“I don’t love you anymore. I’m not sure I ever did.” His words came at me like a speeding fist, like a sucker punch, yet somehow in that moment I was able to duck. And once I recovered and composed myself, I managed to say, “I don’t buy it.” Because I didn’t. He drew back in surprise. Apparently he’d expected me to burst into tears, to rage at him, to threaten him with a custody battle. Or beg him to change his mind. . . . I really wanted to fight. To rage. To cry. But I didn’t. Instead, a shroud of calm enveloped me, and I repeated those words: “I don’t buy it.” You see, I’d recently committed to a non-negotiable understanding with myself. I’d committed to “The End of Suffering.” I’d . . . decided to take responsibility for my own happiness. And I mean all of it. When Laura Munson’s essay appeared in the “Modern Love” column of The New York Times, it created a firestorm. Readers sent it to their friends, therapists gave it to their patients, pastors read it to their congregations. People everywhere were struck by Munson’s wisdom. But how was she able to implement this strategy? How was she able to commit herself to an “End of Suffering” at such a critical time? At forty years old, certain parts of Munson’s life were going exactly as planned—she had two wonderful children, a husband she adored, a cherished home. Yet she and her husband, the once golden couple, weren’t looking so golden anymore. While she had come to peace with her life, her husband had not. Poignant, wise, and often exceedingly funny, This Is Not The Story You Think It Is... recounts Munson’s journey. Shaken to her core after the death of her beloved father, and having sought guidance and solace in stacks of books and hours of therapy, she finally realized that she had to stop basing her happiness on things outside her control. And once she had this key piece of wisdom, she realized she could withstand almost anything. Written as she experiences her crisis, moment by moment, sometimes breath by breath, Munson’s book is raw and searingly honest in the very best sense. She takes readers by the hand as they embark, together, on a journey whose outcome is not known. Filled with wisdom, truth, and heart—and a great tomato sauce recipe—This Is Not The Story You Think It Is... is ultimately about how to be responsible for your own well-being. It is a candid, powerful, unforgettable memoir.
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"I'm not married so it made it a little difficult to relate to this story, but I really appreciated the author's voice and honesty about her marital situation. I believe the message is that although it can be difficult to find happiness within ourselves because of so many unpredictable events in the world around us, it is important to try. Now that, I can relate to ;)"
— Danielle (4 out of 5 stars)
" There is a lot of guts in this story- in revealing a painful process and allowing herself to be so vulnerable to the audience. Her writing needs a bit more development, but I found a lot of comfort in her story. and i loved the references to other authors she was reading at the time that inspired her. "
— Julianne, 2/16/2014" I liked this book. Was it the best book I've ever read? No. But it was a good solid memoir, with a great lesson about being responsible for our own happiness, & how one woman chose to do so, despite the difficulties going on in her life. "
— Laurie, 2/5/2014" I almost gave up after the first couple chapters, which lean heavily new-age philosophy-speak, with plenty of quotes from various books. Agh! But ultimately there's an interesting lesson about not engaging and letting someone else use you as a target for their own issues. "
— Kate, 1/23/2014" Great book if you are struggling in a relationship (or not). Interesting read. "
— Cari, 1/19/2014" love the setting of Montana "
— ByTheFire, 12/2/2013" I loved this book. Happiness is indeed within, and it's a daily choice. Good job, Laura. "
— Cindy, 11/27/2013" A great book about the trials and tribulations of finding peace in middle-age and learning that the path of least resistance is the one that will set you free... "
— Jenie, 10/16/2013" Just another memoir about white people being sad. Whateves... "
— Mary, 9/15/2013" Really engaging book. I kept trying to find time to read it because I was so curious about what would happen. I felt like I got some good insights from it, though I'm still undecided about whether I agree with the author's basic premise. "
— Suzanne, 8/30/2013" Just about the most awful thing I had to read for review. Whiny beyond redemption, and the quality of writing was, to use Orwell's phrase, outright barbarous. "
— Sabrina, 6/23/2013" I really enjoyed this book-if you can enjoy a subject that is really sad and hard to read about. This is the story of a woman in marital crisis-and her play by play analysis of what happens over one difficult summer. Definitely worth reading. "
— Ellen, 9/11/2012" I picked this book up at the Unclaimed Baggage store. I can see why someone left it behind on the plane. I should have left it in the store. The author seemed to enjoy her role as a victim of her husband's moods and insensitivity. "
— NancyS, 5/11/2012" Fascinating. I am not sure I could be as strong and generous as this lady. But it made me think a lot about how my reaction is just as impactful as any action. "
— Sara, 2/20/2012" Wow...still thinking about this book even though I finished it yesterday. I learned so much here...it's a keeper and a must-read. What a testament about one woman's growth within her marriage and self. I loved it. "
— Drea, 6/18/2011" Just about the most awful thing I had to read for review. Whiny beyond redemption, and the quality of writing was, to use Orwell's phrase, outright barbarous. "
— Sabrina, 5/29/2011" This book felt like a rip off of "Eat Pray Love", but not a very good one. I'm wondering what other people thought? I wouldn't recommend it. "
— Heather, 5/28/2011" Although this is a personal story about how a woman kept her happiness during her husband's midlife crisis, I found so much of the experience she had and the way she kept her cool, not taking anything personally even though most people would have freaked out, a breath of fresh air. Bravo to Laura. "
— Natalie, 5/21/2011" not my kind of book. glad it helped her. "
— Andrea, 5/17/2011" This made me cry, and at times I was so angry at the author for not asserting herself. But i cam to appreciate her situation and really empathize. A great memoir, I hope to see her fiction published soon! "
— Trista, 4/11/2011" This is the day by day account of a woman whose husband may or may not leave her. She describes the events and her reactions to the slow breakdown of her family. It was a slow read but a good one. "
— Stacy, 4/9/2011" This started out slow for me...I wasn't interested...but you were right Jennifer...it was worth the read! I'm glad I didn't give up! "
— Caroline, 4/6/2011Laura Munson is the bestselling author of This Is Not The Story You Think It Is, which chronicles her journey through her own midlife crossroads. Drawing from the striking response to her memoir, the essay version of it in the New York Times “Modern Love” column, and her speaking events at women’s conferences across the US, Laura founded the acclaimed Haven Writing Retreats and Workshops. After watching hundreds of people find their unique and essential voices under the big sky of Montana she calls home, Laura created Willa, the invitation, the friends, and the town to share what she has learned with people globally. Her work has been published and featured in many media outlets throughout the world.
Joyce Bean is an accomplished audiobook narrator and director. In addition to having won several AudioFile Earphones Awards, she has been nominated multiple times for the prestigious Audie Award. Equally adept at narrating fiction and nonfiction, and she also narrates audiobooks under the name Jane Brown.