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Sixteen-year-old Nomi Nickel longs to hang out with Lou Reed and Marianne Faithfull in New York City’s East Village. Instead she’s trapped in East Village, Manitoba, a small town whose population is Mennonite: “the most embarrassing sub-sect of people to belong to if you’re a teenager.” East Village is a town with no train and no bar whose job prospects consist of slaughtering chickens at the Happy Family Farms abattoir or churning butter for tourists at the pioneer village. Ministered with an iron fist by Nomi’s uncle Hans, a.k.a. The Mouth of Darkness, East Village is a town that’s tall on rules and short on fun: no dancing, drinking, rock ’n’ roll, recreational sex, swimming, make-up, jewellery, playing pool, going to cities or staying up past nine o’clock.
Living with her father, Ray, a sweet yet hapless schoolteacher whose love is unconditional but whose parenting skills amount to benign neglect, Nomi struggles to cope with the back-to-back departures three years earlier of Tash, her beautiful and mouthy sister, and Trudie, her warm and spirited mother. Father and daughter deal with their losses in very different ways. Ray, a committed elder of the church, seeks to create an artificial sense of order by reorganizing the city dump late at night. Nomi, on the other hand, favours chaos as she tries to blunt her pain through “drugs and imagination.” Together they live in a limbo of unanswered questions.
Nomi goes through the motions of finishing high school while flagrantly rebelling against Mennonite tradition. She hangs out on Suicide Hill, hooks up with a boy named Travis, goes on the Pill, wanders around town, skips class and cranks Led Zeppelin. But the past is never far from her mind as she remembers happy times with her mother and sister — as well as the painful events that led them to flee town. Throughout, in a voice both defiant and vulnerable, she offers hilarious and heartbreaking reflections on life, death, family, faith and love.
Eventually Nomi’s grief — and a growing sense of hypocrisy — cause her to spiral ever downward to a climax that seems at once startling and inevitable. But even when one more loss is heaped on her piles of losses, Nomi maintains hope and finds the imagination and willingness to envision what lies beyond.
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"Toews' coming-of-age novel about a teen girl struggling with her faith in an oppressive Mennonite community is at once funny and heart-breaking. Nomi Nichols is a girl who rebels at every point, dreaming of escaping her small town and the control of the Mouth - her uncle and head of the church. It would be easy to dismiss Nomi as just a kid hell-bent on breaking every rule and ruining her life with drugs and sex and truancy. But when Nomi's sister and mother both flee the town and the church, Nomi is the only one left to hold together the broken pieces of her father's life. She is both bitter and poignant in her dealings with faith, and Toews writes in a way that grabs the heart. The more control the church takes, the more her family spins out of control, and the entire book might easily be summed up in Nomi's words: "I think now I'd call it grief. It's hard to grieve in a town where everything that happens is God's will. It's hard to know what to do with your emptiness when you're not supposed to have emptiness." There are no easy endings to this story, but what Toews leaves Nomi - and her readers - with is hope. Small and fragile and impossibly difficult, but hope nonetheless."
— Heidi (4 out of 5 stars)
#1 National BestsellerWinner of the Governor General’s Award for Fiction Winner of Canada Reads 2006
In Miriam Toews' agreeably off-kilter novel, A Complicated Kindness, the sanguineous and sanguine are combined in Nomi Nickel.
— TLSMiriam Toews, the award winning Canadian author, embodies Nomi's voice with such an authentic and manic charm that it's hard not to fall in love with her. . . . A Complicated Kindness captures the struggles of a family and its individuals in a fresh, wondrous style. Despite this complexity of family tensions, much of A Complicated Kindness is pleasantly plotless. The looseness of Nomi's worldview, the sometimes blurry nonfocus of it, the unexpected sideways humor, make this book the beautiful and bitter little masterpiece it is.
— The BelieverPoignant. . . . Bold, tender and intelligent, this is a clear-eyed exploration of belief and belonging, and the irresistible urge to escape both.
— Publishers WeeklyWise, edgy, unforgettable, the heroine of Miriam Toews’s knockout novel is Canada’s next classic.
— The Globe and Mail Books sectionA Complicated Kindness is just that: funny and strange, spellbinding and heartbreaking, this novel is a complicated kindness from a terrifically talented writer.
— Gail Anderson-DargatzWhy the compulsion to laugh so often and so heartily when reading A Complicated Kindness? That's the book's mystery and its miracle. Has any of our novelists ever married, so brilliantly, the funny—and I mean posture-damaging, shoulder-heaving, threaten-the-grip-of-gravity-on-recently-ingested-food brand of funny—and the desperately sad—that would be the three-ply-tissue, insufficient-to-the-day, who-knew-I-had-this-much-snot-in-me brand of sad? I don't think so.
— The Globe and MailThere is so much that’s accomplished and fine. The momentum of the narrative, the quality of the storytelling, the startling images, the brilliant rendering of a time and place, the observant, cataloguing eye of the writer, her great grace. But if I had to name Miriam Toews’s crowning achievement, it would be the creation of Nomi Nickel, who deserves to take her place beside Daisy Goodwill Flett, Pi Patel and Hagar Shipley as a brilliantly realized character for whom the reader comes to care, okay, comes to love.
— Bill Richardson, The Globe and MailTruly wonderful. . . . A Complicated Kindness is . . . one of the year's exuberant reads. Toews recreates the stultifying world of an exasperated Mennonite teenager in a small town where nothing happens with mesmerizing authenticity. . . . Toews seduces the reader with her tenderness, astute observation and piquant humour. But then she turns the laughs she’s engendered in the reader like a knife.
— Toronto StarRight away we’re hooked on our narrator’s [Nomi’s] mournful smarts. . . . A Complicated Kindness is affecting, impeccably written, and has real authority, but most of all it is immediate. You—as they say—are there. . . . like waking up in a crazy Bible camp, or witnessing an adolescent tour guide tear off her uniform and make a break for the highway.
— Quill & Quire"A knockout novel. . . . There’s leave-taking in this book. But there’s wholeness, too. It is a joy.
— Jennifer Wells, Toronto Star"Now comes A Complicated Kindness, in which Toews’ deft hand combines aspects of her previous subjects—love, small-town politics, rigid religious parameters, depression—and comes up with something completely new.
— Leslie Beaton Hedley, Calgary HeraldA Complicated Kindness struck me like a blow to the solar plexus. Toews, somewhat like Mordecai Richler, makes you feel the pain of her protagonist while elucidating the predicament of her people, always mixing a large dose of empathy with her iconoclastic sense of the ridiculous. When she’s funny, she’s wickedly so. But the book has a dark, disturbing side to it that grows stronger as the story progresses.
— Pat Donnelly, The Gazette (Montreal)In novel full of original characters . . . Toews has created a feisty but appealing young heroine. . . . As an indictment against religious fundamentalism, A Complicated Kindness is timely. As a commentary on character it is fresh and inventive, and as storytelling it is first rate.
— The London Free PressToew’s offers up a wickedly funny new voice. . . . Nomi is wickedly funny, irreverent, intelligent and compassionate. Toews masteres the character’s voice and never allows her own to intrude.
— Fast Forward Weekly (Calgary)A Complicated Kindness works its way up to a powerful ending through the accumulation of anecdote and detail. . . . Toew’s sense of the absurd works brilliantly to expose the hypocrisy of fundamentalist kindness, a love in reality all too conditional. . . . A Complicated Kindness, at its core, is a depiction of the battle between hope and despair.
— Georgia Straight"A Complicated Kindness . . . looks like a breakthrough. . . . It is narrated by a devastatingly funny and heartbreakingly bewildered young woman named Nomi.
— The Bookseller (mcnallyrobinson.com)This book is as good as anything out there at the moment. But don’t take my word for it, take the word of your fellow citizens: It’s hit numerous Canadian bestseller lists. . . . [T]his is a well-crafted, witty, sardonic and ultimately sad look inside the world of Mennonites as they exist in East Village, Manitoba.
— Ottawa Citizen "From time to time . . . we are reminded of what we once saw in this cockamamie enterprise. Along comes book that stands out from the crowd. A Complicated Kindness is just such a book. . . . Miriam Toews of Winnipeg has delivered a new novel that has us all buzzing. . . . Ray is a wonderful character. . . . Miriam Toews tells her sometimes harrowing, often very funny story with total confidence. You’ll car about Nomi and Ray and you won’t want it to end. I promise."The narrative voice is so strong, it could carry the last eventful, least weird adolescence in the world and still be as transfixing. . . . Toew’s novel is a wonderfully acute, moving, warm, sceptical, frustrated portrait of fundamentalist religion. . . . The book is fascinating, and resonant, and inexorable.
— Saturday’s Guardian (UK)A Complicated Kindness is a delight from beginning to end. The humour might be of the blackest sort ('People here just can't wait to die, it seems. It's the main event.'), but the cumulative effect is liberating and defiantly joyful.
— Daily MailOne of my favourite books so far this year is A Complicated Kindness by Miriam Toews. . . . (A) sweet, sad, hilarious novel . . . The voice Miriam Toews has created for Nomi is utterly unique and absolutely convincing, and her adolescence in 'the most embarrassing sub-sect of people to belong to if you're a teenager' is at times painfully funny, and at others just painful.
— Suzie Doore, Booksellers Choice, The BooksellerNomi is a wonderful narrator . . . Original and poignant, with exquisite tone.
— Juliet Fleming, Booksellers Choice, The BooksellerCanadian writer's UK debut, the story of a teenage girl growing up in Manitoba in an obscure religious sect, who narrates her story in a lovely voice, fresh and funny.
— Star Ratings, The Bookseller"It is a complicated kindness indeed that gives us this book. Miriam Toews has written a novel shot through with aching sadness, the spectre of loss, and unexpected humor. You want to reach inside and save 16-year-old Nomi Nickel, send her the money for a plane ticket to New York, get her a cab to CBGB's on the Bowery and somehow introduce her to Lou Reed. It might seem an odd metaphor to use about someone who has authored such a vivid, anguished indictment of religious fundamentalism, but Miriam Toews writes like an angel.
— David Rakoff, author of FraudThe narrator of this novel, Nomi Nickel, is wonderful. She scrapes away the appearances in her small town and offers what she finds in a voice that is wry, vulnerable, sacrilegious and, best of all, devastatingly funny. This is Miriam Toews at her best.
— David Bergen, author of The Case of Lena S." Didn't finish the book but from what I read it wasn't my cup of tea "
— Ashley, 2/17/2014" sad...sweet...unusual "
— Mew, 1/24/2014" I really didn't get this book--about the only thing I learned is that the Mennonites were started by a guy named Menno Simon. There seemed to be a lot of angry people in this book. "
— Marilyn, 1/23/2014" The narrative voice that tells the story of "a complicated kindness" is highly compelling. She is sarcastic, honest and intelligent. Life is getting her down in a small western Mennonite town, and no wonder. Things could be better. I felt that the thoughts of a sixteen year old in crisis were very accurately portrayed and that the novel was indearingly funny and human. My favourite of Miriam Toewes works. "
— Heather, 1/21/2014" well written but subject matter was sad. protagonist was like a Mennonite Holden Caulfield. "
— Judy, 1/18/2014" Top book for me. "
— Ingrid, 1/13/2014" Funny and heartbreaking. "
— Fran, 1/11/2014" Not my favorite. Interesting to have a behind the scenes look into a colony, but I had to chew through it. "
— Reidjules, 1/4/2014" This book was so depressing. I am glad I read it but don't read it if you want something happy! "
— Becca, 11/21/2013" I was disappointed by the ending of this book. "
— Johanne, 10/24/2013" Small town Canadian fiction, really good. "
— Lisalou50, 10/9/2013" Really enjoyed the dark witty humor throughout. Quick read. "
— Tim, 10/6/2013" If you are a fan of the plot-driven novel, this is not your book. If, however, you appreciated character-driven novels, no one is better than Toews. "
— Erin, 9/30/2013" Not bad... the main character definately was complicated. LOL! I did empathise, but couldn`t relate at all. I was engaged throughout the book, but was not knocked off my feet. "
— Car, 6/7/2013" Deeply depressing but ironically funny in parts. I actually rated it 3 1/2 stars. "
— Teddy, 4/28/2013" Loved it....quirky, great narrator, dark humour, a must-read. "
— Susan, 4/20/2013" I have to say I was a little disappointed with this book. It was good, but the way it is written is a little confusing for me. Did manage to finish but not sure I liked the ending..... "
— Lisa, 11/22/2012" This book is by far the best I've read this year. Miriam Toews's power of description and sense of humor hit the mark. "
— Karen, 7/12/2012" Very entertaining and well-written, but not enough forward movement in the plot to keep me engaged. "
— reed, 6/19/2012" I have not gotten through much of it, it is ok, just not what i am looking for in a book right now. It is about a high school girl, around the same time I was a HS girl, still gives me angst! It is well written, and I am sure anyone else would enjoy it! "
— Denise, 12/2/2011" A compelling story. Had no idea where this was going. Y "
— Jodie, 10/12/2011" interesting story, well written.. "
— shelley, 8/12/2011" An interesting look at the life of a Mennonite girl and her family as they battle between their religious teachings and the pull of the modern world. You really get the feeling that this story has been written by a teenager in angst. "
— Tracy, 8/8/2011" This book was such a great ride! Alternately hysterical and tragic, a very original voice in this coming of age book. "
— Janet, 8/8/2011" totally enjoyable - i love the voice of the young girls in a segregated religious community. I want to go slooooow reading this to relish every word. "
— Annie, 5/20/2011" The strength to think for oneself. "
— Kate, 5/9/2011" A Canadian coming of age story of a girl who's mother and sister leave the family at different times. The reader isn't sure why till the end. It's a rambling sort of story where it's not so much as linear as flashes of memory. It was enjoyable and funny and I didn't want it to end. "
— Sarah, 5/3/2011" kind of a downer - I am still worried about the lead character though...hope she finds some brightness and sunshine soon. "
— Margo, 5/1/2011" I was hoping that this book would have more insight into the Mennonite religion as it had promised. "
— Misty, 4/28/2011" Cdn. Author, Governor General Award and Giller Prize Short list. A wonderful story of human emotions and the enslavement of a Mennonite community in Manitoba. I loved this book and the way the author exposed me to Canadiana that I wasn't aware of. "
— Greg, 4/13/2011" So well written and so wise. One of my favorite books I've read this year. "
— Jon, 4/6/2011" Meh, has potential but, lacks structure. "
— Bryan, 4/5/2011" April 6th, 2k11 - so far? I'm only giving this a 3. It doesn't really turn my crank. <br/> <br/>But I'm seeing it through - it's only 3 disks of audio. Something to do while playing some serious jig saw or maajong. <br/> <br/>........... <br/> <br/>Finished - and still feel the same way - a 3. "
— Carly, 4/5/2011" I read this quite some time ago and loved it. I am now about to start Irma Voth also by Miriam Toews and apparently a follow on to this book. "
— Judy, 4/3/2011" A beautiful book about a rebellious teen growing up in a stifling Mennonite community. Somewhat Catcher in the Rye-esque. Funny, heartbreaking, adventurous and real. "
— Terri, 3/17/2011" This took me a little while to get into, the rhythm is kind of different and, at times, for me, hard to follow, but I ended up really, really liking it. I don't think everyone would love it (though I know a few who REALLY would), but it's good. How's that for vague? "
— Heather, 3/15/2011Miriam Toews is the author of several acclaimed bestselling novels and one work of nonfiction, Swing Low: A Life. She is winner of the Governor General’s Award for Fiction, the Libris Award for Fiction Book of the Year, the Rogers Writers’ Trust Fiction Prize, and the Writers’ Trust Engel/Findley Award.