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3 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 5 3.00 (753 ratings) (rate this audio book) Author: William Pollack Narrator: William Pollack Publisher: Penguin Random House Format: Abridged Audiobook Delivery: Instant Download Audio Length: Release Date: May 2011 ISBN: 9780307966681
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After more than two decades of research at Harvard Medical School, clinical psychologist William Pollack concludes that our sons are in trouble. In this provocative study, as he examines the causes of this crisis, Dr. Pollack offers ways we can help boys grow up into healthy adults. Just as Mary Pipher’s Reviving Ophelia offers hope for troubled adolescent girls, Real Boys is an invaluable work.

An unwritten “Boy Code” perpetuates the myths that boys are driven by testosterone and other uncontrollable forces and that boys are inherently dangerous. As a result of these beliefs, boys are taught to conceal their emotions from others, keep their distance in relationships, and be tough. Dr. Pollack’s book offers healthier attitudes to replace this damaging Code. As Dr. Pollack discusses each of the myths of boyhood, he uses case studies to show how we can help boys understand and deal with such issues as anger, sexuality, peer pressure, and self-image.

New York Times bestseller, Real Boys provides critical information that everyone should have.

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Quotes & Awards

  • “Parents will be able to identify with [Pollack'’s] easy manner and will appreciate his sensible advice for helping their sons remove the mask.”

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  • “Pollack has been thinking hard about the contemporary masculine condition for over a decade…Real Boys is a thoughtful step in clearing the ideological air.”

    Richard A. Hawley, New England Journal of Medicine

  • “Just as Reviving Ophelia opened our eyes to the challenges faced by adolescent girls, Real Boys helps us hear and respond to the needs of growing boys.”

    Judith Jordan, Harvard Medical School

  • “A thoughtful and sensitive discussion of contemporary American boyhood.”

    Dr. Robert Coles, author of The Moral Intelligence of Children

  • “Lucidly written…Enlightening and stimulating.”

    Publishers Weekly

Listener Opinions

  • 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5 Ashley Wayman | 2/16/2014

    " For so long, Doctors have examined the interworkings and complexitites of women in an attempt to describe their behaviors within society. While such documentation has proven to be indightful, "Real Boys" takes a rare (and rather in-depth) inventory into the innate social, phisiological and behavioral dispositions of young men. Very interesting and entirely relevant. "

  • 5 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 5 Angela | 2/1/2014

    " Anyone who has any interaction with boys or men should read this book; it will change the way you think about masculinity and gender socialization. "

  • 5 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 5 Suzanne | 2/1/2014

    " We are doing a great disservice to our sons with some of the cultural expectations we place on them. This book compassionately explains many of the problems boys face in our society and what we can do to help. I grew up with all sisters and didn't have a lot of experience with boys and men until I married. This book has helped me understand my husband and son better. I especially liked the explanation of active love and how boys and girls express closeness differently at times. I hope it's helped me be more understanding and able to connect with the guys in my life. I guess my son and husband would have to be the judge of that. "

  • 5 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 5 Valerie | 1/31/2014

    " I learned a lot about boys, which is good since I have two. Another must for parents, educators and those interested by being male or having to deal with those who are. "

  • 3 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 5 Renee Reynolds | 1/24/2014

    " There's so much to this book about dispelling the boy myths. Great information...if only I could get through it. "

  • 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5 DixieJo | 1/23/2014

    " what is becoming of the men in our society, where are we heading with our future leaders? "

  • 3 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 5 Hundeschlitten | 1/16/2014

    " As the father of two young sons, I was told that I should read this. I think the most memorable thing I take away from it is how times have changed in the 14 years since its initial publication. It assumes that the first day in kindergarten marks the initial separation from a mother and her son and is a traumatic event, whereas preschool is now so ubiquitous as to make this concern either obsolete, or at the least folded into much earlier trauma. It regards stay at home dads as a rare (albeit welcome) oddity. And it spends a lot of its energy trying to convince its readers that boys have feelings, too. Were things really this backward in the late 1990's? If so, I guess I gotta thank Pollack and Co for changing things. When Pollack dives into the weeds of educational policy or our attitudes towards sports, he remains compelling. His indictment of our female-centric grammar schools is pretty damning. But much of this now reads as platitude, a missive from an olden time. "

  • 5 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 5 Joan | 1/15/2014

    " A must read for all Mothers of pre-pubescent boys..... "

  • 5 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 5 Mike Wittig | 1/8/2014

    " A must for parents of boys. Very informative. "

  • 2 out of 52 out of 52 out of 52 out of 52 out of 5 Lea Hansen | 11/27/2013

    " Disappointing. Not nearly as helpful as Mary Pipher's Reviving Ophelia...I'm still looking for something equally as insightful with boys in mind. "

  • 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5 Mirele Davis | 10/1/2013

    " Valuable insights about boys' behavior that anyone who works with boys should read. However, it was written over 10 years ago, so the statistics no longer apply. Adults. "

  • 3 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 5 Kimberly | 8/30/2013

    " Very good book to help our boys grow into their best-adjusted, most authentic selves. "

  • 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5 Mary | 4/7/2013

    " I read this when my kids were a lot younger -- it was a good book to read at the time. There are a lot of parenting books out there but I remember this as being a good one. "

  • 5 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 5 Leilanit7 | 9/24/2012

    " This book opened up my eyes to how society treats children based on their gender. I read this over a decade ago and it has changed who I am as a parent. "

  • 3 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 5 Marilyn Dahl | 5/29/2012

    " If you have boys, it's worth the read without a doubt. Some of Pollack's techniques of communication I've used throughout the years with my two (now teenage) sons. "

  • 5 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 5 Ganelle | 5/2/2012

    " The boys equivalent to Reviving Ophelia. A great resource to understand how boys are socialized in this society - and how that process impacts individual boys. Non-fiction. "

  • 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5 Shannie | 1/29/2012

    " I think this is a great book for mothers or wives to read. It would be a good companion read with Reviving Ophelia. It can be a little dense- not for the faint of heart. We read it in on of my BYU classes. "

  • 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5 James Henry | 12/25/2011

    " Even as a gay man with a lot of so-called "feminine" qualities and who never tried to butch himself up, I found a lot of interesting insights into my own personality here. A great, if a tad repetitive, look at how boys deal with emotions and feelings. "

  • 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5 Kim | 11/9/2011

    " Very helpful book discussing the nurturing and raising of boys. "

  • 5 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 5 Jennifer | 5/26/2011

    " This is a fabulous book on adolescent boys, parenting, american culture and how these all interact to create generations of emotionally straight-jacketed boys, who turn into angry men, unable to express the full range of human emotion. I highly recommend it! "

  • 5 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 5 Alexander | 4/9/2011

    " Very well written and lots of studies and information that I found interesting. "

  • 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5 Robin | 11/8/2010

    " Disturbing although a little out of date. I would really appreciate a newer version!!! It definitely has changed the way I approach and speak to my 14 year-old!! "

  • 1 out of 51 out of 51 out of 51 out of 51 out of 5 Julie | 10/6/2010

    " Good golly. This book needs serious editing before it is terribly useful for academics OR us regular folks. "

  • 3 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 5 Kathy | 3/12/2010

    " better than Raising Cain

    some jewels still more silt than I'd like "

  • 5 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 5 Leilanit7 | 11/28/2009

    " This book opened up my eyes to how society treats children based on their gender. I read this over a decade ago and it has changed who I am as a parent. "

  • 5 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 5 Jennifer | 8/22/2009

    " This is a fabulous book on adolescent boys, parenting, american culture and how these all interact to create generations of emotionally straight-jacketed boys, who turn into angry men, unable to express the full range of human emotion. I highly recommend it! "

  • 3 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 5 Mia | 8/13/2009

    " There are some real nice tidbits in here that are helping me! "

  • 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5 Season | 7/23/2009

    " I recommend this book to anyone who has a boy and is trying to understand them. I had to get this book for psychology and WOW did it open my eyes to the other sexes mind. "

  • 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5 Shannie | 6/7/2009

    " I think this is a great book for mothers or wives to read. It would be a good companion read with Reviving Ophelia. It can be a little dense- not for the faint of heart. We read it in on of my BYU classes. "

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About the Author

William S. Pollack, Ph.D. is the Director of the Centers for Men and Young Men and the Director of Continuing Education at McLean Hospital and Assistant Clinical Professor in the Department of Psychiatry at Harvard Medical School. He is the past president of the Massachusetts Psychological Association, a member the Boston Psychoanalytic Society, and a founding member/fellow of The Society for the Psychological Study of Men and Masculinity, a division of the American Psychological Association. An internationally recognized authority on boys and men, Dr. Pollack is Founder & Director of the REAL BOYS® Educational Programs.