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3 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 5 3.00 (102 ratings) (rate this audio book) Author: Carlin Flora Narrator: Karen Saltus Publisher: Gildan Audio Format: Unabridged Audiobook Delivery: Instant Download Audio Length: Release Date:
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Discover the unexpected ways friends influence our personalities, choices, emotions, and even physical health in this fun and compelling examination of friendship, based on the latest scientific research and ever-relatable anecdotes.

Why is dinner with friends often more laughter filled and less fraught than a meal with family? Although some say it’s because we choose our friends, it’s also because we expect less of them than we do of relatives. While we’re busy scrutinizing our romantic relationships and family dramas, our friends are quietly but strongly influencing everything from the articles we read to our weight fluctuations, from our sex lives to our overall happiness levels.

Evolutionary psychologists have long theorized that friendship has roots in our early dependence on others for survival. These days, we still cherish friends but tend to undervalue their role in our lives. However, the skills one needs to make good friends are among the very skills that lead to success in life, and scientific research has recently exploded with insights about the meaningful and enduring ways friendships influence us. With people marrying later—and often not at all—and more families having just one child, these relationships may be gaining importance. The evidence even suggests that at times friends have a greater hand in our development and well-being than do our romantic partners and relatives.

Friendfluence surveys online-only pals, friend breakups, the power of social networks, envy, peer pressure, the dark side of amicable ties, and many other varieties of friendship. Told with warmth, scientific rigor, and a dash of humor, Friendfluence not only illuminates and interprets the science but draws on clinical psychology and philosophy to help listeners evaluate and navigate their own important friendships.

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Quotes & Awards

  • “Contemporary scientists and ancient philosophers agree: friendship is a key to happiness, and Friendfluence is a fascinating and thought-provoking examination of the new science that explores this crucial element of our lives. Friendfluence  is so persuasive that the minute I put the book down, I made three dates to see friends.”

    Gretchen Rubin, New York Times bestselling author of The Happiness Project

  • Friendfluence provides a charming and informative examination of the impact of friendship at a time in which family relations and social structures have been scrambled…Awash in arresting insights with practical implications, many of them counter-intuitive…Timely, savvy, and judicious.”

    Huffington Post

  • “Flora’s interdisciplinary discussion draws on scientific research, philosophy, and anecdotes to examine friendship across a lifespan, from playground pals to adolescent and adult relationships…Compelling…Discloses many of friendship’s secrets.”

    Publishers Weekly

  • “Intriguing…A convincing case for nurturing friendships in many of the same ways we nurture relationships with partners and other family—both online and off.”

    Kirkus Reviews

  • “If you’ve been thinking of starting a book club with your BFFs, here’s your first assignment.”


  • “Carlin Flora has written a delightful book on the power of friendship. Combining the latest research with engaging stories, Friendfluence shines with authenticity and is a must-read for anyone who wants to know more about our ancient human desire to connect.”

    James H. Fowler, coauthor of Connected and professor of medical genetics and political science at the University of California, San Diego

  • “We tend to think of friends as relationships we simply have, when in profound ways, friends both reflect and determine who we actually are. Happiness and success begin with self-knowledge, and as Carlin Flora shows us in her compelling and delightful book, Friendfluence, the key to understanding yourself may well lie in your friendships, past and present. This is a must-read for anyone looking to experience greater well-being…in other words, for everyone.”

    Heidi Grant Halvorson, PhD, author of Succeed and director of the Motivation Science Center, Columbia Business School

  • “A captivating read about an eternally fascinating subject—friendship. Flora’s easy-to-read prose blends narrative and scientific research seamlessly. You will finish the book with a better understanding of why good friends are worth keeping.”

    Jane Gradwohl Nash, professor of psychology and one of the “Girls from Ames”

  • Friendfluence offers a penetrating look at our most taken-for-granted relationship. Carlin Flora’s observations, backed up by the latest research, will not only prompt you to dissect every key friendship you’ve had since kindergarten but inspire you to become a better friend.”

    Sally Koslow, author of Slouching toward Adulthood: Observations from the Not-So-Empty Nest and the novel With Friends Like These

  • “I don’t know about you, but I wouldn’t be who I am without my dear friends. Now Carlin Flora explains why and how friends matter so much. A fascinating read!”

    M. J. Ryan, author of This Year I Will

Listener Opinions

  • 3 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 5 by jen8998 | 2/11/2014

    " Fun survey of research on friends unfortunately lacks depth. "

  • 3 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 53 out of 5 by Jenny | 1/22/2014

    " Exactly what I was looking for. Good writing, not great though. I liked reflecting on the various stages of friendship, in different times in my life. An enjoyable read. "

  • 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5 by Phyllis Searles | 1/11/2014

    " Liked it...explains a lot about friendships and why/how they may dissolve/fizzle/implode. Wish I'd read this years ago.... "

  • 4 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 54 out of 5 by Kathleen | 12/26/2013

    " I thought the title, Friendfluence, interesting to say the least. My only complaint was that the topic broached was so meaty that I couldn't feel entirely satisfied with so short a book. But thanks anyway, Carlin, for validation that 'friends are the family we get to choose'. "

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