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3 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 5 3.00 (319 ratings) (rate this audio book) Author: Rosie Schaap Narrator: Rosie Schaap Publisher: Brilliance Audio Format: Unabridged Audiobook Delivery: Instant Download Audio Length: Release Date: January 2013 ISBN: 9781469236292
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Rosie Schaap has always loved bars: the wood and brass and jukeboxes, the knowing bartenders, and especially the sometimes surprising but always comforting company of regulars. Starting with her misspent youth in the bar car of a regional railroad, where at age fifteen she told commuters’ fortunes in exchange for beer, and continuing today as she slings cocktails at a neighborhood joint in Brooklyn, Schaap has learned her way around both sides of a bar and come to realize how powerful the fellowship among bar patrons can be. In Drinking with Men, Schaap shares her unending quest for the perfect local haunt that takes her from a dive outside L.A. to a Dublin pub full of poets, and from small-town New England taverns to a character-filled bar in Tribeca. Drinking alongside artists and expats, ironworkers and soccer fanatics, she finds that these places offer a safe haven, a respite, and a place to feel most like herself. In rich, colorful prose, Schaap brings to life these seedy, warm, and wonderful rooms. Drinking with Men is a love letter to the bars, pubs, and taverns that have been Schaap’s refuge, and a celebration of the uniquely civilizing source of community that is bar culture at its best. Download and start listening now!


Quotes & Awards

  • “Schaap describes the unusual camaraderie among bar ‘regulars’ with poignant specificity. It’s a cozy, intimate pleasure to go belly-to-bar with her.”

    Entertainment Weekly

  • “A vivid study of both Schaap’s life in bars, often as one of the few women regulars, and a gimlet-eyed exploration of modern bar culture.”

    Chicago Tribune

  • “Phenomenal.”

    Food & Wine

  • “Schaap warmly toasts the urge so many of us share to find a spot where everybody knows your name.”


  • “A witty homage to pubs and bars and the regulars who call them home.”

    O Magazine

  • A 2013 BookPage Best Book
  • A 2013 NPR Best Book
  • A 2013 Library Journal Book of the Year for Memoir

Listener Opinions

  • 3 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 5 Althea | 2/8/2014

    " This is not so much about drinking with men as with finding a good bar which, according to the author, has interesting patrons who care about one another, is not too fancy and, of course, is under the auspices of intelligent and sympathetic bartenders, staff and owners. I understand her attraction to these places completely and even though she is sometimes quite self-involved, I enjoyed her memoir. "

  • 3 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 5 Michele Hush | 1/28/2014

    " Rosie Schaap writes in a warm, enthusiastic way that makes for a pleasant read. But I have to say, her lifestyle scared me. She is a seeker and a risk-taker who doesn't seem sufficiently aware that she is either. Every time I turned the page I expected to read, "Hi. My name is Rosie, and I'm an alcoholic." I remain puzzled, but wish her well. "

  • 2 out of 52 out of 52 out of 52 out of 52 out of 5 Beth Sherman | 1/26/2014

    " Eh. I am not naive, I know that in today's memoirs the truth has been re-purposed for the sake of good storytelling. But the structure is a little clumsy and the details are somewhat glossed over. "

  • 3 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 5 Squirrel Circus | 1/19/2014

    " Drinking with Men is a collection of Schaap's recollections of her favorite drinking holes, beginning as a teenager in New York City and ending, um, in New York, with a notable absence of personal growth in between. Harsh? Maybe. Maybe I'm being especially hard on Schaap because I "get" everything she says about the amazing feeling of fitting in somewhere, somewhere, to quote Cheers, "where everybody knows your name". I've been a girl who loves bars, who enjoyed heated discussions and heart to heart soul dumping over a nice Scotch or pint of ale. I've been "one of the guys" with a lot of the same upsides and downsides that Schaap describes. I learned a lot about people and even more about myself. I made some lifelong friends, some mistakes and missteps, and I MOVED on. I guess that's what I hoped Schaap would do.....and she doesn't. She moves on, to another.....and another....and another bar..where, each time, she builds a new substitute family (a deep need, obviously..she doesn't have much to say about her actual family) spends every night there for months, and then picks up and starts somewhere new. Throughout the whole memoir, she holds down an interesting array of jobs and even marries, but nothing sticks. The individual bars start to sound the same, and I wish she had spent more time showing what sets each, and the characters within, apart. At the end of Drinking with Men, Schaap is bartending, parttime, and starts to make some interesting observations from the other side of the rail...for about two paragraphs, and she's done. YET, when you read her bio on the back, you find out she has plenty going for herself, professionally, as a writer, but nothing really makes it into her memoir that doesn't happen inside the four walls of a bar. Too bad. I think she has more to say.... "

  • 3 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 5 Kirsten | 1/11/2014

    " A fun read about a woman's love of bars and her journey through life. "

  • 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5 Alissa Wilkinson | 12/16/2013

    " I really, really liked this book. I was expecting a Chelsea Handler-style comedic memoir with a lot of debauchery, but instead Schaap wrote a lovely, thoughtful, honest coming-of-age sort of memoir that centers around the community and maturity a girl can learn from the right kind of watering hole. "

  • 3 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 5 Krista | 12/5/2013

    " Non-fiction, memoir, travel. Daughter of Dick, sister of Jeremy. Stories about pubs/taverns that became her "local" for a period of time. "

  • 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5 Jennipher | 11/22/2013

    " A very smart book - lots of poet naming but you can still read between the lines and following along. The life lead by a woman in bars - what more is there to say. "

  • 2 out of 52 out of 52 out of 52 out of 52 out of 5 Andrew | 11/19/2013

    " Gave up about 25-30% in ... unable to relate to the author's perspective, which makes for tough going in a memoir. "

  • 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5 Terri Rappaport | 8/20/2013

    " This book isn't just about drinking and bars, it's about a woman getting to know who she is And how she fits into the world. It's full of self-revelation, laughter, sadness, and most of all, life. I loved it. "

  • 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5 Caren | 8/13/2013

    " This book made me feel much better about my own drinking habits! Clever and great story telling, I enjoyed this memoir. "

  • 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5 Megan | 5/30/2013

    " Enjoyed this quite a bit. Made me "feel the feels" quite a bit, too. Just read it, it reads fast, it's lovely. Read it in a bar. Made me want to find my own local. I do have one prospect... "

  • 2 out of 52 out of 52 out of 52 out of 52 out of 5 Melissa | 2/20/2013

    " Started strong, but then, meh. "

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About the Author

Rosie Schaap has been a bartender, a fortuneteller, a librarian at a paranormal society, an English teacher, an editor, a preacher, a community organizer, and a manager of homeless shelters. A contributor to This American Life and npr.org, she writes the “Drink” column for The New York Times Magazine. She was born in New York City and still lives there.