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Author: Amir Levine, Rachel Heller Narrator: Robert Petkoff Publisher: Penguin Random House Format: Unabridged Audiobook Delivery: Instant Download Audio Length: Release Date: November 2019 ISBN: 9780593171660
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"A groundbreaking book that redefines what it means to be in a relationship."
--John Gray, PhD., bestselling author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

We already rely on science to tell us what to eat, when to exercise, and how long to sleep. Why not use science to help us improve our relationships? In this revolutionary book, psychiatrist and neuroscientist Dr. Amir Levine and Rachel Heller scientifically explain why why some people seem to navigate relationships effortlessly, while others struggle.

Discover how an understanding of adult attachment—the most advanced relationship science in existence today—can help us find and sustain love. Pioneered by psychologist John Bowlby in the 1950s, the field of attachment posits that each of us behaves in relationships in one of three distinct ways:

   • Anxious people are often preoccupied with their relationships and tend to worry about their partner's ability to love them back
   • Avoidant people equate intimacy with a loss of independence and constantly try to minimize closeness.
   • Secure people feel comfortable with intimacy and are usually warm and loving.

Attached guides listeners in determining what attachment style they and their mate (or potential mate) follow, offering a road map for building stronger, more fulfilling connections with the people they love.

*Includes a PDF of the attachment style questionnaire

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Quotes & Awards

  • Attached is a fascinating and enormously useful guide to one of life's most important ventures-finding and sustaining a secure, satisfying love relationship. Based on twenty-five years of research, laced with vivid and instructive examples, and enriched with interesting and well-designed exercises, the book provides deep insights and invaluable skills that will benefit every reader. Phillip R. Shaver, PhD, Distinguished Professor of Psychology, University of California, Davis and Past President, International Association for Relationship Research
  • A groundbreaking book that redefines what it means to be in a relationship. John Gray, PhD., bestselling author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus
  • Amir Levine and Rachel Heller have written a very smart book: It is clear, easy to read and insightful. It's a valuable tool whether you are just entering a relationship with a new partner or-as in my case--even after you've been married 21 years, and had thought you knew everything about your spouse. Mariette DiChristina, editor in chief, Scientific American
  • Cinderella's prince passionately turned his kingdom upside down simply to find her perfectly shaped foot, and they lived happily ever after. This book is for the rest of us. Whether already in a relationship or prospecting, Attached is intended to coach the "you" part of "just the two of you". The authors have distilled years of attachment theory research on the nature of human relationships into a practical, highly readable guide, allowing it's users to prevent or untangle doomed relationships or predict and enhance those that will wear well and fit for a lifetime. John B. Herman, M.D., Associate Chief of Psychiatry and Distinguished Scholar of Medical Psychiatry, Massachusetts General Hospital and Associate Professor of Psychiatry, Harvard Medical School
  • This book is both fascinating and fun. Attached will help every reader understand whom they are attracted to as partners, why, and what they can do to reach fulfillment in love. I enjoyed every moment. Janet Klosko, PhD., co-author of the bestselling Reinventing Your Life
  • A practical, enjoyable guide to forming rewarding romantic relationships. Kirkus Reviews

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  • 5 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 5 Yasi | 2/10/2014

    " This book is written based on the concept that "knowledge is power". No matter which category of attachment you fall under, it's good to know the stupid things you might do due to your attachment category which will hurt others and yourself and therefore, avoid doing them! "

  • 3 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 5 Brittany | 1/27/2014

    " kind of dumb, but also kind of interesting? sped read this. "

  • 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5 Autumn | 1/26/2014

    " Incredibly helpful to understand my tendencies with relationships and to find hope in breaking the patterns. "

  • 3 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 5 Kevin | 1/22/2014

    " Interesting book with some points to think about. It wasn't amazing and it didn't leave me feeling like I had learned an incredible amount. It did make me want to look at relationships differently though, and for that I give some kudos to the author. I can very hesitantly (and surely somewhat inaccurately) look at and analyze my own relationships and those of my close friends and family, and look for the behavioral cues they point out. This book DID remind me a little of the axiom "to a hammer, everything's a nail". It seemed like these scientists found a very neat tool, and now seek to explain every possible aspect of romantic relationships using that tool. I'm not smart enough to discount anything they said, but it left me feeling like they tried to hard. I also couldn't stand how they tried to explain our relationship styles based on evolution. It seemed a wild logical leap that we either avoid or seek intimate relationships because we evolved that way. "

  • 5 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 5 Sarah | 1/19/2014

    " I'm a psychologist in private practice and have recommended this book to quite a few clients. Unlike other self-help books which can really be hit or miss in terms of appealing to a wide audience, this one has been deemed excellent by every person I loaned it out to and several went out and got their own copies so they could mark them up with notes. Great distillation of attachment research into useable insights to help the reader understand their own romantic relationships. Why do I keep getting involved with partners who reject me? Oh- I am an anxious type who has been pairing up with avoidants! How can I know if a partner is securely attached? What are the warning signs that a potential partner has attachment issues? Questionnaires and checklists included. "

  • 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5 bruin | 1/10/2014

    " i read this book for coaching work and was so impressed and totally captivated. now i want everyone i know to read it and talk about it with me! do it, do it, pretty pretty please :) "

  • 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5 Joanne | 1/7/2014

    " Although it seemed simplistic at first, the breakdown of attachment styles into "anxious", "avoidant" and "secure" made sense, backed up by numerous studies. The book offers tips on dealing with the effective and damaging parts of each style, and is an easy read for anyone interested in how people are attracted to one another, how to find the right person, and how to keep a relationship strong. "

  • 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5 Taryn | 1/5/2014

    " I wish I had read this 20 years ago. I might have saved myself a lot of grief... maybe. "

  • 5 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 5 Janet | 12/30/2013

    " Great, well-written, clear for the layperson to understand the basics behind attachment theory. Includes easy-to-use tests to examine your attachment style, as well as your partner's attachment style. "

  • 3 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 5 Darla | 12/24/2013

    " Interesting look at why people act crazy in relationships. Found it odd that at the beginning of the book they said no attachment style is wrong, but then they really emphasize trying to act like the folks who have a secure attachment style. Overall good message of communicate in your relationships. "

  • 5 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 5 Gretchen | 12/3/2013

    " Holy [email protected] I wonder what my life would have been like had I read this book 10 years ago, or even 5. I'd recommend this book to anyone who wonders why all their relationships seem to self-destruct. And to those relationship all-stars? Read it anyway. It will help you understand the people around you. "

  • 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5 Andy | 11/25/2013

    " Fascinating book about attachment theory in regards to adult relationships. Highly recommend for anyone with a history of rocky relationships -- or, well, anyone with a history of relationships. "

  • 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5 Paula | 11/5/2013

    " B+ for readability as self-help books go, IMO. Would like to listen again and follow the written exercises, which I could not do in the car. "

  • 5 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 5 Amy | 11/1/2013

    " Very useful for understanding how people relate to each other - mostly romantically, but also more generally. "

  • 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5 AJ | 1/11/2013

    " I wish I had this book earlier in my life. "

  • 5 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 5 Lila | 10/3/2012

    " Anyone in a relationship should read this! "

  • 5 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 5 Jennifer | 7/15/2012

    " This book is a life-changer. "

  • 5 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 5 Susan | 1/21/2012

    " Excellent book. I don't think I've ever read a book where I learned more about myself than this book. "

  • 2 out of 52 out of 52 out of 52 out of 52 out of 5 Hope | 12/29/2011

    " Not so ground breaking or even very interesting... "

  • 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5 Celeste | 9/29/2011

    " Sometimes the Universe gives you a book that you need to read. This one came to me for free on Audible, and I definitely needed to read it. It helped me see some patterns in my relationships, and I'm certain it will be similarly helpful to a lot of people. "

  • 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5 bruin | 6/29/2011

    " i read this book for coaching work and was so impressed and totally captivated. now i want everyone i know to read it and talk about it with me! do it, do it, pretty pretty please :) "

  • 3 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 5 Brittni | 5/29/2011

    " In the beginning what I was reading was very enlightening and I enjoyed it but after awhile it started turning too repetitive... Good book overall though. I like the case studies. "

  • 2 out of 52 out of 52 out of 52 out of 52 out of 5 astried | 4/10/2011

    " This book is making me feel like a failure & guilty as if i need more of that. On the other hand, what if this can make me a better person? Just can't stand reading it now though… "

  • 5 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 5 Kimberly | 4/1/2011

    " Great reading for all adoptive parents!! Helps put some context around normal attachment behavior. "

  • 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5 Rumi | 3/23/2011

    " An easy read on a sometimes difficult topic. A bit simplistic in its analysis but, what can I say, I'm a simple girl... "

  • 5 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 5 Niniane | 3/19/2011

    " Found this book very helpful and true-to-life. "

  • 5 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 5 Shira | 2/5/2011

    " Fascinating and insightful! A must read for both singles and couples. "

  • 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5 Alena | 1/22/2011

    " Fascinating so far. Claims there is no such thing as too dependent. Curious. "

About the Author

Amir Levine, MD, is an adult, child, and adolescent psychiatrist and neuroscientist. He graduated from the residency program at New York Presbyterian Hospital/Columbia University and is the author of Attached: The New Science of Adult Attatchment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love. He currently lives in New York City and Southampton, New York.

About the Narrator

Robert Petkoff is an actor and audiobook narrator who has won a prestigious Audie Award and multiple AudioFile Earphones Awards. He has appeared on Chappelle’s Show, Law & Order, and Quantum Leap. His Broadway credits include Sir Robin in Spamalot, Perchik in Fiddler on the Roof, and Tateh in Ragtime.