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3 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 5 3.00 (377 ratings) (rate this audio book) Author: Rachel Simmons Narrator: Christina Moore Publisher: Recorded Books, LLC Format: Unabridged Audiobook Delivery: Instant Download Audio Length: Release Date: August 2009 ISBN: 9781440774188
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Rachel Simmons is a New York Times bestselling author and the founding director of the Girls’ Leadership Institute. The Curse of the Good Girl looks into the phenomenon of the glass ceiling placed on girls who attempt to live up to the standard of being “good.” Simmons then shows how parents can help build girls’ self-esteem and give them the strength to pursue their goals. Download and start listening now!

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Quotes & Awards

  • “In this volume for parents of middle-school daughters, the author of Odd Girl Out observes that girls today still pressure themselves to conform to the old, narrow paradigm of a nice, people-pleasing, rule-following, even-tempered, socially acceptable good girl…Simmons offers instructive tales out of school and workshops, revealing that flawed communication rituals and fear of confrontation contribute equally to a girl's belief that it is more important to be liked than to be an individual.”

    Publishers Weekly

  • “Simmons looks at how societal expectations for young women both guide and curtail their development. With sharp, direct insight, she show how perfectionism, distorted thinking, and fear of speaking out all erode girls’ sense of themselves, and she offers plenty of practical tips for parents and other adults charged with helping girls grow up and into themselves.”

    Booklist

  • “Simmons, the bestselling author of the acclaimed Odd Girl Out, offers another spot-on cultural critique, this time arguing that girls are developing external resumés but not conflict-resolution skills.”

    Library Journal

  • “Simmons explores how encouraging our daughters to be “good girls” (nice, polite, modest, selfless) can undercut their courage and self-confidence, making it hard for them to know what they feel and say what they think…Christina Moore sounds genuinely engaged; she moves easily from dramatizing the book’s plentiful dialogue (produced from interviews) to capably navigating its expository passages.”

  • A New York Times Bestseller

Listener Opinions

  • 5 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 5 Megan | 2/19/2014

    " Every woman, regardless if she is a teacher or a mother of a daughter, must read this book. Rachel Simmons sheds light to the problem with good girls...they are so concerned with being what society, their peers, their teachers, and their own selves deem "good" that they are unable to take risks or learn from failure. We highlight those "good" qualities in girls, yet we celebrate those who are dynamic, vivacious, and have the ability to lead. Rachael describes this societal issue at home and in school in the first half of the book, then gives practical strategies that she uses in the Girl Leadership Institute in the second half of the book. I highly recommend this informative and enlightening book. "

  • 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5 Sarah | 2/17/2014

    " This is an excellent book for anyone who plans on having daughters and raising them to be strong, independent women. Or if you are simply interested in the self-sabotaging habits and coping mechanisms that we as women develop from a young age. "

  • 5 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 5 Michelle | 2/14/2014

    " Excellent book dealing with the pitfalls of trying to be a "good girl". Although it's aimed to women raising daughter's this book addresses many issues that revolving around both girls and women. Great book for discussion in book clubs and women/girls groups. "

  • 3 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 5 Laura | 2/11/2014

    " I thought this book had a lot of good information in the beginning and in the end, but got a little repetitive and boring for me in the middle. I did like the issues she brought up about how girls "work" in relationships and inappropriately treat all relationships as friendships, how they talk, and their self-talk. It was an interesting read to me as both a mother of two girls and also as a woman myself. I really liked her section at the end about how mothers are grown up versions of "good girls" and how being a "perfect" mother rather than a "real" mother is not only a disservice to yourself (and enough to drive you crazy, wear you out, etc.) but a disservice to our daughters who are watching us and then learning their role needs to include all of those "perfect mother" attributes. Very thought-provoking...oh, I need to take time for me, ask for help, have my own interests, not just for ME, but so that my daughter learns that part of being a mom is taking care of herself... Another favorite part was the discussion of how girls care a lot about if someone likes them before they've even decided for themselves if they like that person...why do we care so much if someone that we don't even like likes us? I think that is a great lesson to teach girls when dealing with friends and then when they are old enough to start dating. Find someone YOU like first. "

  • 5 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 5 Carly Trask | 2/10/2014

    " this had everything. future advice for parents and women, a retrospective look on my childhood, chances for personal growth, and explanations for identity traits and quirks. I loved it. I so appreciated the insight and writing style. an amazing book. "

  • 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5 Charles Ellenbogen | 2/10/2014

    " Heartbreakingly familiar. Useful to me both as a parent and a teacher. At times, I wondered if a book on psychology could be TOO accessible (would've liked a bit more evidence and a bit less anecdote) at times, but that's a petty complaint. Ought to be required reading. "

  • 2 out of 52 out of 52 out of 52 out of 52 out of 5 Patty | 2/9/2014

    " While the subject matter was interesting enough, the style of writing did not engage me at all. I did appreciate that not only was she presenting the problem, she also offered solutions, unlike similar books. "

  • 3 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 5 Tammyribbey ribbey | 1/23/2014

    " its alright. to much unneccasary info. long winded but good meaning. "

  • 3 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 5 Deidra | 1/20/2014

    " Not sure being "good" is bad but there were some good lessons once filtered through her world perspective. "

  • 5 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 5 Alli Pedersen | 1/11/2014

    " Excellent. At this point more of a self-reflection book - it's targeted toward helping tween/teenage girls. I'll want to read this again when they're maybe 8 or so. "

  • 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5 Angela | 1/6/2014

    " This book was interesting. Some of it I have already heard, but it is useful especially for moms with daughters. "

  • 5 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 5 Michele | 12/24/2013

    " Must read if you have a daughter. Life changing ... "

  • 3 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 5 Audra | 12/16/2013

    " The main concept of this book is dead on. Growing up the good girl just makes you resentful later in life. Part 1 was informative. I related to the parts about feedback and my CFOV (Crazy Freaked Out Voice). Part 2 was directed at mothers, so it wasn't as useful as Part 1. "

  • 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5 Maria | 12/15/2013

    " I'm listening to the sound of my voice rise in frustration as my 13 year old struggles to find hers... A good reminder that all the feminist identity stuff comes back at you again when your daughter comes of age. Ugh! What a pain! "

  • 1 out of 51 out of 51 out of 51 out of 51 out of 5 Eva | 12/1/2013

    " Not new or interesting. Queen Bees and Wannabees was way better. "

  • 2 out of 52 out of 52 out of 52 out of 52 out of 5 Vivian Li | 10/23/2013

    " only stated the obvious "

  • 3 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 5 Arna | 3/26/2013

    " Raises interesting points - I certainly identified ways in which I behaved asa teenager (and still do now) - while I don't agree with every premise, I would recommend this for parents of daughters. "

  • 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5 Christiana | 3/15/2013

    " I thought this was a really interesting read. It was a little more parenting than I thought it would be, but I think the ideas about how girls are being raised to be meeker and not express their true feelings is spot-on in adolescence and even early adulthood. "

  • 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5 Casandria | 3/2/2013

    " This book presents good insight into the ways girls have been pressured to be good, and how it has had negative results. "

  • 3 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 5 Erin | 1/10/2013

    " While I don't plan on having girls, I thought it would give some insight to me. And it did! I do feel like I felt the pressure to be a "good girl" instead of a "real girl" but can see now how that's changed. It had some interesting ideas that would hold true for girls/boys/adults. "

  • 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5 Nuree | 9/7/2012

    " Great read for anyone who works with girls, or for just anyone who wants to do some self-reflection like I did. "

  • 1 out of 51 out of 51 out of 51 out of 51 out of 5 Stacey | 10/25/2011

    " I was ready to be educated. Instead I had to be convinced for 200 more pages than I really have time for. Just cut to the chase. Girls can be pleasers -- now what do we DO about it? Gave up, 145 pages in. Skim it sometime? maybe "

  • 3 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 5 Kathleen | 7/12/2011

    " This was an interesting book about raising girls who are not afraid to express their opinions or be truthful to their own wnats and needs. It gave me a lot of food for thought and I saw the many ways that I have bought into the whole "good girl" curse. "

  • 5 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 5 Michele | 3/14/2011

    " Must read if you have a daughter. Life changing ... "

  • 5 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 5 Danielle | 2/10/2011

    " Every woman and girl should read this book. Even though this book is meant for mothers of girls, I found it incredibly insightful to why I act the way I do, why I acted the way I did when I was a teenager, and how to be a good example for the women and younger girls in my life. "

  • 5 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 5 Leigh | 2/3/2011

    " Geez, this is me. Maybe I can prevent my daughter from some of my bad tendencies. "

  • 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5 Janine | 1/9/2011

    " enough take-away that i bought the book.
    there are helpful exercises in the back that i am going to try to use with my daughter.
    "

  • 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5 Charles | 9/5/2010

    " Heartbreakingly familiar. Useful to me both as a parent and a teacher. At times, I wondered if a book on psychology could be TOO accessible (would've liked a bit more evidence and a bit less anecdote) at times, but that's a petty complaint. Ought to be required reading. "

  • 5 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 5 Rebecca | 8/22/2010

    " Look for a blog post about this amazing book. It is absolutely a must read for every woman, mother and educator. "

  • 5 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 5 Michelle | 8/15/2010

    " Excellent book dealing with the pitfalls of trying to be a "good girl". Although it's aimed to women raising daughter's this book addresses many issues that revolving around both girls and women. Great book for discussion in book clubs and women/girls groups. "

  • 3 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 5 Tammyribbey | 4/20/2010

    " its alright. to much unneccasary info. long winded but good meaning. "

  • 5 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 55 out of 5 Catherine | 3/23/2010

    " An important book for every women to read and internalize. I realized that it portrayed the split in the feminine psyche which was a result of patriarchy. Women were forced to choose either accommodation or rebellion. We've been conforming to these polarities ever since. "

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About the Narrator

Christina Moore is an actress and award-winning audiobook narrator who has garnered fourteen AudioFile Earphones Awards. As an actress, she is best known for her roles in the television series That ’70s Show, Hawthorne, and 90210. She is a founding member of Bitches Funny, an all-female sketch group that has performed in New York City and Los Angeles for the past five years.