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3.5 out of 53.5 out of 53.5 out of 53.5 out of 53.5 out of 5 3.50 (24 ratings) (rate this audio book) Author: Ruth Reichl Narrator: Ruth Reichl Publisher: Penguin Random House Format: Unabridged Audiobook Delivery: Instant Download Audio Length: Release Date: April 2009 ISBN: 9781101050965
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Bestselling author Ruth Reichl examines her mother’s life, giving voice to the universal unarticulated truth that we are grateful not to be our mothers. 

In Not Becoming My Mother, bestselling author Ruth Reichl embarks on a clear-eyed, openhearted investigation of her mother’s life, piecing together the journey of a woman she comes to realize she never really knew. Looking to her mother’s letters and diaries, Reichl confronts the painful transition her mother made from a hopeful young woman to an increasingly unhappy older one and realizes the tremendous sacrifices she made to make sure her daughter’s life would not be as disappointing as her own.

Growing up in Cleveland, Miriam Brudno dreamed of becoming a doctor, like her father. But when she announced this, her parents said, “You’re no beauty, and it’s too bad you’re such an intellectual. But if you become a doctor, no man will ever marry you.” Instead, at twenty, Miriam opened a bookstore, a profession everyone agreed was suitably ladylike.

On what would have been Miriam’s hundredth birthday, Reichl opens up her mother’s diaries for the first time and encounters a whole new woman. This is a person she had never known. In this intimate study Reichl comes to understand the lessons of rebellion, independence, and self-acceptance that her mother—though unable to guide herself—succeeded in teaching her daughter.

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Quotes & Awards

  • “Candid and insightful, Reichl’s intensely personal and fiercely loving tribute acknowledges her mother as both the source and inspiration behind her success.”

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  • Selected for the May 2009 Indie Next List
  • A New York Times Bestseller

Listener Opinions

  • 5 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 5 Ac | 2/10/2014

    " I think I will look up other books by Ruth Reichal probably mostly to do with her mother and their relationship. This is a very moving book.....we all have interesting stories I am sure having to do with our mothers....their weaknesses, strengths, character flaws and how all of those impacted our development as human beings....woman or man. I recommend this book highly....a novella....easy read but highly poignant! "

  • 2 out of 52 out of 52 out of 52 out of 52 out of 5 Susy | 2/4/2014

    " I've loved all Ruth Reichl's memoirs; she's smart, a great writer and a fabulous cook. But she's always made it clear that her mother was 'difficult, moody' and they weren't friends. So, I thought this would be insightful, and she'd realize how she'd misjudged her mom. Maybe this approach is because I worry that my children might harbor such angst. Well, she forgives her mother for some things but mostly portrays her as a victim of a culture that put no stock on intelligent women who weren't born to be housekeepers. More than anything, it made me wonder how my mother truly felt about her years as a stay at home mom who never had the wherewithal to have a lovely home & buy & prepare expensive food - even if she'd wanted to. And of course, if I ask her that now, she'll say "I can't remember" and why put her through all that. "

  • 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5 Kelly | 1/27/2014

    " This was a super quick read and a good book. I recommend it! "

  • 2 out of 52 out of 52 out of 52 out of 52 out of 5 Kathryn | 1/23/2014

    " I've liked her other books better "

  • 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5 J | 1/6/2014

    " I can relate quite a bit to Ms. Reichl's story about her mother.... Sometimes it is a gift to be told, "Don't be like me." Some mothers do it consciously, others, unwittingly. I felt sad for her that she wasn't able to tell her mother she got it and thank you. Either way, this is my first Ruth Reichl book and I'm looking forward to reading others. "

  • 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5 Christy Sibila | 12/15/2013

    " On what would have been her mother's 100th birthday, Ruth Reichl reads through her letters and notes to discover what her mother truly sacrificied so that her daughter could realize her full potential for happiness. "

  • 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5 Steve | 12/15/2013

    " Reichl portrays her mother with honesty, understanding, and appreciation. Concise, powerful, thought-provoking. "

  • 3 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 5 Dina | 12/6/2013

    " Reichl found her mother's letters and scrap paper notes dumped in a box. From them she learned how unhappy her mother had been and how hard she tried to make sure her daughter was prepared to make a better, happier life for herself. "

  • 2 out of 52 out of 52 out of 52 out of 52 out of 5 Ellie Revert | 12/6/2013

    " A sweet story about how a deeply disturbed mother tried to protect her daughter from her basic DNA. The great joy is that the mother "found" herself in her later years. "

  • 2 out of 52 out of 52 out of 52 out of 52 out of 5 Cristin | 11/20/2013

    " This is more an essay than a book, but I always like her writing. "

  • 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5 Teresa | 11/16/2013

    " Another excellent read by Ruth Reichl!!! "

  • 3 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 5 MaryAnn | 10/12/2013

    " A somewhat apologetic work from this food critic, who has constantly berated her mother's inability to cook, among other things, in her other books. "

  • 3 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 5 Trudy | 9/29/2013

    " This one was real short. Far from my favorite Reichl, but still good. Read it on the airplane descent. "

  • 5 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 5 Patricia | 9/24/2013

    " This book is not what you think! It pertains to a realization a grown daughter has of her mother's emotional sacrifices, which she clearly was never aware of. It a wonderful book for women. "

  • 2 out of 52 out of 52 out of 52 out of 52 out of 5 Camille | 8/21/2013

    " A slight book that reads like an essay. Reichl recounts episodes of her mother's life through long buried correspondence and diaries. Gives the reader some insight into what it must have been like for women who feel compelled to be different but are forced to conform to society's ideas. "

  • 5 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 5 Diane Woodruff | 7/5/2013

    " Food writer, Ruth Reitchl reads her deceased mother's diaries and comes to a new understanding of her mother. It redefined for her who her mother was. "

  • 5 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 5 Lenore | 6/10/2013

    " A must read for all who might have continuing issues with their mothers - this book is quite wonderful in the description of the realtionship. "

  • 3 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 5 Virginia Albanese | 4/15/2013

    " OK, show how women in that time didn't have opportunites to be independent and creative and how author's Mother encouraged such in her. "

  • 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5 Lisa Johnson | 4/2/2012

    " This was a very quick read. I really like Ruth Reichl's writing and this book did not disappoint. I've been wanting something new from her since "Garlic and Sapphires". This book was an homage to her mother whom she has written about quite a bit over the years. "

  • 3 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 5 Danni | 7/17/2011

    " This is a book about a woman with bipolar and how she stuggled to raise her children well and teach them about life. Her daughter didn't appreciate what she had done until after she was gone. It gave me some interesting ideas. "

  • 3 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 5 Robynn | 3/14/2011

    " I enjoy Ruth Reichl's writing and after all these year's of reading her memoirs I feel a kinship with her. So many of us struggle, as I do, to understand that most significant person in our lives. Through the years I ponder about who she was and who I am because of her. "

  • 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5 K Krause | 5/10/2010

    " My only issue with this short memoir/biography of Ruth Reichl and her mother is that it was too short. I wanted to know more! "

  • 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5 Jaylia3 | 1/1/2010

    " A moving and surprisingly gripping account of how Ruth Reichl's mother struggled for happiness and meaning at a time--not so long ago--when beauty was a woman's only asset, and marriage and motherhood her only socially sanctioned goals. "

  • 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5 Holly | 12/7/2009

    " A really nice book about mothers and daughters, uphill climbs and joys but mainly how much of a struggle it can be to be a woman in a very complicated world. "

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About the Author
Author Ruth Reichl

Ruth Reichl is the bestselling author of the memoirs Tender at the Bone and Comfort Me with Apples and the novel Delicious! She was editor-in-chief of Gourmet magazine for ten years. She lives in New York City with her husband, son, and two cats.