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Writer and performer on Late Night with Seth Meyers Amber Ruffin writes with her sister Lacey Lamar with humor and heart to share absurd anecdotes about everyday experiences of racism.
Now a writer and performer on Late Night with Seth Meyers and host of The Amber Ruffin Show, Amber Ruffin lives in New York, where she is no one's First Black Friend and everyone is, as she puts it, "stark raving normal." But Amber's sister Lacey? She's still living in their home state of Nebraska, and trust us, you'll never believe what happened to Lacey.
From racist donut shops to strangers putting their whole hand in her hair, from being mistaken for a prostitute to being mistaken for Harriet Tubman, Lacey is a lightning rod for hilariously ridiculous yet all-too-real anecdotes. She's the perfect mix of polite, beautiful, petite, and Black that apparently makes people think "I can say whatever I want to this woman." And now, Amber and Lacey share these entertainingly horrifying stories through their laugh-out-loud sisterly banter. Painfully relatable or shockingly eye-opening (depending on how often you have personally been followed by security at department stores), this book tackles modern-day racism with the perfect balance of levity and gravity.
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"Ifyou laugh half as hard as I did at the FIRST story in this book, let alone the rest of the book, you will havegotten your money's worth. The stories made me laugh and they made me sad. Iknow I'm not the only one to experience these kinds of moments but it helps toknow that someone else-poor little Black Lacey taking on the lion's share ofNebraska's white ignorance all by her lonesome- experiences it too. From themental gymnastics needed to call a black store dirty then drive out of state inorder to avoid said dirt only to wind up shopping in a sty operating in a whiteneighborhood to having the gall to try and holluh at black women on a datingapp when your profile pics have the confederate flag in them, Amber & Laceypoint out how white folks are apparently doing the most in them parts."
— Retta, comedian andactress (Parks & Recreation, Good Girls)
“[A] hilarious and eye-opening book.”
— Mindy Kaling, actress and #1 New York Times bestselling author“Hilarious, insightful, aggravating and comforting in equal measure.
— Salon“Featuring the authors’ razor-sharp wit and limitless brilliance.”
— Booklist (starred review)“Both maddening and funny, an eye-opening look at how its daily targets cope with racism.”
— Kirkus Review (starred review)“Will have Black women feeling seen and heard and will allow others to better understand the effects of racism…An excellent choice for book clubs.”
— Library Journal (starred review)“While the writing is consistently funny, the severity of the racism is never downplayed; Ruffin and Lamar show the necessity of embracing humor as a coping mechanism.”
— Publishers Weekly (starred review)“Amber Ruffin and Lacey Lamar are sisters and co-narrators of this hilarious romp through a series of unfortunate encounters with the racially ignorant. They take turns narrating their no-holds-barred commentary…Ruffin and Lamar are upbeat as they share their sharp wit.”
— AudioFile“Amber and Lacey have the gift of making you comfortable enough to laugh at events that will also make you cringe. This book is an opportunity for black people to know you’re not alone in how you’ve experienced the world…You’ll leave both with a laugh and a little more knowledge.”
— Roy Wood, Jr., correspondent, The Daily Show with Trevor NoahI dare you to read this hilarious and eye-opening book and not become obsessed with Amber Ruffin.
— Mindy KalingThe message of this book is for ALL of us and no matter why YOU'RE here -- perhaps you're a fan of Amber Ruffin's comedy, or a Seth Meyers' fan, or a personal friend of Lacey's, or maybe you're just a person browsing for a book that will help you understand the Black experience in America and the other ones seem too much like school -- I urge you to BUY THIS BOOK. The stories are delivered with the humor and horror they deserve. You will laugh, you will be enraged, and if you are a white person, you will understand more than you did before about the truth of being Black in America -- even if you thought you understood a lot already because you read the hard school books.
— Busy Philipps, author, actor,white ladyAmber and Lacey have the gift of making you comfortable enough to laugh at events that will also make you cringe. This book is an opportunity for black people to know you're not alone in how you've experienced the world. And for everyone this book is a chance to see a layer of this world that you might have been blind to. You'll leave both with a laugh and a little more knowledge.
— Roy Wood, Jr., correspondent, The Daily Show with Trevor NoahAmber and Lacey hysterically walk us through a minefield of empirically traumatizing events, finding a way to make us laugh while weeping for the state of our nation; a place where two brilliant women are made to feel that somehow it is they who are missing the mark.
— Natasha Lyonne, quadruplethreat, noted surrealistI dare you to read this hilarious and eye-opening book and not become obsessed with Amber Ruffin.
— Mindy KalingIf you laugh half as hard as I did at the FIRST story in this book, let alone the rest of the book, you will have gotten your money's worth. The stories made me laugh and they made me sad. I know I'm not the only one to experience these kinds of moments but it helps to know that someone else-poor little Black Lacey taking on the lion's share of Nebraska's white ignorance all by her lonesome- experiences it too. From the mental gymnastics needed to call a black store dirty then drive out of state in order to avoid said dirt only to wind up shopping in a sty operating in a white neighborhood to having the gall to try and holluh at black women on a dating app when your profile pics have the confederate flag in them, Amber & Lacey point out how white folks are apparently doing the most in them parts.
— Retta, comedian andactress (Parks & Recreation, Good Girls)The message of this book is for ALL of us and no matter why YOU'RE here -- perhaps you're a fan of Amber Ruffin's comedy, or a Seth Meyers' fan, or a personal friend of Lacey's, or maybe you're just a person browsing for a book that will help you understand the Black experience in America and the other ones seem too much like school -- I urge you to BUY THIS BOOK. The stories are delivered with the humor and horror they deserve. You will laugh, you will be enraged, and if you are a white person, you will understand more than you did before about the truth of being Black in America -- even if you thought you understood a lot already because you read the hard school books.
— Busy Philipps, author, actor,white ladyAmber and Lacey have the gift of making you comfortable enough to laugh at events that will also make you cringe. This book is an opportunity for black people to know you're not alone in how you've experienced the world. And for everyone this book is a chance to see a layer of this world that you might have been blind to. You'll leave both with a laugh and a little more knowledge.
— Roy Wood, Jr., correspondent, The Daily Show with Trevor NoahBe the first to write a review about this audiobook!
Amber Ruffin is a writer and cast member on NBC’s Late Night with Seth Meyers. She also became the first black woman to write for a late-night talk show in American history when she joined the staff in 2014 and was a writer and sometimes performer on HBO’s Black Lady Sketch Show. She is about to launch her own late night show, The Amber Ruffin Show which will anchor the new NBC streaming service, Peacock. Lacey Lamar, Amber Ruffin’s big sister, has worked in the health care and human service field for more than twenty-five years, with thirteen years working with troubled youth in her community. She volunteers her time and resources to black, brown refugee and indigenous fellow humans in any way she can.