In this hilarious and ultimately moving memoir, comedians and real-life married couple Annabelle Gurwitch and Jeff Kahn prove that in marriage, all you need is love-and a healthy dose of complaining, codependence, and pinot noir. After thirteen years of being married, Annabelle and Jeff have found "We're just not that into us." Instead of giving up, they've held their relationship together by ignoring conventional wisdom and fostering a lack of intimacy, by using parenting as a competitive sport, and by dropping out of couples therapy. The he-said/she-said chronicle of their intense but loving marriage includes an unsentimental account of the medical odyssey that their family embarked upon after their infant son was diagnosed with VACTERL, a very rare series of birth defects. Annabelle and Jeff's unforgivingly raw, uproariously funny story is sure to strike both laughter and terror in the hearts of all couples (not to mention every single man or woman who is contemplating the connubial state). Serving up equal parts sincerity and cynicism, You Say Tomato, I Say Shut Up is a laugh-out-loud must-read for everyone who has come to realize that being "in love" can only get you so far.
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"After reading this, I wonder why these people are still married, as they seem to do nothing but fight! But then I think that they are both very funny people exaggerating their conflicts for comic effect (I hope). The book isn't just funny, though, it contains a lot of thought-provoking stuff. It might be a very interesting book discussion title."
— Vicki (4 out of 5 stars)
" Not great literature, but some very funny parts. Objectionable language for some and I found some of their behaviors bizarre, but entertaining. "
— Royale, 2/19/2014" Fantastic audiobook. Very funny take on marriage. I think having these two funny authors read the book made the experience much more enjoyable than reading it in print. My only issue with the book was a few unnecessary "raunchy" sexual references, but otherwise, I loved everything else in this book. "
— Dana, 2/10/2014" It started off witty and creative but lost that for me. Retelling each story from each spouse is a little too redundant for me. "
— Melissa, 2/6/2014" This is not a love story. This a tale of two people, married, miserable and morose, living lives in their heads that they dare not share with each other. It's told as if two stories (he said, she said)and the shear grin and bear it of the novel is page turns of pain. Do not recommend. "
— Deedee, 2/3/2014" Just too funny. It's the perfect Playaway audio; I got lots of funny looks as I snickered and laughed out loud while listening while in public places. Hopeful, hilarious relationship anecdotes. "
— Francesca, 1/22/2014" his was really funny and entertaining most of the time. Annabelle and Jeff are so determined to win the competition for worst marriage that sometimes it gets tiresome. They seem to take pride in pointing out how miserable they are in their marriage, sometimes you're just wondering why they're still together. "
— Amber, 1/18/2014" I wouldn't rave about it, bit kind of funny, and easy to read. a little like being in on couples therapists at times, good message at the end I guess. "
— Alioh, 1/17/2014" A little raunchy (the guy writes for Ben Stiller movies), but often accurate and hilarious in its take on marriage. "
— Annette, 1/12/2014" Lol funny. A bit repetitive. "
— Margotreynolds, 1/11/2014" zzzzz. Couldn't read more than 30 pages. I thought it was supposed to be funny? "
— Thebestdogmom, 12/25/2013" The intro and first chapter were great - I laughed out loud several times. It kind of goes downhill from there. While he is funny, she comes off as mean and uncaring. It gets tiresome. "
— Laurie, 12/24/2013" While it is occasionally funny, I deeply disliked both of these people after reading 3/4 of this book and decided to move on to the many other books I hope don't include such nauseating narcissism. "
— Sara, 12/9/2013" Abandoned this one as I've read similar books before. Funny writing just not new to me. Its the Mars-Venus thing. "
— Amy, 7/26/2013" At first I thought what a crazy lady the wife was (even towards the end of the book she still is crazy) but even with all her craziness, their marriage worked out especially in the growing up process of their sick son. "
— Jocelyn, 5/16/2013" Laugh out loud funny and the adage rings true: there is truth in jest. :) "
— Maureen, 5/10/2013" Loved it! It was hilarious. "
— Brenna, 4/29/2013" Stupid title, but I thought this book was hilarious and heartfelt. Totally worth a read on a snow day! "
— Jess, 4/23/2013" Not what I initially expected! I did find the book entertaining as it pretty much depicts marraige in in the current decade. "
— Kathy, 12/21/2012" This was a book club book that I just couldn't get through. I made it through the first quarter and decided I'd read far enough. Just too much information about another couples love story for me. "
— Cathy, 7/15/2012" This was a funny book. I liked their arguing but still loving each other through everything. It wasn't quite as silly as I thought it would be, and that's for the best. "
— Emily, 3/21/2012" Funny, irreverant and gets pretty old about half way through. "
— Dani, 10/11/2011" Quick, hilarious marriage memoir written by a husband and wife. "
— Jeffrey, 8/6/2011" Although both Jeff and Annabelle can turn a phrase, their spiky characterizations of each other and their marriage mostly repelled rather than amused me. "
— Alison, 7/15/2011" Loved the title, not so much the book. "
— Paula, 6/27/2011" Some funny points, but it is a stretch to try keep people interested by only making jokes the way through. "
— Jimmy, 6/11/2011" Tess like it more than I did. "
— Marc, 6/9/2011" He said, she said story of a marriage. Funny stuff. "
— Vickie, 5/30/2011" Great read, doesn't really offer much for marriage advice, but very pleasant to read. "
— Inna, 5/11/2011" The He Said, She Said format of this book was fun, but I found myself wondering how much of the writing was persona versus real people. If you enjoyed the unlikable but irresistible characters from Seinfeld, you will like this book. "
— Chelle, 4/3/2011" HIghly recommend! I could have easily read 100 more pages. Summary: A hilarious and ultimately moving memoir, "You Say Tomato, I Say Shut Up" tells about one couple's reliance on complaining, co-dependence, and a healthy supply of Pinot Noir to keep their marriage and sanity intact. "
— Joyce, 3/19/2011" The intro and first chapter were great - I laughed out loud several times. It kind of goes downhill from there. While he is funny, she comes off as mean and uncaring. It gets tiresome. "
— Laurie, 3/17/2011" Just too funny. It's the perfect Playaway audio; I got lots of funny looks as I snickered and laughed out loud while listening while in public places. Hopeful, hilarious relationship anecdotes. "
— Francesca, 3/5/2011" Was funny and clever. A bit crude. Gives a man's perspective on marriage. "
— Pat, 3/2/2011" Just couldn't get into this book. They're funny writers, but I found I didn't care what they had to say after the 1st chapter or so. "
— Liz, 2/26/2011" Although both Jeff and Annabelle can turn a phrase, their spiky characterizations of each other and their marriage mostly repelled rather than amused me. "
— Alison, 2/19/2011" Kind of a depressing look at marriage. They try to make it funny, but they are pretty mean to each other. "
— Anne, 2/16/2011Annabelle Gurwitch is an actress and
writer, known for her years cohosting Dinner
and a Movie on TBS and Fired!,
both a book and documentary. She’s
been a regular commentator on NPR and online columnist for The Nation. Currently, she hosts the series WA$TED on Planet Green Network. She lives with her husband, Jeff
Kahn, and their son in Los Angeles.
Jeff Kahn won an Emmy Award
for his writing on The Ben Stiller Show.
As an actor, he has appeared in The
40-Year-Old Virgin and Tropic Thunder,
as well as the HBO series Curb Your
Enthusiasm and Entourage. He
lives with his wife Annabelle Gurwitch in Los Angeles.