Far from the Tree: Parents, Children and the Search for Identity is the autobiography by National Book Award winner and Pulitzer Prize nominee Andrew Solomon.
A lucid and truly creative mind, Solomon's path started with his experiences of being gay in a straight family. He didn't know how other parents could provide for their kids who have a number of marks that make them different: a family of deaf kids, dwarves, Down-syndrome, autistic, schizophrenic, and other severely disabled, those who are a prodigy, who commit a crime, and who are transgender too. This begins with his experience as a son, and ends with his journey as a dad, but throughout it tries to unravel how despite our differences, we aren't so unlike our parents, or others half way across the globe.
Many find this book remarkably brave in the questions it asks and in the answers it hopes to uncover.
Divided into twelve poignant sections, Solomon relates the stories of people who are victimized in tragic ways because of the world's prejudices, but he also tells the readers about the families who surround their kids with love despite those differences and who try to alter the world-view of being different with difficult circumstances. He eloquently, humbly, and lovingly speaks for the folks who have no voice in this world. This moving angle that he shows us about a serious social issue provides a conclusion that can stretch to any family or cultural view and will help academics and politicians as well as the commoner to address the issue of illness and self-identity.
Solomon, born in 1963, writes on numerous socio-political-cultural issues.
"Wow. An epic (900+pages) review of many ways in which children can indeed fall far from the tree, requiring parents to dig much deeper to figure out how to parent them. Each chapter focuses on a different way in which children can be substantially different from their parents, either physically or psychologically. The chapters are riddled with interesting case studies from Solomon's hundreds of interviews, plus a lot of background info on the particular difference that chapter features. But the point of it all is to explore how parents try (or in some cases don't) to rise to the occasion of being the best parent possible to someone whose experience of life is beyond their own."
—
Marcia (4 out of 5 stars)