A love story and an inspirational tale of recovery and self-discovery, Marie Tillman opens up for the first time about her marriage to ex-NFL star Pat Tillman, and her journey to rebuild her life after his death.
In 2003, Pat Tillman, serving in the US Army, hastily wrote a "just in case" letter to his wife, Marie. When he returned on leave before his departure to Afghanistan, he placed the letter on top of their bedroom dresser. For months it sat there, sealed and ever-present, like a black hole through which Marie knew her stable life would be pulled if she ever had reason to open it. Then, in April 2004, Marie's worst nightmare came true. In the days following his death, it was Pat's letter that kept her going and, more than that, it was his words that would help her learn to navigate a world she could no longer share with her husband.
In The Letter, Marie's talks for the first time about her journey to remake her life after Pat's death. In it, she recalls meeting and falling in love with Pat when they were kids, his harrowing decision to join the army after 9/11, and the devastating day when she learned he'd been killed. She describes how she withdrew from the public spotlight to grieve, learning along the way the value of solitude, self-awareness and integrity in the healing process. And, finally, Marie recounts her work to rebuild her life, including founding The Pat Tillman Foundation, an organization established to carry forth Pat's legacy of leadership, and her decision to step back into the public eye in order to inspire people to live with meaning and purpose.
Filled with the lessons Marie learned and the wisdom she gained since Pat's death, The Letter is both a heartrending love story and an inspiring tale for anyone, young or old, whose life has taken an unexpected hard turn -- and who struggles to get back on the right path.
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""everyone wanted to see the grieving widow, but I had taken pride in this most difficult time that I could maintain my composure and avoid a public show. My composure was also my one act of defiance. Everyone wanted me to break down , because they wanted the satisfaction of picking me back up. They wanted to feel useful. I wouldn't give them that satisfaction. Everything else was out of my control, but this I could control""
— Cynthia (4 out of 5 stars)
“Marie Tillman’s elegantly written memoir weaves together a love story with the life affirming lesson that grief’s tributaries can flow toward healing and acceptance. This book reminds us that it’s possible to move past trauma without forgetting or letting loss define you. This is a must read for anyone who has worked to overcome life’s sorrows and embrace its triumphs with grace.”
— Lee Woodruff, New York Times bestselling author of In An Instant“Marie Tillman’s gentle memoir of love and loss is an important reminder to all that life isn’t measured by its length, but by its depth.”
— Regina Brett, New York Times bestselling author of God Never Blinks“The Letter is a candid, eloquent account of unthinkable loss, its incapacitating aftermath, and Marie Tillman’s long, lonely journey back to daylight…It’s a brave and wonderful book.”
— Jon Krakauer, New York Times bestselling author of Where Men Win Glory“[Marie Tillman] successfully honors her husband’s legacy while offering solace and hope for those in anguish.”
— Publishers Weekly“An inspiring account of the author’s difficult decision to become a public advocate for military families.”
— Kirkus ReviewsMarie Tillman's elegantly written memoir weaves together a love story with the life affirming lesson that grief's tributaries can flow toward healing and acceptance. This book reminds us that it's possible to move past trauma without forgetting or letting loss define you. This is a must read for anyone who has worked to overcome life's sorrows and embrace its triumphs with grace.
— Lee Woodruff, New York Times bestselling author of In An Instant and Perfectly ImperfectMarie Tillman's gentle memoir of love and loss is an important reminder to all that life isn't measured by its length, but by its depth.
— Regina Brett, New York Times bestselling author of God Never Blinks: 50 Lessons for Life's Little Detours"The Letter is a candid, eloquent account of unthinkable loss, its incapacitating aftermath, and Marie Tillman's long, lonely journey back to daylight. Graced with illuminating vignettes of her marriage to Pat Tillman, the ambivalent Army Ranger who was killed in Afghanistan by his comrades, The Letter is both a heart-rending elegy for an extraordinary man and an indispensable road map through the wilderness of bereavement. It's a brave and wonderful book.
— Jon Krakauer, author of Into the Wild and Where Men Win Glory"Marie Tillman's moving memoir, The Letter, is a story of profound courage. It takes courage to walk out into the unknown to reclaim one's life after a tragedy. It takes courage to live in a public way with such private pain. And it takes courage to share one's journey with an open heart knowing that it will bring comfort and connection to others. Marie's courageous example will inspire so many to recognize their own power to be architects of change."—Maria Shriver, Journalist, Author & Activist
In this moving debut memoir, the author describes her struggle to deal with grief and to come to terms with the cynical abuse of his sacrifice...An inspiring account of the author's difficult decision to become a public advocate for military families.
— Kirkus"In this thoughtful memoir...[Marie Tillman] successfully honors her husband's legacy while offering solace and hope for those in anguish."—Publishers Weekly
" Everyone needs to read this book. I admire Marie's courage so much. Hearing about the ocean of pain she had to swim through is so hard, but the way she managed to put the pieces back together after such a loss is really an inspiration. "
— Betsy, 2/19/2014" This book is great if you have ever lost someone. Not only Pat's brave story but Marie's journey through grief and to live. Excellent! "
— Lyndsey, 1/31/2014" Story of the tragic loss of American Hero Pat Tillman's short life through his brides eyes. Great book! "
— Janet, 1/20/2014" Loved this book- the author writes so honestly about her husband "
— Marie, 1/18/2014" I probably never would have read this book (likely) if not for my book club. It was a super easy, quick read and overall I enjoyed it. It was interesting having attending ASU around the same time Pat Tillman did, and I remember watching him play football, and remember when he enlisted in the military and then was subsequently killed. His wife Marie paints a pretty good picture of who Pat really was, and why he did what he did, and he seemed like a genuinely good person. I think this book could be helpful to those who lose a spouse, or who are grieving in general. She shares her journey in the years after his death, how she evolved through the stages, and how she came to terms with his death over time. She pointed out how other books about loss really helped her as well. I wish she had included more about her present life, husband and kids in the afterward - that is the only part of the book that seemed lacking because she barely touches upon it. "
— Jennifer, 1/17/2014" I found this book really interesting mainly because I don't read a lot of books about dealing with grief without turning to spirituality. Learning more about Pat Tillman's life was interesting and learning how she coped with his last request that she "live" was really moving. "
— Paula, 1/9/2014" I feel weird giving a rating to such a personal book. This is Marie's story of how she dealt with Pat's death, so who am I to judge her with stars. I learned a bit more about a man I appreciate and admire so I would say I really enjoyed this book. "
— Chelsea, 1/8/2014" Tillman's story of dealing with the loss of her husband to the war in Afghanistan was an insightful look into the grief/healing process. "
— Elisabeth, 12/2/2013" Quick read about a woman who tragically loses her husband, Pat Tillman. I would definitely recommend this book. "
— Cassie, 11/29/2013" I really enjoyed Tillman's recollection of her love and loss to Pat. It was a quick read, but read like a journal from your best friend. I honestly cannot wait to see how the rest of Marie's life ends up, and it has helped me understand that everyone in life loses something or someone they love. "
— Tomissa, 10/4/2013" Not something I would choose to read. I read it for my book club. "
— Laura, 8/15/2013Marie Tillman is the president and cofounder of the Pat Tillman Foundation. In 2008 she led the development of the foundation’s primary initiative, the Tillman Military Scholars program, which aims to create the next generation of leaders by helping a select group of veterans, active service members, and their spouses fulfill their academic dreams. She has been a featured speaker at the US Air Force Academy Center for Character Development, University of Arkansas Clinton School of Public Service, National Conference for College Women Student Leaders, Harvard Kennedy School, and Clinton Global Initiative University. She lives in Chicago with her husband, Joe, and their four boys Joey, Johnny, Sam, and Mac.