The truth is that I was never going to write a book. This is my first book and the eventual writing of “Me, My Selfie & Eye” came about from two huge motivators. First, I wanted to have an honest conversation with my Self. I had so many questions and my heart hurt so much and for so long, it was a way to sort through all the things I couldn’t name. The second motivator was how many people I knew that were going through similar midlife transitions and difficulties. Nearly everyone I talked to revealed they felt lost, lonely, overwhelmed, and confused. I really wanted people to feel less alone and have some insight or clarity about naming the identity loss as grief. I never wanted this to be about me or my story, per se, I hoped people would see themselves, or relate to the experiences of what I’d been through, merely as touchstones. The writing was incremental; this book took roughly four years. I let it go with the hopes that somewhere, somehow, someday, it connects in a meaningful way to help someone navigate an inherently rough time, and perhaps feel less alone. I’m excited to bring the book’s conversations out into the world, in real time, and thrilled to present topics related to midlife identity loss to book clubs, conferences, and workshops, as well as coach individuals through midlife grief. |
