That's Not What I Meant! (Abridged): How Conversational Style Makes or Breaks Relationships Audiobook

" Consider trite pop-culture self-help to some, it really did help me understand some miscommunication problems I've had with people. "

" Like anything at all self-helpy, Tannen relies on some broad stereotypes of behavior. But, also, I think she has useful information to impart. "

" really awesome book about communication. deb tannen has a way of explaining your everday breakdowns in communication in a totally understandable way. great book, great author, makes you think while being a generally easy read. "

" I do not usually have the patience to read this sort of book. It turned out to be a collection of common incidents and ideas that put together make a lot of sense. Very practical, it was worthwhile reading. "

" I read this for a class and now I think about communication in a completely different way! I really enjoyed this book, despite the occasional chapters that seemed somewhat hopeless. It's not a self-help book; it's a self-awareness book. "

" Read a couple of Dr.Tannen's books while i was going through school and also saw her being interviewed one late Sunday night. Smart lady with great insights as to men and women in conversation. She told a story about her first marriage and that she had problems communicating with him. She ultimately divorced him and a few years later met another man and married him. The next thing she know is that the new guy is just like the other one! Dr.Tannen went on to say, it wasn't him that there was something wrong with it was me. He was speaking one thing that I didn't understand and I was speaking another thing that he didn't understand. I found this a very good tool in the business world and my personal life. Dr.Tannen is definitely on to something when it comes to what we say, how we say it and to whom we sat it! "

" This is a book about how people communicate and how, even when using the same language, different people read very different things into a conversation. It had a big effect on me as I had never realised there was quite so many layers to the topic. It is quite readable - not a dry textbook - and very interesting. "

" A great conversational book, I think that this book should be a prerequisite for marriage and relationships! "

" Distracted by outdated case studies and narrow interpretation through Western viewpoint. Would benefit from refresh to include more multi-generational and multi-cultural perspectives. Also, the final chapter may have served better as the introduction, rather than conclusion. "

" I actually had to read it for a class, but of course the linguist in me loved it! Anyone fascinated with linguistics/communication should read it "

" One of the best audio books I have ever listened. This audio book discusses a lot about the conversation styles in personal interactions. Very insightful with plenty of examples. I just wish that I came across this book a years back. "

" I enjoyed reading this book. It helped me understand myself and the people around me. I recommend this book to everybody. "

" Interesting. Some things are a little out dated, but worth reading. "

" Reprint of older title but still highly relevant. Some good insight into why miscommunication happens but not enough tips on how to prevent it or recover from it for me. "

" worth reading for ideas about metamessages, framing amd complementary schismogenesis - but I found much of it quite famliar already "

" This book explains a lot of misunderstanding in relationships, I think this book would be useful for North Americans, since there are different conversational styles in other regions (Middle East for example). "

" A bit simplified but easy to read - Deborah analyses how we communicate with one another - how we fail or achieve what we meant to get across. "

" A good introduction to how differing conversational styles can cause difficulties in relationships. "

" Must reread! These are the best. "

" Another college book I actually enjoyed. This goes under the list of books that engaged couples should read before they get married. "

" This book by famed sociolinguist Deborah Tannen considers how many linguistic misfires occur as a result of clashing conversational styles. A must-read! "

" This is the third Tannen book about conversation that I have read. You'd think that it would be boring by now - how much can she say about this anyway? It's just the opposite actually. The more I read her work, the more I take note of what I say and how I say it and how others speak as well. "

" Maybe the time I chose to read this book wasn't good. There are some useful information and one simple conclusion that could be read on the front cover. I believe everything mentioned could be summarized in no more than two pages. "

" As it says on the back of the book: "how conversational style makes or breaks relationships." "

" A great look into how we communicate not only with what we say, but in how we say it. It highlights the differences between men and women, northerners and southerners, etc, as well as how to recognize and compensate for these differences. "

" Fun, interesting reading; changed the way I spoke and listened. "

" This is well-written and clear with insights into ordinary conversation throughout the book. I currently assign it in an education class I teach at Concordia University, Ann Arbor. "

" A little dated at this point, but with interesting points about how and why communication within personal relationships can become toxic over time. I wish she'd taken more examples from real life, and fewer from fiction. "

" I enjoyed reading this book. It was an easy read and very easy to relate to. Tannen really makes it easy to relate the examples she describes. I definately recommend it to anyone who is really into communication or interested in why other think, talk, listene and communicate the way they do. "

" One of the best audio books I have ever listened. This audio book discusses a lot about the conversation styles in personal interactions. Very insightful with plenty of examples. I just wish that I came across this book a years back. "

" A great conversational book, I think that this book should be a prerequisite for marriage and relationships! "

" Interesting. Some things are a little out dated, but worth reading. "

" I read this for a class and now I think about communication in a completely different way! I really enjoyed this book, despite the occasional chapters that seemed somewhat hopeless. It's not a self-help book; it's a self-awareness book. "

" I do not usually have the patience to read this sort of book. It turned out to be a collection of common incidents and ideas that put together make a lot of sense. Very practical, it was worthwhile reading. "

" really awesome book about communication. deb tannen has a way of explaining your everday breakdowns in communication in a totally understandable way. great book, great author, makes you think while being a generally easy read. "

" The library called this one back before I could finish it . . . per usual. "

" This is well-written and clear with insights into ordinary conversation throughout the book. I currently assign it in an education class I teach at Concordia University, Ann Arbor. "

" Like anything at all self-helpy, Tannen relies on some broad stereotypes of behavior. But, also, I think she has useful information to impart. "

" I actually had to read it for a class, but of course the linguist in me loved it! Anyone fascinated with linguistics/communication should read it "

" This book by famed sociolinguist Deborah Tannen considers how many linguistic misfires occur as a result of clashing conversational styles. A must-read! "

" A little dated at this point, but with interesting points about how and why communication within personal relationships can become toxic over time. I wish she'd taken more examples from real life, and fewer from fiction. "

" Another college book I actually enjoyed. This goes under the list of books that engaged couples should read before they get married. "

" This is the third Tannen book about conversation that I have read. You'd think that it would be boring by now - how much can she say about this anyway? It's just the opposite actually. The more I read her work, the more I take note of what I say and how I say it and how others speak as well. "