Growing up in Queens in the 1960s, Alyse Myers always yearned for more in life as she watched her mother settle for an unhappy marriage, an unsatisfying job, and a joyless existence. Alyse rejected everything about her mother’s life, but after her death, she inherited a small wooden box whose contents revealed a deeply moving truth.
The dysfunctional relationship between Myers and her mother is poignant and heartbreaking at times. This is an honest look at how two very different and conflicting personalities inhabit the mother-daughter relationship and how Myers learned to reconcile her relationship with her mother after her death.
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"Promising writer; I'll be sure to look out for more from her. I chose it because Frank McCourt gave his approval. Jarring story about the complex relationship between mother & daughter. Only wish it hadn't hit so close to home."
— Joanna (4 out of 5 stars)
“Myers provides a moving lesson: we attach to our mothers when we’re young, reject them as young adults, and, hopefully, as Myers does, come to a place where we can identify with them and view them with empathy. This journey has universal resonance for myriad readers.”
— Library Journal (starred review)“Here’s a book so honest it won’t let you off the hook…the writing is masterly: taut, honest, and strangely satisfying.”
— Frank McCourt“Moving…The greatest gift [Myers’ mother] gave her daughter was the determination to create a different sort of life for herself.”
— Publishers Weekly" A very hard book to read. The mean attitude this woman has towards her oldest daughter is plain cruel. She kicks her out of the house several times. She sits around in a housecoat all day, drinking coffee and smoking. The daughter is the favorite of her dad's 3 daughters, but he dies at age 33 and she's left with this unloving mother. What is interesting is that the 2 younger sisters are raised lovingly. Sad, tired book. Glad to see the end of it. The writing was good. "
— Sheri, 2/19/2014" This is a memoir coupled with a mystery. Alyse's childhood was not happy, with her father's illness, mother's resentment and constant fighting and bickering. When she discovers a wooden box in her mothers closet after her death, she hopes the contents of the box will answer her questions about her parents, their choices, and her relationship with her mother. She tells the story in two voices, one as a girl and the other as an adult. At times I found it simplistic, but it must have been cathartic for the author as she strove to come to grips with her emotions and how she matures to adulthood. "
— Elaine, 2/10/2014" I loved this book. The writing is fluid and conversational and the author is honest, even when the truth doesn't necessarily favor her. It's a wonderful read. "
— Robin, 2/6/2014" I think I'm on a memoir kick lately, but this book was pretty interesting. The mother sounds like such a complete monster, though, that you have to wonder how exactly reliable the narrator is. "
— Christa, 2/6/2014" Well written story (author works for NY Times), with terrific audio narration; however, as others have reported, it's rather gloomy, right up to the end. "
— John, 2/3/2014" I heard about this today, bought it, read it, and will pass it along. "
— Pat, 1/19/2014" In the beginning of the book the author finds a wooden box in the back of her recently deceased mothers closet. She takes the box and leaves it unopened for 12 years. I really wanted to find out what was in the damned box so I had to finish the book. "
— Amy, 1/9/2014" The author was very angry at her mother, but I wasn't sure exactly why. There wasn't enough informtion to judge her mother's actions. Still, I enjoyed the journey. "
— Florence, 11/16/2013" What a sad memoir of a nominally Jewish family... "
— Sue, 10/24/2013" I liked this book, with a compelling narrative from start to finish--a dicy mother/ daughter relationship. The diction is not dazzling, rather smooth and simple. "
— Jen, 9/16/2013" A very intersting book about mothers and daughters....and a family with a mentally ill husband/father who dies young.......and the hardships suffered by the Mom and daughters without many social services...a very tough time "
— Patricia, 7/17/2013" This book was amazing!!!! I absolutely loved it!!! To all the Glass Castle fans, this memoir is right up there in the FABULOUS rating!!! "
— Shayna, 6/22/2013" This book explores the interaactions between a daughter, the oldest of three girls, and her mother. It is simply yet candidly told through the author's memories from childhood and her life as an adult. "
— Nancy, 6/11/2013" we can each extrapolate many things from our moms...thanks to Alyse for sharing her life --even when it's not always positive--it takes tremendous strength to open your life up to others... "
— Mare, 10/26/2012" I don't know how i feel about this book. it was very sad to hear what this woman went through. But also i couldn't identify with her. "
— Lindsay, 9/11/2012" This was another memoir and it was good - better than the last one I read. I have to admit it really hit home in a few spots about the way the mother was towards the daughter. "
— Brandy, 5/14/2012" I picked this one up on random and it was a pleasant surprise. "
— Elsa, 3/24/2012" A great read on the inner working of a mother -daughter relationship. Especially if you are a child of mothers born in the 1930's!! Yikes! Talk about some baggage! "
— Jennifer, 1/18/2012" Although the writing wasn't awful, the story was only marginally interesting, and I never really go the point. Especially why anyone would publish this. It's not terrible, just not significant or compelling. "
— Sally, 1/6/2012" Read this on the plane from Denver to NYC. Fast read, compelling, sad story about a daughter's relationship with her mother "
— Rachel, 8/17/2011" A fantastic memoir that I read in two evenings. Yum! Yum! "
— Jessica, 6/22/2011" Even those closest to us in life are often a mystery we do not understand. Keep an open heart! "
— Katie, 12/11/2010" This was a really good book and a very fast read. It was light while touching on sad subjects, but it still felt very satisfying even though it only took me a few days to read. I do recommend it. "
— Amanda, 10/4/2010" Wonderful book (I love reading memoirs)....quick read. Thanks for the recommendation, Stacey! "
— Gina, 9/24/2010" I think I'm on a memoir kick lately, but this book was pretty interesting. The mother sounds like such a complete monster, though, that you have to wonder how exactly reliable the narrator is. "
— Christa, 7/21/2010" Although the writing wasn't awful, the story was only marginally interesting, and I never really go the point. Especially why anyone would publish this. It's not terrible, just not significant or compelling. "
— Sally, 6/26/2010" I don't know how i feel about this book. it was very sad to hear what this woman went through. But also i couldn't identify with her. "
— Lindsay, 2/4/2010" This book explores the interaactions between a daughter, the oldest of three girls, and her mother. It is simply yet candidly told through the author's memories from childhood and her life as an adult. "
— Nancy, 11/16/2009" I liked it but I didn't love it "
— Ann, 11/7/2009" I really loved this book. It is a wonderful example of how parents are perceived first by their children, and then later when those children become adults. Good reminder about making judgements. "
— Abbie, 7/10/2009" A very intersting book about mothers and daughters....and a family with a mentally ill husband/father who dies young.......and the hardships suffered by the Mom and daughters without many social services...a very tough time "
— Patricia, 6/26/2009Alyse Myers is vice president, brand programs for the New York Times. She lives in New York City with her husband and daughter.
Lorna Raver, named one of AudioFile magazine’s Best Voices of the Year, has received numerous Audie Award nominations and many AudioFile Earphones Awards. She has appeared on stage in New York, Los Angeles, and regional theaters around the country. Among her many television credits are NYPD Blue, Judging Amy, Boston Legal, ER, and Star Trek. She starred in director Sam Raimi’s film Drag Me to Hell.