In Codependent No More, Melody Beattie introduced the world to the term codependency.
Now a modern classic, this book established Beattie as a pioneer in
self-help literature and endeared her to millions of people who longed
for healthier relationships. Twenty-five years later, concepts such as
“self-care” and “setting boundaries” have become entrenched in
mainstream culture. Now Beattie has written a follow-up volume, The New Codependency,
which clears up misconceptions about codependency, identifies how
codependent behavior has changed, and provides a new generation with a
road map to wellness.
The question remains: what is and what isn’t codependency? Beattie here
reminds us that much of codependency is normal behavior. It’s about
crossing lines. There are times we do too much, care too much, feel too
little, or overly engage. Feeling resentment after giving is not the
same as heartfelt generosity. Narcissism and self-love, enabling and
nurturing, and controlling and setting boundaries are not
interchangeable terms. In The New Codependency, Beattie explores
these differences, effectively invoking her own inspiring story and
those of others, to empower us to step out of the victim role forever.
Codependency, she shows, is not an illness but rather a series of
behaviors that once broken down and analyzed can be successfully
Each section offers an overview of and a series of activities pertaining
to a particular behavior—caretaking, controlling, manipulation, denial,
repression, etc.—enabling us to personalize our own step-by-step guide
to wellness. These sections, in conjunction with a series of tests
allowing us to assess the level of our codependent behavior, demonstrate
that while it may not seem possible now, we have the power to take care
of ourselves, no matter what we are experiencing.
Punctuated with Beattie’s renowned candor and intuitive wisdom, The New Codependency
is an owner’s manual to learning to be who we are, and it gives us the
tools necessary to reclaim our lives by renouncing unhealthy practices. Download and start listening now!