A sanity-saving guide that cuts through the sky-high expectations of modern love and helps you build healthier and more fulfilling relationships, from the creator of viral Instagram account YourDiagnonsense
“Witty, practical, fun, and deeply honest.”—Terrence Real, New York Times bestselling author of Us
You’re not crazy. You’re human.
Modern love is a mess and life is (spoiler alert!) very hard. Whether you’re in a committed relationship or on the apps, buckle up, there’s a lot to unlearn.
How to Love Someone Without Losing Your Mind is your guide to sanity in a culture gone mad. Psychotherapist and sex therapist Todd Baratz blends sharp humor with raw insight as he challenges us to break every rule about love. It’s time to move beyond the relentless pursuit of the perfect partner, to challenge the stigma against neediness, and to rethink our obsession with diagnosing common challenges as disorders.
Instead, he offers an empowering new perspective: Embrace challenges, feel deeply, make mistakes, learn, and grow. Drawing from his extensive experience as both a therapist and a patient, Baratz shares stories of navigating his personal traumas and guiding others through theirs.
This book is an invitation to understand your life as part of a larger cultural narrative. It encourages you to delve into your history, cultivate self-awareness, and take responsibility in your relationships. By doing so, you can move beyond the fairy tale and transform your approach to love.
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"Witty, practical, fun, and deeply honest, reading Todd Baratz feels like sitting with a young best friend with whom you can let your hair down and discuss everything. Except this pal happens to be a world class sex and couples therapist happy to share what he’s learned working with his clients and working on himself. You might just walk away with a changed life."
— Terrence Real, New York Times bestselling author of Us
As a psychotherapist, Todd Baratz distinguishes himself as a triple-threat: keenly observant, deeply empathic, and remarkably wise. His debut book, How to Love Someone Without Losing Your Mind, is all that and more: it’s personal, authentic, and laugh-out-loud funny.
— Ian Kerner, PhD LMFT, New York Times best-selling author of She Comes FirstIn this accessible book, Todd skillfully demystifies the intricacies of fostering a relationship with oneself while navigating the challenges of being in love. It is a must-read for anyone seeking a deeper understanding of relationships and personal well-being.
— Nedra Glover Tawwab, LCSW, New York Times Bestselling Author and TherapistPersonal, honest, and provocative. Todd challenges narratives, normalizes relationships challenges, and helps you build healthier dynamics. He is saying everything that needs to be said about love today.
— Dr. Sara Kuburic, creator of MillennialTherapist and author of It’s On MeIf you are looking for a roadmap to aid in navigating the complexities of love today and cultivating clarity, understanding, and connection in your relationship to yourself and others, this book is for you.
— Alexandra H. Solomon, PhD, faculty at Northwestern University, bestselling author of Love Every Day, and host of the podcast, Reimagining LoveTodd Baratz writes the truth about relationship dynamics that we all need to hear. Finally a therapist who tells it like it is and cuts through all the pop psychology dogma that’s permeating the internet. This is a must read for everyone.
— Jillian TureckiWith wisdom, empathy and humor, Todd Baratz will help you uplevel your relationships, by first understanding the relationship with yourself. If you're ready to ditch the patterns that no longer serve you so you can have the sex life and relationships you desire, How to Love Someone Without Losing Your Mind is the book you've been waiting for.
— Emily Morse, host of the Sex with Emily podcast, doctor of human sexuality and author of Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your PleasureIt’s the anti-self-help book you didn’t know you needed. It brings a refreshing twist to the self-help genre that's both engaging and genuinely funny. Whether you’re blissfully single, tangled in the ‘it’s complicated’ web or simply mulling over your love life, this book acts as the reality check you’ve been waiting for.
— Jeff Guenther, LPC, creator of TherapyJeffTodd Baratz will help you love and live sanely. This smart, surprising, and compassionate book is for anyone who ever fell for someone, felt hurt, wondered why, and longed for a better way.
— Wednesday Martin, PhD, New York Times bestselling author of Primates of Park AvenueWitty, practical, fun, and deeply honest . . . Baratz’s insights liberate us from the ubiquitous nonsense about relationships that only make us feel worse about ourselves. You might just walk away with a changed life.
— Terrence Real, New York Times bestselling author of UsEmbark on a journey of self-discovery with Baratz’s insightful exploration of love. In this accessible book, he skillfully demystifies the intricacies of fostering a relationship with oneself while navigating the challenges of being in love. It is a must-read for anyone seeking a deeper understanding of relationships and personal well-being.
— Nedra Glover Tawwab, LCSW, therapist, New York Times bestselling author of Drama FreeAs a psychotherapist, Todd Baratz distinguishes himself as a triple threat: keenly observant, deeply empathic, and remarkably wise. His debut book is all that and more: personal, authentic, and laugh-out-loud funny—an essential read, regardless of your gender or orientation, whether you’re in a relationship or looking for one.
— Ian Kerner, PhD, LMFT, New York Times bestselling author of She Comes FirstThe anti-self-help book you didn’t know you needed . . . It brings a refreshing twist to the genre that’s both engaging and genuinely funny. Whether you’re single, tangled in the ‘it’s complicated’ web, or simply mulling over your love life, this is the reality check you’ve been waiting for.
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