Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough Audiobook

" This is a must-read for every woman in their 20s and beyond, whether they are single, in a relationship, engaged, or married. While it can sometimes be hard to stomach, this is the sage advice of a woman who's been there. It may hurt you in your feminist heart a little or seem pathetic at times (I need a man, wah!) - but it's good to strip away those illusions of "some day my prince will come" and feel less guilty about wanting the whole marriage/white-picket fence fantasy without actually knowing why. It's a self-aware masterpiece that really questions what marriage is fundamentally about - and it's nothing like a Disney princess movie, but it's not horrible either. So many of us have been in dead-end relationships, hoping he'll change or have had doubts about someone we love, thinking the grass is greener on the other side. As my wise co-worker told me recently, maybe you are on the side with the greener grass. This book confirms it for me! Whether you agree with it or not, it really makes you think! Highly recommended. "

" Despite the somewhat provocative title, this book offers advice for both men and women (although it is definitely geared toward white upper middle class women). Boiled down, the premise is don't be overly judgmental about romantic partners. Marriage is about compromise and acceptance, the dashing Heathcliff of your fantasies isn't the guy who will get up in the middle of the night to comfort a crying baby. The author (and many of her female friends) have the problem of dumping nice guys who aren't exciting enough or pursuing guys who aren't interested in family life, which has left them single and alone in the early 40s with diminishing prospects. Gottlieb tries to change her behavior and open herself up to dating different types of men (no more turning down guys who aren't tall). There is some good stuff in there about looking for people with the same values not all of the same interests and realizing that marriage won't satisfy all of your needs. "

" This book really had me look at myself in a different light. I am superficial when it comes to what I look for in a mate and have discounted some guys on some pretty shallow reasons, just like the ladies in the book that are still single and searching for love. We are searching for this ideal person who is not real. I need to take some of the 'must have' items off of my list and see what kind of relationship I can foster on character instead of looks or material things. "

" I like this book because it goes against modern dating advice to women (as found in He's Just Not That Into You) and uses research and evidence to reinforce her approach to finding someone to marry. It totally changes my mindset on what to consider when dating someone. I can't testify as to it's accuracy yet, but I can't wait to try it! "

" I read this based on a friend's recommendation, but if Captain Beatty is looking for a book to burn, I'd gladly throw this one to the flames. At times intriguing and insightful, Gottlieb's self-help journal grated on my nerves for the majority of the time I spent reading it. Obviously, the controversial title is off-putting. Settling? Mr. Good Enough? These are words that would startle even a non-feminist, nevermind someone like myself. Gottlieb paints a bleak picture for single women, particularly those over 30, and especially those 40 and older. She dashes dreams by comparing marriage to a "business partnership". And, if the whole book weren't depressing enough, she doesn't leave the reader with a happy ending. (Oh. That's right. This isn't a fairy tale.) If you look a bit deeper though, the message of this book is clear: Mr. Perfect doesn't exist because he's a figment of the imagination. In actuality, what you perceive to be "Mr. Good Enough" IS your Mr. Perfect. (And he's not an alpha male...) "

" Such an insightful book. To me this book was less about "settling" and more abou the ridiculous standards that women set for men they date. I would reccomend this to any single girl I know. "

" incredibly depressing statistics "

" I really enjoyed this book because it included research findings as well as real-life stories. I highly recommend it to any woman who is single and can not figure out why. I was laughing about some of the reasons why women ended relationships with decent men. "

" I kept telling my friends that this woman had written our story... "

" I am in the "getting older and single" category. Luckily, I don't have the biological clock issue, but I would like to get married someday. This book makes a lot of sense, even if you don't really want to hear some of the advice. "

" Well written advice. "

" Predictably narcissistic, filled with the type of vapid pop culture references that have misdirected women about relationships for years, nay, centuries. Still... Reads like a diary entry, or transcript of late night talks in the dorms. in that way was a guilty pleasure read. "

" Very important lessons for me to keep in mind regarding what is really important in developing a long-term relationship. Is it a want or a need...always remember the difference. Differintiate between pickiness, minor annoyances, actual deal breakers and focus on appreciation. "

" I would recommend this book to anyone who is still single. "

" I usually can't stand any kind of self improvement books, but I really like this one. It was hilarious and read more like a memoir than self help, but I still feel it had a lot to say about the horribly unrealistic standards of modern women. "

" Interesting, too long, but made the point without, I thought, being misogynist. "

" the title does not give this book justice "

" EVERY SINGLE SINGLE woman should read this book. Maybe even married ones. It's NOT about settling, it's about realism. "

" Predictably narcissistic, filled with the type of vapid pop culture references that have misdirected women about relationships for years, nay, centuries. Still... Reads like a diary entry, or transcript of late night talks in the dorms. in that way was a guilty pleasure read. "

" Interesting book, confirmed something I already knew - that Gretchen is the wisest woman I know. "

" This book definitely provides good perspective for a single woman over 35. Unfortunately, the advice may have come too late. While I found it educational and funny at times, it made me slightly depressed. "

" Despite not being a forty-year-old single woman, this book *terrified* me.... "

" Not a bad read, but not one that I'd recommend to just anyone. I'd prefer to recommend it to single women who are open to hearing about how Mr. Perfect may not be out there and therefore shouldn't be waited for! "

" I have to admit I thought the book was a Joke and I started reading it been a skeptic but working the first pages it made me realize I was guilty of the same mistakes she was mentioning. I'm 29 and single and the book has been an eye opening "