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Author: Chrisanna Northrup, James Witte, Pepper Schwartz Narrator: Eliza Foss Publisher: Recorded Books, LLC Format: Unabridged Audiobook Delivery: Instant Download Audio Length: Release Date: February 2013 ISBN: 9781470337056
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What constitutes "normal" behavior among happy couples? What steps you should take if that "normal" is one you want to strive for? To help answer those questions, wellness entrepreneur Chrisanna Northrup teamed with two of America's top sociologists, Yale Ph.D. Pepper Schwartz and Harvard Ph.D. James Witte, to design a unique interactive survey that would draw feedback from around the world. What has resulted is the clearest picture yet of how well couples are communicating, romancing each other, satisfying each other in the bedroom, sharing financial responsibilities, and staying faithful - or not. Since the Normal Bar survey methodology sorts for age and gender, racial and geographic differences and sexual preferences, the authors are able to reveal , for example, what happens to passion as we grow older, which gender wants what when it comes to sex, the factors that spur marital combat, how kids figure in, how being gay or bisexual turns out to be both different and the same, and - regardless of background -- the tiny habits that drive partners absolutely batty. The book is dense with revelations, from the unexpected popularity of certain sexual positions, to the average number of times happy - and unhappy -- couples kiss, to the prevalence of lying, to the surprising loyalty most men and women feel for their partner (even when in a deteriorating relationship), to the vivid and idiosyncratic ways individuals of different ages, genders and nationalities describe their "ideal romantic evening" . Much more than a peek behind the relationship curtain, The Normal Bar offers readers an array of prescriptive tools that will help them establish a "new normal." Mindful of what keeps couples stuck in ruts, the book's authors suggest practical and life-changing ways to break cycles of disappointment and frustration. Download and start listening now!


Quotes & Awards

  • The Normal Bar is more than a collection of surprising information—it’s one of the most insightful guides to building happier, healthier relationships that I’ve ever read. I was encouraged and comforted by the authors’ findings. Simply terrific.”

    Marci Shimoff, New York Times bestselling author of Happy for No Reason and coauthor of Chicken Soup for the Woman’s Soul

  • “Facts trump opinions every time, and there are an amazing number of surprising facts in this book. Thanks to the authors’ survey—which takes a quantum leap beyond any relationship survey ever undertaken—The Normal Bar marks a turning point in relationship advice books.  In my 30 years as a professional student of romantic relationships, this is the only book that’s actually taught me something new.”

    Greg Godek, author of the national bestseller 1001 Ways to Be Romantic

  • “Masters and Johnson, it’s time to move over. The Normal Bar mixes together sex, savvy insights, and science, making you laugh while you learn. Bet you haven’t done that in a while.”

    Nancy L. Snyderman, MD, NBC News chief medical editor

  • “I’m obsessed with this page-turner of a book! After nineteen years of marriage, I faced divorce and entering the dating world with a whole lot of questions about what was and was not normal. Not only did this book answer everything I’d ever wondered about relationships and what people really want, but it restored my faith in the essential sweetness of humankind. Hot damn!”

    Linda Sivertsen, award-winning author of Generation Green and coauthor of the bestseller Your Big Beautiful Book Plan

  • “A sprawling Internet-disseminated survey of more than 75,000 people in committed romantic relationships fuels this collection of fun statistics and Kinseyesque glimpses into the love lives of everyday folks, all with an aim toward providing practical tips for improving relationships through an examination of behaviors reported by happy couples…For the pair stuck in a rut or simply looking to enliven their bond, this book offers encouraging, low-conflict ways to make the tiny changes necessary to maintain and nurture loving relationships.”

    Publishers Weekly

  • “Money? Sex? Deep dark secrets? If you wonder how your relationship compares with the rest of the world, The Normal Bar offers you a comprehensive heads up—most important, it suggests that growing healthier and happier may not be mission impossible.”

    Gina Ogden, PhD, LMFT, author of The Return of Desire, The Heart & Soul of Sex, and Women Who Love Sex

  • “A couples’ book resplendent with revelations about communication, sex, public displays of affection, finances, faithfulness, truthfulness, loyalty, aging, and more. The Normal Bar is one of those rare relationship books so rich in detail that you will find it fascinating even if you haven’t yet found Mr. or Ms. Right.”

    Barnes & Noble, editorial review

  • The Normal Bar is an innovative, easy to read book filled with novel findings about relationships and helpful suggestions on making relationships better.  I will use the important findings from The Normal Bar in my classes, in my papers, and in my clinical work.”

    Howard J. Markman, PhD, author of Fighting for Your Marriage

  • “This outstanding book draws on thousands of surveys to find out what makes couples happy.  Besides being entertaining and edifying, The Normal Bar can actually help most couples improve their relationships.”

    Barbara Reskin, past president of the American Sociological Association

  • “A fascinating international compendium on women, men, sex, and love that—thank goodness—busts some entrenched myths about men. In the book you’ll learn whether simple things such as reading to your partner can build deep intimacy and whether date nights, compliments, and laughter can truly keep love alive. You’ll also learn about ‘pet names’ and public displays of affection and whether they spark romance. This book is scholarly, humorous, and wise; above all, it gives superb advice. Indeed, after reading The Normal Bar, you’ll have no excuse if your partnership isn’t a dream come true.”

    Helen Fisher, professor of anthropology at Rutgers University and author of Why We Love: The Nature and Chemistry of Romantic Love

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About the Author

James Witte, a Harvard PhD, is the professor of sociology and director of the Center for Social Science Research at George Mason University.

About the Narrator

Eliza Foss is an actress who has appeared in numerous theaters in New York City and around the country. She has narrated over thirty books and short stories, been featured in AudioFile magazine, and won five AudioFile Earphones Awards for her narrations.