Pete Dizinoff has spent years working toward a life that would be, by all measures, deemed successful. A skilled internist, he’s built a thriving practice in suburban New Jersey. He has a devoted wife, a network of close friends, and an impressive house, and most important, he has a son, Alec, on whom he’s pinned all his hopes. Pete has afforded Alec every opportunity, bailed him out of close calls with the law, and even ensured his acceptance into a good college. But Pete never counted on the wild card: Laura, his best friend’s daughter—ten years older than Alec, irresistibly beautiful, with a past so shocking that it’s never spoken of. When Laura sets her sights on Alec, Pete sees his plans for his son not just unraveling but being destroyed completely. Believing he has only the best of intentions, he sets out to derail this romance and rescue his son. He could never have foreseen how his whole world would shatter in the process. Lauren Grodstein delivers a riveting story in the tradition of The Ice Storm,American Beauty, and Little Children, charting a father’s fall from grace as he struggles to save his family, his reputation, and himself.
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"Great storytelling...a suburban dream gone haywire, about an upstanding New Jersey doctor who goes to great lengths to ensure his son's future. Many baby boomers will relate to Dr. Pete, as their friend and neighbor who brags about the son who is a baseball star or got into MIT...it is all very familiar territory. Perhaps, that's what makes it all the more frightening. With one child, Pete pins all his hopes and dreams onto Alec who cannot live up to his expectations and this college dropout takes up with a friend of the family's daughter, 10 years older than the boy, who has her own serious mental problems. It is too much for baby boomer Peter to bear. This book is a compelling read - one you won't put down till the last page ...a cross between the Bergen county area Harlan Coben thrillers and a Jewish family saga.(They even mention Rockland Bakery!)"
— Sunny (4 out of 5 stars)
" Really enjoyed this book. Typical dysfunctional family story but well done and very entertaining. Illustrated the fine line between encouraging your children and/or controlling them. "
— Ellen, 2/16/2014" one of those depressing books that makes you wonder why anyone ever gets married and moves to the suburbs. thankfully, real life is not always so bleak! "
— Emily, 2/11/2014" I thoroughly enjoyed 'A Friend of the Family', my first read by Lauren Grodstein. This gripping story is told from the perspective of Pete Dizinoff, a suburban father, husband and physician, whose life spirals out of control. The interesting thing is that he hasn't made any big or shocking choices, but rather a series of small, ordinary decisions that instead turn horribly wrong. Great book - I'll be reading more of hers! "
— Adrienne, 2/5/2014" Enjoyed this book--read it in just a few days. Kept my interest and Grodstein alternated between flashback and and present-tense, which kept me reading! Good airplane book. "
— Liza, 2/1/2014" Have you ever wished really hard that a person you particularly dislike would just go away...forever? I have and perhaps that's why this book held my interest until the very end. Pete has high hopes for his only son Alec (in spite of the fact Alec seems to be on the fast road to inertia having recently dropped out of college). When Laura, a woman with a really disturbing past takes in interest in Alec, Pete will do whatever it takes to break them apart. What complicates matters is the fact that Laura is Pete's best friend's daughter. Not particularly memorable but quite readable I could definitely relate to Pete's frustration "
— Sara, 1/29/2014" This book was definitely a page turner and I found myself longing for time to set aside from my busy day to continue reading. Great character descriptions and the intricacies of the relationships with long time friends. However, the ending fell flat for me. Is it that we are desensitized and expect a dramatic ending? Is this more of "real life"? Perhaps. Regardless, the ending was not complete or not "quite right" and I found myself irritated, saying, "This is it??!!!" "
— Kari, 1/26/2014" This book really surprised me, it was well written. The author had a way with words that was refreshing. The character of the father though is really great because the reader at first is sympathetic towards him, then in the end you grow to loathe him. "
— Kylielibrary, 1/21/2014" This book was well written and paced, but I'm not rating it higher because all the characters are slightly (or more than slightly) loathsome or pitiful, which means I didn't engage with it as fully as I might have. "
— Marian, 1/20/2014" interesting tale of family dynamics but writing was a little strained. Overall I can't recommend it. "
— Lillian, 12/17/2013" i love family trauma novels, this fit the bill "
— Roland, 11/17/2013" This satisfied my need for something meaty and long (this was semi-long). Great story; written in a fashion that could be a turn off--it jumps around quite a bit--but the author does it do seamlessly that it didn't become that for me. Definitely recommend it. "
— Tisha, 10/7/2013" ripped through this...couldn't wait to find out what happened. Was a little disappointed by the ending. Compelling enough to stop me from watching tv for a few days : ) "
— Rhea, 10/5/2013" started out really good, but went downhill. The writing was good, but the story was very sad and a bit unbelievable. "
— Jennifer, 6/22/2013" Lots of flip-flopping between past and present. A lot of the information given seemed very insignificant. Good climax, unexpected. Seemed slow until about 75% of the way through. Not the worst book I've read, but not the greatest by far! "
— Lisa, 6/6/2013" The riveting story of a man who has everything and loses it all in one moment of bad judgment. "
— Patricia, 5/17/2013" now i understand why the person that gave me this book wants to discuss it. A very gripping story of a friendship, family, good intentions and a fathers love for his child. I stayed up til it was done because i was so grabbed by the story. "
— Lesley, 5/14/2013" Another story of family tragedy and what a parent might do to protect their child - the lengths we go. Good read but unsettling "
— Sheila, 3/12/2013" This new novel is about two closely knit families, and the relationship between two of the children that tears them apart--that sounds like a cliche, and unfortunately,it felt that way as I was reading it. Nothing in the narrative was especially surprising or interesting. "
— Diana, 3/7/2013" This was a disappointing book. Chick lit, at its worse. "
— Pat, 6/27/2012" I really was not sure where this book was going. It picked up toward the end, but I felt like the whole flashback concept didn't quite work because I never knew what was going on in the present. Nonetheless, I liked it and would read another book by this author. "
— Annette, 5/13/2012" OK. Predictable "
— Beth, 4/6/2012" An enjoyable read that was not predictable. However, the author sometimes used unfamiliar and obscure words when something simpler would have sufficed. This small thing detracted from the reading experience a bit. "
— Amy, 3/6/2012" So far...amazing. I'm a huge fan of her work. If you haven't read The Best of Animals or Reproduction Is the Flaw of Love.... you should. "
— Robin, 10/17/2011" The story of Pete, his wife Elaine and son Alec...and also their relationship with friends Joe&Iris and their daughter Laura - a story of life, building what you think will be the perfect life, of mistakes children make and trying to protect them from the world and sometimes themselves too. "
— Nicole, 6/23/2011" Just finished this! Couldn't stop at the end! A story about a Jewish family and their expectations for their only child. Poses questions about how to deal with the reality when as a parent your expectations and your child's desires clash. Understandable from all perspectives. "
— Jody, 5/10/2011" This was just a really good read, highly engaging. "
— Kathleen, 3/28/2011" A little slow, but still a good read. You feel bad for the characters. "
— Sb, 3/10/2011" Booooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooring and predictable. I only finished it because it talked about places I knew from living in NJ. Other than that, it wasn't at all interesting and took me forever to read because I just couldn't get through it. "
— Rebekah, 3/8/2011" Was disappointed by the end of this book. Good writing and interesting subject matter, but I felt like she didn't know how to end it.<br/> "
— Kathy, 3/6/2011" I liked this. I don't know that I was crazy about the ending -- I was expecting some Bigger Reveal -- but in terms of the journey, I liked it. "
— Rachel, 3/3/2011" Kept me going to the end - tightly paced and well-written if not brilliant. "
— Sarah, 3/2/2011" This is one of those disturbing cautionary tales about the dangers of unfettered parental concern and ambition for one's children (in this case, a father and his son). It moves along at a fast clip, and leaves the reader with much to think about. Terrific. "
— Julie, 3/1/2011Lauren Grodstein is the author of the collection The Best of Animals and several novels, including Reproduction Is the Flaw of Love, which was both a Breakout Book selection from Amazon.com and a Borders Original Voices pick. She teaches creative writing at Rutgers University.