His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair-Proof Marriage Audiobook (Unabridged)

" It would've been better titled "His Wants, Her Wants". "

" I'm not usually into the man/woman relationship book thing, but this one was right on target in its thinking and advice. It also cut to the blunt core of what the needs of the sexes are, and why they so often aren't fulfilled...or are fulfilled by 'someone else'. Highly recommended. "

" This was one of those books that got an all-over-the-place reaction from me. Aspects of it matched up so perfectly with my own experience that I thought "this guy really knows what he's talking about". Overall, though, I was a little turned off by his insistence that all couples would achieve relationship perfection by--and only by--following certain strict rules (his insistence that couples only participate in leisure activities that they both enjoy, so as to be each other's primary leisure companion, struck me as a good way to suck joy and variety out of one's life and possibly make couples resentful and sick of each other's company). He does recognize that a lot of readers will share my reaction and tries to back it up with "this is what I've seen in my counseling experience despite the fact that my rules appear limiting". Still, I couldn't really get behind his strict rules except maybe as a short-term experiment. I also got a little more of a Better Relationship than Thou vibe than I would have liked, and a little tired of hearing "my wife Joyce and I have always done this". Despite my complaints, I think it's a worthwhile read for someone with a weakness for self-help/psychology and analyzing people and relationships. It would probably also be worthwhile for people actually experiencing relationship issues, although in that case I would take some of the suggestions with a grain of salt. I do think his basic premise is valid. "

" My friend who cheated on his long-term girlfriend recommended this book to me so right there I should have known it wasn't going to be good. Right off the bat I was skeptical of the antiquated relationship roles that are the foundation for his advice but still kept reading. I finally jumped ship when he started going into how women need to maintain their weight and appearance for their husbands and then gives diet, make-up, and hair advice. I guess if I ever get married, I won't be able to properly build and affair-proof marriage. "

" This is the single best relationship book that I have ever read. "

" The best book for couples I have ever read. "

" This book does the opposite of sugar-coating, going as far as to say that EVERYONE will cheat if given the right circumstances. Although I didn't always agree with what the book was saying, I liked the concept of preventative (relationship) maintenance. "

" Wasn't crazy about each chapter starting with a story about an affair, but thought the discussion about relationship needs was enlightening. "

" Great book! Found it to be pretty true and better understood than most. "

" I feel like David and I understand each other sooooo much better after reading this one. My mom and sister loved it too. It's a good one to have around. "

" This book gave me better clarity on how to love my husband more effectively. It also gave me understanding about how my husband is loving me and why. "

" A bit dated, but extremely accurate none-the-less. "

" This book is an absolute MUST read for any married couple, or anyone going to get married. It was so helpful in my marriage, it has completely transformed how we treat each other, how we speak to each other. I wish I had this book years before I did. "

" Great book for getting some insight and keeping your marriage strong and healthy... before problems have a chance to surface! "

" Should read this every year together! "

" I love these types of books and it was fun to have such a cute husband who would read this with me! We have a great marriage but this book has some good, specific things to keep in mind so we can keep our marriage strong and continue to be "irresistible" to each other. "

" This book was an amazing eyeopener to the different needs that women and men have in a relationship. "

" very good book for married couples or those in committed relationships. informative and thought provoking - if one is motivated and has an open mind. "

" I thought the book was really helpful. It gave really solid advice. I read it on our three year anniversary trip, and could see a lot of myself and Frank in the book. Highly recommended for anyone who is married, or thinking about getting married. "

" excellent book for any marriage at any time. learned a lot of things, esp when my husband and i prioritized the top 10 categories of a relationship. am definitely cognizant of areas where i need to be more supportive and in turn, i will reap benefits from him in being a better wife! "

" I totally already knew all this stuff. "

" Very good read. Would be helpfull for anyone trying to understand their spouse better. "

" It was interesting to see how men's needs and women's needs vary, and also how they intersect. Some good food for thought. What I learned will change how I pursue relationships. "

" I think this book had a lot of excellent insights, and it was really enjoyable to read. "

" Good concept if both buy into it. "