he picked up a baseball bat to protect himself and began to dial 911. Her unrequited love had changed her from a sane, conscientious college teacher and radio reporter into someone she barely recognized—someone who was taking her yearning much too far.
In Unrequited, Phillips explores the tremendous force of obsessive love in women's lives. Interweaving her own story with frank interviews and in-depth research in science, psychology, cultural history, and literature, Phillips describes how romantic obsession takes root, grows, and strongly influences our thoughts and behaviors.
As she illuminates this mysterious psychological experience, placing it in a rich and nuanced context, Phillips offers compelling insights to help any woman who has experienced unrequited obsessive love and been mystified and troubled by its grip.
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“An ingenious hybrid of memoir, case study, scientific inquiry and intellectual history…Required reading not only for every teenage girl in America but for every boy, man, and woman, whether partnered or not, because we could all use a dose of its well-researched wisdom.”
— Washington Post
Deeply researched and compellingly written.
— Colette Dowling, author of The Cinderella Complex“This book illuminates one of our most ingrained emotional experiences…A fluid storyteller…Phillips makes a convincing case for the universality of lovesickness.”
— Publishers Weekly“Phillips chases down the history of unrequited love, from courtly love to online courtships in which the interested parties may never meet…Unrequited lovers will learn they are not alone, and they will also acquire useful tips on ways of letting go for good.”
— Booklist“The author offers an empathetic, below-the-surface examination of what the ‘beloved’ means to the scorned woman…Compelling…Compassionate and, perhaps for some readers, encouraging.”
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Lisa A. Phillips is an assistant professor of journalism at SUNY New Paltz and the author of Public Radio: Behind the Voices. She has written for the New York Times, the Boston Globe, and other publications. A former award-winning radio reporter, she has contributed to NPR, Marketplace, and other public radio outlets.
Karen White has been narrating audiobooks of all genres since 1999. Honored to be included in AudioFile’s Best Voices, she’s also a four-time Audie Finalist and has earned multiple AudioFile Earphones Awards and Library Journal starred reviews.