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Author: Kristin Dombek Narrator: Rachel Fulginiti Publisher: Blackstone Publishing Format: Unabridged Audiobook Delivery: Instant Download Audio Length: Release Date: December 2016 ISBN: 9781470803711
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They’re among us, but they are not like us. They manipulate, lie, cheat, and steal. They are irresistibly charming and accomplished, appearing to live in a radiance beyond what we are capable of. But narcissists are empty. No one knows exactly what everyone else is full of—some kind of a soul, or personhood—but whatever it is, experts agree that narcissists do not have it.

So goes the popular understanding of narcissism, or NPD (narcissistic personality disorder). And it’s more prevalent than ever, according to recent articles in the New York Times, the Atlantic, and Time. In bestsellers like The Narcissism Epidemic, Narcissists Exposed, and The Narcissist Next Door, pop psychologists have armed the normal with tools to identify and combat the vampiric influence of this rising population, while on websites like, thousands of people congregate to swap horror stories about relationships with “narcs.”

In The Selfishness of Others, the essayist Kristin Dombek provides a clear-sighted account of how a rare clinical diagnosis became a fluid cultural phenomenon, a repository for our deepest fears about love, friendship, and family. She cuts through hysteria in search of the razor-thin line between pathology and common selfishness, writing with robust skepticism toward the prophets of NPD and genuine empathy for those who see themselves as its victims. And finally, she shares her own story in a candid effort to find a path away from the cycle of fear and blame and toward a more forgiving and rewarding life.

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Quotes & Awards

  • “Sharply argued, knottily intelligent, darkly funny…showing how a specialized clinical term metastasized into a sweeping description of our entire culture.”

    New York Times

  • “Essayist Dombek offers plenty of examples of what has become a buzzword for the self-absorbed millennial…A savvy, sharp study.”

    Kirkus Reviews

  • “A tour de force and a masterpiece of comic intellect.”

    Mark Greif, author of The Age of the Crisis of Man

  • A NPR Best Book of 2016
  • A Shelf Awareness Best Book of 2016

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About the Author

Kristin Dombek is the 2013 winner of the Rona Jaffe Foundation Writers’ Award. Her essays can be found in the New York Times, Harper’s magazine, the London Review of Books, n+1, and the Paris Review. She has written an advice column for n+1 called “The Help Desk,” and her book about fear of narcissism, The Selfishness of Others, was published in 2016. She lives in Brooklyn and teaches in the Princeton Writing Program.

About the Narrator

Rachel Fulginiti is an audiobook narrator and a voice-over artist who has worked with companies such as Chrysler, Target, McDonalds, and eHarmony. She is a graduate of the Meisner Program at the School for Film and Television in New York City.