This American Ex-Wife: How I Ended My Marriage and Started My Life Audiobook

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• It’s been more than fifty years since Muriel Rukeyser wrote: ‘What would happen if one woman told the truth about her life? / The world would split open.’ Now Lyz Lenz has written the truth about matrimony in general and her marriage in particular, and the result is similarly tectonic. This is the perfect historic moment to re-examine marriage, and Lenz’s approach, which combines memoir and reportage, is breezily devastating. She is a modern-day Samson, cheerfully pulling down the pillars of an institution that hasn’t received anywhere near the skepticism it deserves. I loved it.

  — Laura Lippman, New York Times bestselling author of Prom Mom

• This is a book that every woman who dates men needs, to any woman who’s been told to want and need a certain prototype in order to achieve happiness. This American Ex-Wife is a beautiful, enraging account of a woman who craved for more and found it with the first and most important person of all: herself. Passionate, visceral, and honest, Lyz Lenz is an unflinching voice in the world of arts & letters and this book will stand as a monument within our most pressing issues today in how romantic intimacy and domestic labor intersect.

  — Morgan Jerkins, New York Times bestselling author of Caul Baby

• This American Wife is a bomb, a bouquet (but not a wedding bouquet), a memoir, a manifesto, a history, intermittently hilarious, and a total joy to read, at least for anyone ready to recognize how often marriage is a raw deal for women and divorce a liberation. We need new stories about what we need, and in this book Lyz Lenz offers a bunch of them.

  — Rebecca Solnit, bestselling author of Men Explain Things to Me

• It’s no secret that women are furious at how the institution of marriage controls our lives and bodies and profits off our labor. But too often the conversation begins and ends with our rage. In this brave, brilliant, impeccably researched book, Lenz offers us a clear solution to systemic inequality. And it's far less terrifying, far more liberating, and most of all, more hopeful than I ever imagined.

  — Virginia Sole-Smith, New York Times bestselling author of Fat Talk: Parenting in the Age of Diet Culture

• A tour de force, instant classic, memoir-meets-manifesto. Cishet love is a battlefield, and This American Ex-Wife is a long-awaited shield. This book will rightfully end and prevent certain types of marriages, by which I mean it will save lives.

  — Alissa Nutting, author of Made for Love

• This American Wife is a bomb, a bouquet (but not a wedding bouquet), a memoir, a manifesto, a history, intermittently hilarious, and a total joy to read, at least for anyone ready to recognize how often marriage is a raw deal for women and divorce a liberation. We need new stories about what we need, and in this book Lyz Lenz offers a bunch of them.

  — Rebecca Solnit, bestselling author of Men Explain Things to Me

• Whether you’re divorced, married, solo, or single, This American Ex-Wife is for all humans looking to reframe, rebuild, and reshape the institutions that have only ever served white men. It’s a lighthouse, a bonfire, and a hearth all in one. It’s the most important book you’ll read this year, maybe even ever. Read it and get free.

  — Rebecca Woolf, author of All of This

• It’s no secret that women are furious at how the institution of marriage controls our lives and bodies and profits off our labor. But too often the conversation begins and ends with our rage. In this brave, brilliant, impeccably researched book, Lyz Lenz offers us a clear solution to systemic inequality. And it’s far less terrifying, far more liberating, and most of all, more hopeful than I ever imagined.

  — Virginia Sole-Smith, New York Times bestselling author of Fat Talk: Parenting in the Age of Diet Culture

• A tour de force, instant classic, memoir-meets-manifesto . . . Cishet love is a battlefield, and This American Ex-Wife is a long-awaited shield. This book will rightfully end and prevent certain types of marriages, by which I mean it will save lives.

  — Alissa Nutting, author of Made for Love

• This American Ex-Wife is a bomb, a bouquet (but not a wedding bouquet), a memoir, a manifesto, a history, intermittently hilarious, and a total joy to read, at least for anyone ready to recognize how often marriage is a raw deal for women and divorce a liberation. We need new stories about what we need, and in this book Lyz Lenz offers a bunch of them.

  — Rebecca Solnit, bestselling author of Men Explain Things to Me

• This is the perfect historic moment to re-examine marriage, and Lenz’s approach, which combines memoir and reportage, is breezily devastating. She is a modern-day Samson, cheerfully pulling down the pillars of an institution that hasn’t received anywhere near the skepticism it deserves. I loved it.

  — Laura Lippman, New York Times bestselling author of Prom Mom

• This is a book that every woman who dates men needs, to any woman who’s been told to want and need a certain prototype in order to achieve happiness. Passionate, visceral, and honest, Lyz Lenz is an unflinching voice in the world of arts & letters and this book will stand as a monument within our most pressing issues today in how romantic intimacy and domestic labor intersect.

  — Morgan Jerkins, New York Times bestselling author of Caul Baby

• For the generations of women raised on the promise of equal partnership only to find themselves grappling with the chronic inequality of modern-day marriage and relationships, This American Ex-Wife is both validating and necessary—helping us understand the history, policy and cultural norms that have shaped how we got here and reimagine the future with a more sustainable and fulfilling status quo.

  — Stefanie O’Connell Rodriguez

• For the generations of women raised on the promise of equal partnership only to find themselves grappling with the chronic inequality of modern-day marriage and relationships, This American Ex-Wife is both validating and necessary.

  — Stefanie O’Connell Rodriguez, Financial journalist and creator of the Too Ambitious newsletter

• This American Ex-Wife is a lifeline. It is a counter-narrative. It is a beautiful piece of memoir. But most of all: it is a bold and convincing declaration that it doesn’t have to be this way. Quite frankly, it should be required pre-marital reading.

  — Anne Helen Petersen, author of Out of Office

• This American Ex-Wife is a bomb, a bouquet (but not a wedding bouquet), a memoir, a manifesto, and a total joy to read.

  — Rebecca Solnit, author of Men Explain Things to Me

• A tour de force, instant classic memoir-meets-manifesto . . . Cishet love is a battlefield, and This American Ex-Wife is a long-awaited shield. This book will rightfully end and prevent certain types of marriages, by which I mean it will save lives.

  — Alissa Nutting, author of Made for Love

• In this brave, brilliant, impeccably researched book, Lyz Lenz offers us a clear solution to the systemic inequalities within the institution of marriage. And it’s far more liberating than I ever imagined.

  — Virginia Sole-Smith, author of Fat Talk

• Passionate, visceral, and honest, Lyz Lenz is an unflinching voice, and this book will stand as a monument within our most pressing issues today in how romantic intimacy and domestic labor intersect.

  — Morgan Jerkins,  author of Caul Baby

• Whether divorced, married, or single, all humans looking to reframe, rebuild, and reshape the institutions that have only ever served white men will find encouragement here. This is the most important book you’ll read this year, maybe even ever. Read it and get free.

  — Rebecca Woolf, author of All of This

• It’s been more than fifty years since Muriel Rukeyser wrote, ‘What would happen if one woman told the truth about her life? / The world would split open.’ Now Lyz Lenz has written the truth about matrimony, and the result is similarly tectonic. I loved it.

  — Laura Lippman, author of Prom Mom

• Lenz guides us to explode the dishonest fairy tales and shake off the suffocatingly gendered expectations around love, partnership, and domestic responsibility. This American Ex-Wife is a pleasure and an inspiration.

  — Rebecca Traister, author of Good and Mad

• For the generations of women raised on the promise of equal partnership only to find themselves grappling with the chronic inequality of modern-day marriage and relationships, This American Ex-Wife is both validating and necessary.

  — Stefanie O’Connell Rodriguez, Financial journalist and creator of the Too Ambitious newsletter

• This American Ex-Wife is a lifeline. It is a counter-narrative. It is a beautiful piece of memoir. But most of all: it is a bold and convincing declaration that it doesn’t have to be this way. Quite frankly, it should be required pre-marital reading.

  — Anne Helen Petersen, author of Out of Office

• Far from being a sign of failure, divorce, she argues persuasively, can be a source of liberation . . . A well-researched, acerbic critique of a sacred institution.

  — Kirkus Reviews

• Far from being a sign of failure, divorce, she argues persuasively, can be a source of liberation. . . . A well-researched, acerbic critique of a sacred institution.

  — Kirkus Reviews

• With This American Wife Lenz adds to her already impressive canon of cultural criticism . . . Through a vivid mix of research, reporting, and personal anecdote, [she] reveals the power imbalances inherent to traditional heterosexual marriage, and calls for a radical act of refusal by women who have been too-long defined by their relationships to men.

  — Literary Hub

• This American Ex-Wife is both validating and necessary.

  — Stefanie O’Connell Rodriguez, Financial journalist and creator of the Too Ambitious newsletter

• With This American Ex-Wife Lenz adds to her already impressive canon of cultural criticism. . . . Through a vivid mix of research, reporting, and personal anecdote, [she] reveals the power imbalances inherent to traditional heterosexual marriage, and calls for a radical act of refusal by women who have been too-long defined by their relationships to men.

  — Literary Hub