Dr. Ross Greene, a distinguished clinician and pioneer in the treatment of kids with social, emotional, and behavioral challenges, has worked with thousands of explosive children, and he has good news: these kids aren't attentionseeking, manipulative, or unmotivated, and their parents aren't passive, permissive disciplinarians. Rather, explosive kids are lacking some crucial skills in the domains of flexibility/adaptability, frustration tolerance, and problem solving, and they require a different approach to parenting.
The Explosive Child is the highly acclaimed, lifechanging parenting guide in which Dr. Greene first delineated the Collaborative Problem Solving approach. Dr. Greene explains why kids exhibit challenging behaviors, why traditional behavior management strategies may not be effective for many kids, and how to use Plan B to solve problems collaboratively and teach your child the skills he or she is lacking.
As the model has evolved over the years, so has The Explosive Child, and it is available here in an abridged and updated fourth edition narrated by Dr. Greene.
Throughout this compassionate, insightful, and practical book, Dr. Greene provides a new conceptual framework for understanding their difficulties. He explains why traditional parenting and treatment often don't work with these children, and he describes what to do instead. Instead of relying on rewarding and punishing, Dr. Greene's Collaborative Problem Solving model promotes working with explosive children to solve the problems that precipitate explosive episodes, and teaching these kids the skills they lack.
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"It had a lot of the same concepts as the books "the spirited child" and "love and logic". I can envision this method working but lack the motivation to change. But need to before I lose all connection with my 5 year old. Basically it has 3 plans and given the circumstance which to choose. Plan A - would be the brick wall parent. I would use in times if its unsafe, unhealthy or morally wrong. Plan B - would be the back bone parent. Express empathy, define the problem and invite the child to help solve the problem. Plan C - pretty much pick your battles. Lower expectations to things that really are not life threatening. Is having matching socks really something I want to get in a battle with my child over? No. Running in a parking worth it? Yes! Then use plan b later solve together a way to keep your child at your side. I did feel better about not doing time outs. The effort and time and outcome I get from them are not worth the effort. I was also afraid of letting my child help in the problem solving would make me push over, but can see now that it will teach them to solve problems themselves and better for them in the long run than just having me tell them what to do and melting down because that frustrates them or they cant transition to something different as quickly as I would like them to."
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Kylah (4 out of 5 stars)