Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life Audiobook

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• “Well-researched and beautifully written.”

  — Professor Kristen P. Mark, University of Kentucky, on The Psychology of Human Sexuality

• Not since Nancy Friday has anyone so comprehensively and confidently blown the lid off our deep and secret desires, and revealed the extent to which we humans are endlessly inventive, flexible sexual and social strategists.

  — Wednesday Martin, PhD, author of the New York Times #1 bestseller Primates of Park Avenue and Untrue

• A penetrating, erotic X-ray into the hidden recesses of our sexual psyches. Illuminating and incisive, Lehmiller lays bare the gray matter of great sex.

  — Ian Kerner, PhD, New York Times bestselling author of She Comes First

• Lehmiller's smart, warm, sex-positive book breaks the toxic silence around our sexual fantasies. Reading it may be the best thing you ever do for your sex life, your relationships and your self-acceptance.

  — Geoffrey Miller, author of The Mating Mind, Spent, and Mate

• Lehmiller's groundbreaking book points to an alarming divide between the conversations we're having about sex and the conversation we should be having about sex. It provides the nudge we need to change the conversation--and, in doing so, to live healthier, hotter lives.

  — Eli J. Finkel, Professor of Psychology, Northwestern University

• Tell Me What You Want provides a scientifically grounded, non-judgmental assessment of where things stand in the sexual lives and fantasies of Americans. With an open-minded approach and fluid prose, this book is highly recommended for anyone looking for a road-map of where American sexuality is at the moment, and where many Americans would like to be going soon.

  — Christopher Ryan, PhD, co-author of the New York Times bestseller Sex at Dawn

• Sheds some light on the topic of fantasies, including who has them, how common they are and how they change over a person's lifetime.

  — Wall Street Journal

• A treasure trove of nuggets about the American sexual psyche...Engaging, provocative, and easy to read.

  — Dr. Michael Aaron's Psychology Today blog, "Standard Deviations"

• [An] illuminating book...Armed with research, [Dr. Lehmiller] describes our collective fantasies and helps make sense of what they might mean, tackling everything from how they're connected to personalities to how our sexual histories shape desires.

  — Goop

• If you've ever had a sexual fantasy and thought, 'Oh God, what's wrong with me?' a quick read of Tell Me What You Want...might ease your mind...Lehmiller isn't just putting out a compendium of our raciest thoughts; he tries to explain what those thoughts do for the health of our psyches...He gives concrete advice.

  — New York Times Book Review

• The book we've all needed, even if we didn't know it...[A] barrier-smashing book...Whether you're interested in the world of sex research, or you just want to understand your own sex fantasies better, or you're looking for tips for communicating better with your partner, you'll enjoy and learn from Tell Me What You Want.

  — Naked at Our Age blog

• An excellent choice for readers wanting to know more about their own fantasies as well as those who are simply curious about American sexual desires in general.

  — Library Journal

• Offer[s] plenty of insight into the sexual thoughts we all have but often keep to ourselves.

  — CNN.com

• As Justin Lehmiller PhD explains so insightfully in his fascinating new book, Tell Me What You Want, most of us have lots of turn-ons that would definitely not earn the Good Housekeeping seal of approval.

  — Ari Tuickman's Psychology Today Blog, "Sex Matters"

• Lehmiller uses his book as a vehicle to explain how common some sexual fantasies are--not to mention fantasizing in general--and to help the reader better fulfill their own desires...Lehmiller's calm and logical approach to understanding sexuality and improving sexual satisfaction...is exemplified on nearly every page.

  — Of Sex and Love blog

• Attempts to dispel stereotypes, shed light on why so many of us imagine similar scenarios, and serve as a guide to helping us talk about what we desire.

  — Boston Globe

• A book that will be reassuring for therapists and patients alike...Lively...Valuable and enjoyable. The writing is clear, informal, and describes human sexuality in a recognizable fashion.

  — The Therapist