“A painfully beautiful memoir….Written with such restraint as to be both heartbreaking and instructive.” —E. L. Doctorow
A revered, many times honored (George Polk, Peabody, and Emmy Award winner, to name but a few) journalist, novelist, and playwright, Roger Rosenblatt shares the unforgettable story of the tragedy that changed his life and his family. A book that grew out of his popular December 2008 essay in The New Yorker, Making Toast is a moving account of unexpected loss and recovery in the powerful tradition of About Alice and The Year of Magical Thinking. Writer Ann Beattie offers high praise to the acclaimed author of Lapham Rising and Beet for a memoir that is, “written so forthrightly, but so delicately, that you feel you’re a part of this family.”
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"I understand the more negative reviews others gave this book, but I personally really liked it. I liked the abrupt shifts from the past to the present to wondering how their lives will unfold without Amy in the world. I liked the profound observations about life, death, and grief woven with the simple day-to-day routines like words of the day and making toast. Perhaps I was in the mood to read a book like this. Maybe had I picked this book up at a different time in my life, I would have felt differently."
— Becky (4 out of 5 stars)
" Beautifully written book but hard to read because it hits so close to home. Rosenblatt's daughter died suddenly at age 38, leaving three young children. The two oldest were about the same age as my two kids so it was impossible to read it without imagining my own family in their place. "
— Susan, 2/11/2014" When the author's adult daughter died suddenly, he and his wife moved in with their son-in-law and 3 young grandchildren. Written in short snippets, this is an open and honest account of their grieving and living during the first year. I was struck by their willingness to pick up their lives and begin parenting again. I was saddened by their lack of faith and hope in God. I've always wondered how people cope without faith and through this book I gained some insight into the hopelessness of death for those who do not believe in One who holds us all in His hands. "
— Cindy, 1/24/2014" I first heard about this book one afternoon on "All Things Considered." I sat in my driveway and cried as I listened to Roger Rosenblatt read from the book. It's perhaps the best book I ever read. Touching and sad without being manipulative or sentimental. I highly highly recommend. "
— Melissa, 1/21/2014" charming and touching but i couldn't get over the thick veneer of privilege over the whole story. i'm with the nanny Ligaya who says, "You are not the first to go through such a thing, and you are better able to handle it than most." "
— Mary, 1/20/2014" Rosenblatt shares his understandable anger and grief caused by the death of his amazing adult daughter. His glimpses of life past (with his daughter) and present (with his grandchildren and son-in-law) allow you to view things from his perspective. He is obviously angry at God but tells the reader, repeatedly, insistently and almost proudly, that he raised his children in a home without religion. After reading the book, I felt that if he had religion, faith in God, and belief in an afterlife, he would be dealing with his loss in a healthier way. He would also be progressing toward a resolution instead of being left in his perpetual quagmire of grief with no relief in sight. "
— Pam, 1/19/2014" Wow--what a disappointment this book was! Here I thought I would get some help with my own grief. What a surprise! I've always wondered what people do with death that don't believe in God and now I know! This guy and his family have no religious affiliation or spiritual grounding at all. They end up being bitter and angry. I kept waiting for them to transform as time went on but it didn't happen. So sad! It was also too "we summer in the Hamptons, we love Obama, and I name drop every chance I get" for me. BLAH!!! "
— Nicole, 1/18/2014" A sweet story of coping and doing the best you can, and finding out it was what you were meant to do! "
— Cheri, 1/16/2014" A touching story, but very fragmented. "
— Annie, 1/9/2014" I fully acknowledge that after the miserable experience of reading The Passage, I was predisposed to love whatever book came next, but I really did love this one. It was written so simply. He would catch me off-guard and suddenly I would be laughing out loud or tearing up. "
— Leanne, 1/6/2014" A touching memoir. I shed a few tears. "
— Jennifer, 12/4/2013" My review can be found here "
— Les, 9/20/2013" I had little patience with his whining but then I have not walked in his shoes. "
— Maureen, 5/11/2013" A loving memorial to the authors daughter, a talented doctor and mother of 3 who suddenly died of heart failure while on a treadmill one morning. The author and his beloved wife move in to help their son in law care for the kids. Well written, moving and so sad. "
— Miko, 4/29/2013" I wanted to love this and could not. Great idea, not well written and the author teaches people to write??? Never felt like any characters were well developed. "
— Colleen, 12/8/2012" Simply fabulous. Should be required reading when you lose a loved one. Even if only for that easter bunny story... "
— Sarah, 9/6/2012" a beautifully written memoir mired in sadness but not trite nor self-aggrandizing. the vignette styling made this a quick read, but it was the investment in seeing this family step out of the shade of tragedy is what really kept me turning the pages. "
— Melana, 8/26/2012" So good and touching. Told from the grandfather's point of view. "
— Amy, 7/23/2012" I wanted more from this book, I'm not sure what. Emotion, detail, something. Written from the perspective of a grandpa who moves in and helps with the grandkids after his daughter suddenly dies. It was good but I was expecting it to be great. "
— Kacey, 6/19/2012" I really got a lot of comfort out of reading this book. It spoke to me. I read Rosenblatt's two books about the death of his daughter in the wrong order, but that didn't matter. They were both so good. I lost my husband,not a child, but the book was special to me also. "
— Sue, 5/9/2012" The premise was great, but the writing was dry as toast and I didn't finish the book. "
— Denise, 5/7/2012" I have to admit I am not going to finish this book. Almost half way through and it is too depressing to to finish. It is a well written account of a family's struggle with grief from a sudden loss, but you have to be in the right frame of mind to get through it. "
— Carolyn, 4/1/2012" Having never read anything by this author, this book was a bit different. A Mitch Albom meets real life struggle, it was lovely. I enjoyed the story and was glad I got a momentary glimpse into the lives of this family. "
— Tami, 6/30/2011" Lovingly written memoir by writer Roger Rosenblatt, regarding his 'new, new' after the death of his daughter. He and his wife move in with their son-in-law to help raise/support their three young grandchildren. A simple reflective read on the complexities of losing a loved one. P.K. "
— Horace, 5/31/2011" I loved this poignant, short book. It makes you think about what to do when people are dealing with the death of a family member. Funny and sad. "
— Diane, 5/22/2011" The touching story by a father whose married daughter dies unexpectedly. He and his wife move in with his son in law to help with the grandchildren and the everyday tasks that must be done. "
— Diane, 5/16/2011" a sad but true story worth reading "
— Nancy, 5/14/2011" I enjoy Rosenblatt's subtle humor and his ability to find inspiration in the quotidian. This memoir shows these abilities can overcome even the most tragic events. This book avoids gratuitous pathos and glib, easy answers; striking a good balance rarely found in books of this type. "
— Gobasso, 5/13/2011" I really enjoyed this quick read despite the sad subject. "
— Bebe, 5/8/2011" Parts of this were sad, some were funny, most sounded like bragging. He wanted you to know how many friends they all had and liked dropping famous names. I felt like he just had not really experienced life and now is mad because something unpleasant came into his it. "
— Denese, 4/9/2011" A good memoir, but very fragmented. "
— Eileen, 4/3/2011Roger Rosenblatt’s essays for Time magazine and PBS have won two George Polk Awards, a Peabody, and an Emmy. He is the author of six Off-Broadway plays and thirteen books, including the national bestseller Rules for Aging and Children of War, which won the Robert F. Kennedy Book Prize and was a finalist for the National Book Critics Circle Award. He has written two satirical novels, Beet and Lapham Rising, also a national bestseller. In 2008 he was appointed a distinguished professor of English and writing at Stony Brook University.