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3 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 5 3.00 (2,039 ratings) (rate this audio book) Author: Ruth Reichl Narrator: Ruth Reichl Publisher: Penguin Random House Format: Unabridged Audiobook Delivery: Instant Download Audio Length: Release Date:
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Bestselling author Ruth Reichl examines her mother’s life, giving voice to the universal unarticulated truth that we are grateful not to be our mothers. 

In Not Becoming My Mother, bestselling author Ruth Reichl embarks on a clear-eyed, openhearted investigation of her mother’s life, piecing together the journey of a woman she comes to realize she never really knew. Looking to her mother’s letters and diaries, Reichl confronts the painful transition her mother made from a hopeful young woman to an increasingly unhappy older one and realizes the tremendous sacrifices she made to make sure her daughter’s life would not be as disappointing as her own.

Growing up in Cleveland, Miriam Brudno dreamed of becoming a doctor, like her father. But when she announced this, her parents said, “You’re no beauty, and it’s too bad you’re such an intellectual. But if you become a doctor, no man will ever marry you.” Instead, at twenty, Miriam opened a bookstore, a profession everyone agreed was suitably ladylike.

On what would have been Miriam’s hundredth birthday, Reichl opens up her mother’s diaries for the first time and encounters a whole new woman. This is a person she had never known. In this intimate study Reichl comes to understand the lessons of rebellion, independence, and self-acceptance that her mother—though unable to guide herself—succeeded in teaching her daughter.

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Quotes & Awards

  • “Candid and insightful, Reichl’s intensely personal and fiercely loving tribute acknowledges her mother as both the source and inspiration behind her success.”


  • Selected for the May 2009 Indie Next List
  • A New York Times Bestseller

Listener Opinions

  • 5 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 5 by Ac | 2/10/2014

    " I think I will look up other books by Ruth Reichal probably mostly to do with her mother and their relationship. This is a very moving book.....we all have interesting stories I am sure having to do with our mothers....their weaknesses, strengths, character flaws and how all of those impacted our development as human beings....woman or man. I recommend this book highly....a novella....easy read but highly poignant! "

  • 2 out of 52 out of 52 out of 52 out of 52 out of 5 by Susy | 2/4/2014

    " I've loved all Ruth Reichl's memoirs; she's smart, a great writer and a fabulous cook. But she's always made it clear that her mother was 'difficult, moody' and they weren't friends. So, I thought this would be insightful, and she'd realize how she'd misjudged her mom. Maybe this approach is because I worry that my children might harbor such angst. Well, she forgives her mother for some things but mostly portrays her as a victim of a culture that put no stock on intelligent women who weren't born to be housekeepers. More than anything, it made me wonder how my mother truly felt about her years as a stay at home mom who never had the wherewithal to have a lovely home & buy & prepare expensive food - even if she'd wanted to. And of course, if I ask her that now, she'll say "I can't remember" and why put her through all that. "

  • 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5 by Kelly | 1/27/2014

    " This was a super quick read and a good book. I recommend it! "

  • 2 out of 52 out of 52 out of 52 out of 52 out of 5 by Kathryn | 1/23/2014

    " I've liked her other books better "

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