Do you feel manipulated, controlled, or lied to? Are you the focus of intense, violent, and irrational rages? Do you feel you are "walking on eggshells" to avoid the next confrontation? If the answer is "yes," someone you care about may have borderline personality disorder (BPD)—a mood disorder that causes negative self-image, emotional instability, and difficulty with interpersonal relationships.
Stop Walking on Eggshells has already helped more than a million people with friends and family members suffering from BPD understand this difficult disorder, set boundaries, and help their loved ones stop relying on dangerous BPD behaviors. This fully revised third edition has been updated with the very latest BPD research on comorbidity, extensive new information about narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), the effectiveness of schema therapy, and coping and communication skills you can use to stabilize your relationship with the BPD or NPD sufferer in your life. This compassionate guide will enable you to:
● Make sense out of the chaos
● Stand up for yourself and assert your needs
● Defuse arguments and conflicts
● Protect yourself and others from violent behavior
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"This was a terrifically helpful book at a time when it was most needed. Thought the diagnosis (in our case) was wrong, the ideas and tools provided by the book helped nonetheless in handling the behavioral and emotional issues that were often very similar to those experienced by people with BPD. For those who may be friends or family of people suffering from borderline personality disorder, I can't recommend this book highly enough."
— Greg (5 out of 5 stars)
“A compendium of practical advice. Written in a friendly style, it’s like reading a letter from someone who really cares about you. New chapters, such as the chapter on BPD in children and teenagers, further enhance the book, discussing a previously ignored issue. I strongly recommend this five-star book.”
— Christine Adamec, coauthor of When Your Adult Child Breaks Your Heart" Even though I'm not dealing with someone with BPD, there were lots of great examples and reminders for effectively desling with troublesome areas in a relationship. The book was easy to read and offered a number of practical strategies. "
— Jennifer, 2/12/2014" Excellent tips on communication that work well diffusing conflict with persons with BPD and also persons without any personality disorders. I think I grew a lot through reading and processing this book. "
— Hav, 2/12/2014" Not as informative as I would have liked, and something about the apologia-laden tone of it annoyed me. But a readable and potentially useful bit of bibliotherapy for families/friends of people living with BPD. "
— Sandy, 2/4/2014" Good overview, there is a chapter for parents that provides an outline of issues. "
— Matriarchy, 1/25/2014" if someone in your life has borderline personality disorder, you need this book. "
— Jeff, 1/24/2014" I will never forget the acronym FOG, for things a person with borderline personality disorder uses in attempting to control another person's behavior: Fear, Obligation and Guilt. "
— Robert, 1/24/2014" Good introduction to the disease and methods to work with it. "
— Melissa, 1/22/2014" helpful for diagnosis and good ideas for adjusting communication. "
— Angela, 1/22/2014" Excellent for therapist to recommend to patients or for your own sanity. "
— Absolutnatalie, 1/20/2014" I took my life back and stopped reading it. "
— Cary, 1/18/2014" Someone in my life suffers from this disorder, and this is the most helpful book I have found. Very quick read and good to know that you have others to relate to! "
— Shannon, 12/31/2013" Umm yeah, I should have read this sooner.. "
— Nick, 12/16/2013" It's always good to know you're not the only one dealing with a BPD person. Just for that alone, I love this book. All the rest of the great info is gravy. "
— Foxthyme, 12/6/2013" Describes borderline personality disorder in an easy-to-read way. "
— Liz, 9/25/2013" Recommended read for anyone suffering with or who knows someone with BDP "
— Lynette, 9/15/2013" I think the solutions in the setting limits chapter were really helpful. Great book;) "
— Jillian, 7/4/2013" Interesting read, and lots of techniques for dealing with folks who have symptoms of BPD. "
— Bosley, 2/22/2013" extremely helpful. I wish I had the information in this book years ago. "
— Judy, 2/13/2013" A good starting point for those unfortunate enough to need information on Borderline Personality Disorder. A very personal and very touching reading experience. "
— Razi, 10/16/2012" I didn't know anything about borderline personality disorder (bpd) before I read this book. It was enlightening "
— Rachel, 10/2/2012" Another must-read for parish priests! "
— Debra, 5/23/2012" The "Go To" book for anyone who knows/cares about someone with Borderline Personality Disorder. One of the most difficult disorders for a family member/friend to live with. Highly recommend. "
— Anna, 1/4/2012" Excellent book if you have someone in your life with BPD. I wish I would have read this years ago. "
— Juliana, 12/7/2011" my guide through (or to, lol) The Darkness "
— John, 11/22/2011" Anyone that has lived with someone with BPD needs to read this! "
— Karakuykendall, 7/28/2011" if someone in your life has borderline personality disorder, you need this book. "
— Jeff, 7/26/2011" Interesting read, and lots of techniques for dealing with folks who have symptoms of BPD. "
— Bosley, 7/7/2011" If you know a borderline personality person, you really must read this book. It can change your life and theirs. "
— Dianna, 6/30/2011" This book literally has changed the way I look at my mother, my sibling and my interaction with each of them. It has given me a clearer understanding of who they are and who I am because of them. Most importantly, I know now that I have a CHOICE..... "
— Sven, 6/15/2011" helpful for diagnosis and good ideas for adjusting communication. "
— Angela, 5/25/2011" A great, oft-talked-about resource for people living with people with BPD. Very useful for understanding that 'special' someone in your life. We all have one. "
— Masamune's, 5/25/2011" Excellent resource for someone dealing with a person with BPD, it really helps you to understand what the person is going through and enable you to deal with the disorder. "
— Megan, 5/25/2011" So far this seems spot on. Hopefully it will have good resources for dealing with this person while keeping my sanity. "
— Kevin, 1/29/2011" This was very helpful in understanding why a past relationship was so difficult to be in. "
— Josh, 12/7/2010" NOT helpful. Actually more harmful than anything. Not approved by Dr. Marsha Linehan, creator of Dialectical Behavior Therapy. "
— Mary, 11/12/2010Randi Kreger has brought the concerns of family members who have a loved one with borderline personality disorder to an international forefront through her web site, www.bpdcentral.com, and the Welcome to Oz online support community. She offers family members a wide variety of more specialized booklets and other materials and was instrumental in the formation of the Personality Disorders Awareness Network (PDAN), a not-for-profit organization. Kreger is the author of The Essential Family Member Guide to Borderline Personality Disorder. She speaks and gives workshops about BPD internationally.
Kirsten Potter has won several awards, including more than a dozen AudioFile Earphones Awards and been a three-time finalist for the prestigious Audie Award for best narration. Her work has been recognized by the National Foundation for Advancement in the Arts and by AudioFile magazine, among many others. She graduated with highest honors from Boston University and has performed on stage and in film and television, including roles on Medium, Bones, and Judging Amy.