This captivating and deeply emotional memoir pulls back the curtain on the complex relationship women have between their bodies, love, and the way the two work together.
Kerry Cohen is eleven years old when she recognizes the power of her body in the leer of a grown man. Her parents are recently divorced and it doesn't take long before their lassitude and Kerry's desire to stand out—to be memorable in some way—combine to lead her down a path she knows she shouldn't take. Kerry wanted attention. She wanted love. But not really understanding what love was, not really knowing how to get it, she reached for sex instead.Download and start listening now!
"Everyone has a story to tell: about their shitty childhood, failed marriage, battle with cancer, a parent with Alzheimer's, but quite honestly, not everyone should share their story with the world. Yet people do, and the result is piles and piles of simply awful memoirs, that would be better served as pages in a private diary. Loose Girl is not one of these memoirs. Kerry Cohen is a talented, bona fide writer, who masterfully connects her story to the human condition, without the added benefit of drivel, tear-jerking, or cheesiness. As a teen and young woman, Kerry finds flashes of self-worth in sex with boys. However, the moment is always fleeting, and as with any addiction, the emptiness becomes larger, and more impossible to fill. Kerry is unable to identify with others, and does not see the pain similar to her own that is a unifying bond in the human experience. She only sees herself as needy, full of want, and overall, unlovable. I see my own younger self in Kerry's story, in her raw hunger for love and understanding, but I also see myself in her hard-won happiness."
— Christy (4 out of 5 stars)
Cohen's brutal honesty about her relentless request for companionship is refreshingly relatable.
— Entertainment WeeklyCohen recounts her harrowing litany of hookups through clear, poignant, spare-no-details prose.
— Marie ClaireKerry Cohen applies her legendary wit and sagacity to women's often subtly destructive dance with alcohol. With great vulnerability and dynamic prose, Cohen examines her own descent into the bottle, its ruinous consequences, and her courageous fight to find her footing in her real life again. This is a story you won't soon forget.
— Jillian Lauren, New York Times bestselling memoirist of Some Girls: My Life in a Harem and Everything You Ever WantedHoly mother of wine--finally a woman wrestles the story of what it is really like to be a woman away from what we've been told we are supposed to be. Kerry Cohen's Lush will light you up, crack you up, make you bawl, and most of all, allow you to breathe again. I'm beyond thrilled to read a book where a woman tells the truth without falling into the sap-hole of the sin-and-redemption narrative. There is no sin and redemption. There's just our lives, and as Cohen reminds us one truth bomb at a time, they are messily gorgeous. Move over Mary Karr.
— Lidia Yuknavitch, bestselling author of The Book of Joan and The Misfit's ManifestoI love this book. I am this book. Kerry Cohen has written a memoir that wrestles with the subtleties, the ambiguities, the sheer alluring horrifying real-life mess of mid-life alcohol addiction. For those of us wrestling with demons--and who isn't?--Lush is a solace as powerful as red wine.
— Claire Dederer, bestselling author of Poser: My Life in Twenty-Three Yoga PosesUnapologetic in that it offers no trite "darkness to light" narrative about alcoholism, Cohen's book instead offers a sharp-eyed look at what it means to be a midlife female unable to cope with either personal demons or the heavy external social pressures placed on women. An intimate and unsparing book of self-reflection.
— KirkusAs compassionate as it is enlightening, Kerry Cohen's Dirty Little Secrets argues for female safety and desire, and provides a road map for authentically healthy, vital sexuality.
— Jennifer Baumgardner, author of Look Both Ways, F 'Em, and ManifestaKerry Cohen has 'been there'-and it shows in her empathy, her insight, and her remarkable ability to draw out the truth...Dirty Little Secrets busts the myths, breaks down walls, and takes us where we need to go to understand the private lives of so many young women today.
— Hugo Schwyzer, PhD, Pasadena City College, Coauthor, Beauty, Disrupted: the Carré Otis StoryMs. Cohen's Dirty Little Secrets is a perfect catalyst for mother/daughter discussions. It is a safe place to start a scary talk about this issue so relevant to young women-and young men...At its heart, Dirty Little Secrets is a wake-up call. Settle in, relax, and embrace its shocking content.
— New York Journal of BooksServes as an engaging catalyst for discussions about a taboo issue.
— KirkusA strong beginning to an important conversation. An important book for feminist and social science collections.
— Library Journal" So, I just couldn't bring myself to really read this one. A friend was passing around an early release edition. The excerpts I did read were all somehow about unfortunate sexual situations. "
— Jill, 2/15/2014" This book really hit home for me, I can see a lot of myself in the author. She doesn't hold back on her experiences, she tells it like it is which makes it so much easier to relate to. Definately a book for adults due to the sexual nature. "
— Carol, 1/21/2014" If you like fairy tales, mushy windblown love stories and prince charming, this is not the book for you. Cohen lays it down raw and honest and thats what drew me in, what kept me flipping pages was how much I related. Awesome book that I never really set out to read but was grabbed by from the beginning. "
— Effie, 1/17/2014" I am a fan of memoirs in general, and I feel this book is a courageous one and a compelling read. I probably would have rated it a 3.5 or 3.75, were that an option. I appreciated its lack of artifice, its simplicity and its rawness. She never once says "sex addiction" because I don't know that it would be the proper term--maybe relationship addiction? As other reviewers have said, I think it could be a valuable read for anyone who works with teenage girls or who has or cares about someone who has similar issues. (Most of us know or have known someone who does.) Many people have written books with lots of sex scenes in them, but not many illuminate the reality of the "relationships" beyond the sex--the getting ready, the waiting, the consequences, the hanging on to a relationship when there's not much to hang onto, the always waiting for something better. Cohen lived an extremely privileged life that allowed many opportunities that she DID take--I would have liked the book to incorporate the ones she gave up, such as travel (as she mentioned in her afterword). Two criticisms--characters not fleshed out enough (I would have liked more of a sense of who the Jennifers were, for one), and the ending. It was much too abrupt. I'm glad she evolved into a happily married mother of two, but what made her husband different? How will her experiences color her own parenting? I was left with a lot of questions. By the same token, I was glad it was not all tied up with a perfect bow. I think the way the book ended illustrates the uncertainty all addicts face, and the reality that they can never completely stop working on their recovery. "
— Indra, 1/13/2014" This was a pretty good book...definitely a quick read. It wasn't a life-changing type-read, but I definitely respect the story and it seems that the author really used the writing of the story as a form of therapy for herself. All in all--good. "
— Moira, 1/7/2014" I can't say this was an interesting book, but it was short. I can see how many girls go through this type of thing, especially these days. Trying to find love in all the wrong places is something too many of us do. There is no 'helping' in this book. The author has sex with countless men up into she gets married. It just tells her story from the age of 14 until then. Sex, drugs, drinking. "
— Lorri, 1/4/2014" The girl may be loose, but this book is tigher'n a drum. Great writing on a sometimes uncomfortable and difficult subject. Huzzah Ms Cohen, Huzzah! "
— Dan, 12/20/2013" A book that hit close to home. Great read for anyone woman that tried to fill their lack of a father figure with men. "
— Keely, 9/20/2013" I wish every young boy and girl in our country was required to read this book... "
— Krismin, 7/2/2013" This was one of the most powerful books I have ever read. Every woman can relate to the story being told and I suggest that EVERYONE read it. I cried at the end, not even because it was sad, but because I could completely understand the was that "need" being described. Perfection. "
— Corie, 4/14/2013" A woman looks back at her life as she struggled with self-acceptance and tried to fill the empty space with men. "
— MMatchak, 2/23/2013" A sad but true memoir of a teenage girl who is constantly seeking affirmation from boys. It seems redundant at times that because she can't forgo the attention of a boy. "
— Kathy, 1/4/2013" Read it in 4 days. Couldn't put it down! "
— Maggie, 10/3/2012" An easy read except the font was small. I enjoyed Kerry's honesty and openness about who she had been and how she came to be who she now is. "
— Kathie, 10/1/2012" As a father, this book was troubling to read. I'm glad I did because it forced me to look at the relationship with my daughter. "
— Fitz, 9/26/2012" Truthful account of a girl desperate for closeness and intimacy, who has sex with dozens of men and boys in her teens and 20s. Frustrating, exhausting, and hopeful memoir. "
— Pinky, 3/9/2012" Kerry reminds me of myself when I was younger. (Not that much younger. When I was in my late teens early twenties) I used to find love by sleeping around hopeing to find someone to love me. Obviously it doesn't work like that. Quick read but also good. "
— Sheila, 5/5/2010" Terribly predictable and a waste of time. "
— Myla, 3/11/2010" Amazing. Changed my view of what I have done to women in my past. "
— Michael, 1/5/2010" Not much of anything...slept with alot of people. Did not care for how it ended...never really told us what made her change, except maybe she grew up? "
— Michele, 9/10/2009" Heartbreaking, compelling, very well-written. I read this in one day, and although her take-away as a promiscuous girl was extremely different from my own take-away as a promiscuous girl (in re: shame), she was able to relay the story in a way that made me feel her pain. "
— MariNaomi, 1/14/2009" In some ways I had a hard time connecting to the book since clingy people usually just annoys me but I can also understand her feelings since I kind of the same way (just not to the extreme she was). As a whole I would recommend this book. "
— Li, 8/6/2008Kerry Cohen is the author of Loose Girl: A Memoir of Promiscuity, Seeing Ezra: A Mother’s Story of Autism, Dirty Little Secrets: Breaking the Silence on Teenage Girls and Promiscuity, and the young adult novels Easy, The Good Girl, and It’s Not You, It’s me. Her essays have been featured in the New York Times’ “Modern Love” series, the Washington Post, Brevity, Literary Mama, and many other journals and anthologies.