A 13-month guided pathway for healing transgenerational sexual trauma
Body-based practices, ancestral connection rituals, and reflective empowerment exercises to integrate trauma, build resilience, center pleasure, and reclaim wholeness
Healing from sexual trauma is deep, transformative, and life-changing work. And when we begin the journey to address not just our own traumas but those borne by our ancestors, we heal across generations—finding wholeness and reclaiming erotic wellness for ourselves while lovingly tending the harm and trauma carried in our lineages.
From altars to reverence practices, resilience plans to somatic resourcing, Tending the Bones holds you in care and power. Pavini Moray, PhD invites you to reconnect to the profound wisdom of your body—and your ancestors.
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"In Tending the Bones, Pavini Moray, a wise witch and a somatic sex therapist, presents a guidebook for intergenerational trauma healing and imbues it with potent spells that can be used to nurture erotic embodiment. Moray's method for addressing trauma does not promise a simple cure, but emphasizes a lifelong commitment to continuous practices, chosen because they foster sexual well-being in one's body and in one's lineage. The book guides readers through a three-part journey: starting with preparatory practices that help reconnect with one's body, then moving through ways to deal with sexual trauma, and culminating in practices that savor the aliveness we carry in our bodies. This aliveness has been passed down from our ancestors. Tending the Bones reminds us to pass this on to our descendants."
— Joseph Kramer, PhD, founder of Sexological Bodywork
Deep and heartfelt ... Pavini Moray offers a unique program to access your autonomy and your pleasure power. With this step-by-step guide, you can stay grounded as you engage with your ancestral trauma.... Tending the Bones helps you tap into all of your senses and sensibilities as you wend your way through ritual, poetry, journaling, and prayer toward your ongoing evolution. Dr. Moray shows us how our own healing is a tender practice we can weave throughout our life. What a beautiful gift!
— Celeste Hirschman, MA, cofounder of the Somatica Institute and author of Coming Together, Making Love Real, and CockfidenceFrom cover to cover, Tending the Bones blends and layers Pavini's intergenerational insights, compassion, sex research, and embodied experience. Their generous, uplifting guidance has the potential to heal us all—the walking wounded—with a fresh, visionary approach. This thirteen-month program rooted in ancestral ritual and somatic practice is exxxxcellent psycho-magic which gives me hope that we can create a more peaceful, pleasurable, loving society. Tending the Bones blew me away—in the best, sexy way.
— Annie Sprinkle, ecosex educator, artist, and coauthor of Assuming the Ecosexual PositionIn this brilliant, essential book of healing, Pavini Moray offers a clear, practical, and pleasure-centric path back to your body after trauma. Using the simple, powerful tools I recommend to all my students—breath, movement, vocalization, imagination, and clarity of intention—Tending the Bones gives you gentle yet powerful guidance on how you can work with and through your past to arrive warmly and ecstatically back home to yourself in the present.
— Barbara Carrellas, author of Urban TantraA brilliant and much-needed map of embodied and ancestral pathways for transforming inherited sexual trauma and accessing pleasure that is whole.... This book is chock-full of exquisite invitations and simple yet profound ritual practices for healing and cultivating connection with supportive ancestors.... Pavini has crafted such a powerful and unique blueprint toward creating legacies of erotic wellness and nourishing pleasure—this book is a treasure!
— Taya Mâ Shere, priestess, host of the Jewish Ancestral Healing podcast, and founder of From the DeepBe the first to write a review about this audiobook!